Feeling sorry?

[cheekychico56]

Does anyone ever feel sorry for themselves? I've been quite sad and feeling like things should be different. I was married in April of 2014 to a man who I had been with for 4 and a half years and was in somewhat of a toxic relationship. My husband had gotten physical with me a few times only while drinking but was also pretty controlling other wise. Jan of 2014 we had an incident at a friend's wedding when he was drunk and put me over the edge to where I filled for divorce. The divorce was finalized about a month ago. I have been seeing the same guy since may of 2015 and now we're expecting. Him and I had a rocky start but are doing a lot better. I guess I'm just scared for the future and I keeping thinking this was supposed to happen with my husband and not someone I've known less than a year. It's hard for me to shake these feeling and emotions. I speak to my ex every now and then and he has changed a lot in his life which makes me believe I've made the wrong decisions and compare the two guys. I just feel lost and sorry for myself. Not sure where to go from here.

[cheekychico56]

Thank you all for your words and encouragement. I do need to move on and that's all their is to it.

[Lee86lee]

Sometimes we move on to fast without giving ourselves enough time to heal. I think that's what is happening in your case. You moved to fast without giving yourself time to heal from your husband. Even if someone changes it doesn't mean they are the one for us. I have been with my boyfriend for 7yrs and he still haven't made plans to get married. I beat myself up all the time becuz I promise myself that I wouldn't have another baby by another boyfriend. I feel stuck now. What makes me live thru is knowing that I made my choice and I wouldn't regret it for anyone. I think you just have to accept your choice. Comparing the two men is only going to make it worse. If you have nothing holding you to your ex husband I truly think you need to let go. Give the man u chose a fair chance. How would u feel if he was still communicating with an ex. Until you are single again I think that is best. I wish you all the best.

[Kjens12]

Getting out of an abusive relationship was the best thing you could have done. My sister was in a similar situation and left and is much happier now. It's easy for men to paint a pretty picture of their changes, but it's not a risk you should be willing to take. If he did relapse, would you want your child exposed to it? Also, keep in mind it doesn't have to be one of those two men. Find someone who makes you truly happy and respects you! It's normal to go through feelings like this in pregnancy, so try to stay strong and look to the future.