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I'm 29 weeks pregnant with my second child and just found out I have gonorrhea. I am beyond hurt right now, this is my second child with the same guy and we've been together for 3 years. I know I never stepped out so this shows me that he did and not only did he give it to me im worried this may affect my baby. I'm trying not to stress myself out in behind this because I want my baby to be ok.I go to the dr monday to get treated for it. Has anyone else been through something like this?
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It's so much running through my head. If he knew something wasn't right why not tell me when im having his baby. We brought our new years in at the emergency room because I was having green dishcharge,they ran all kinds of test then my results came back I had a UTI. I got a 7 day antibiotic for took them for 7 days it cleared up but on the 7th day got a letter mailed to me from the emergency room telling me bad news.
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It's so much running through my head. After all we been through together this relationship didnt mean anything. I could kill his ***. If he knew something wasn't right why not tell me when im having his baby. We brought our new years in at the emergency room because I was having green dishcharge,they ran all kinds of test then my results came back I had a UTI. I got a 7 day antibiotic for it took them for 7 days it cleared up but on the 7th day got a letter mailed to me from the emergency room telling me bad news. Please please comment back someone.
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Sorry to hear that, hope you're baby  is ok, now doctors know how to keep then safe. What did you're husband said? Are you still with him?
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7721203 tn?1468446829
wow.. just WOW!! I'm assuming you haven't confronted him yet?

he may not know something isn't right.. he may not be showing signs/symptoms yet himself, and most guys are too dumb to assume they could EVERRRR get an STD & not know about it, so he probably was not thinking you had an STD at all, BUT he obviously should have come clean about sleeping around on you because I'm SURE you would have gotten checked out afterwards!!!

I just wonder how long you've had it.. when is the last time your OB/GYN did a smear?? do ya'll still have sex on a pretty regular basis? if so.. one, I'd stop! two, you need to see where he stands in the relationship.. with a second on the way, it seems as if he has a lot of growing up to do..
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7721203 tn?1468446829
just my 2 cents, I had my baby boy 10/20/14, and I plan on having more children with my fiancé..

well, if he gave me an STD, I can honestly say I'd PROBABLY leave him.. if he wasn't thinking about me or his children BEFORE he even took his pants off .. or better yet was alone with another woman .. I wouldn't want him anymore. maybe some people can handle it, forgive, and forget.. but not me. I've been through enough..
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I'm 28 weeks pregnant and throughout my whole pregnancy Iv only gained 5 pounds. Is there something wrong with me?
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7721203 tn?1468446829
no, I probably only gained that much by 28 weeks too & all was perfectly normal. just keep up with your appointments & you'll be fine. I gained most of my weight in the last 9-10 weeks! my baby boy was 7 lbs 13 oz on 10/20/14! ((:
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WOW! IM SO SORRY UR GOING THREW THAT I WOULD I HAVE BEAT HIM TO AN INCH OF HIS LIFE !!! I FEEL SO HURT FOR U ! I HOPE U N UR BABY ARE OK! IM SO SOREY MY LOVR U DESEVR BETTER !
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ok thank you and congratulations on your baby boy :)
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Thank y'all. Yes I've confronted him and all he could was look at me. He didn't know what to say. We got into a head arguement and I told him get his stuff and leave. The sad part about it we did not have sex often. We only had sex 3 times my whole pregnancy because I been at risk of having my placenta rupture like it did with my first child.. ladies please pray for me and my kids.. I know we will be okay its going to take time but god will see us through.
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973741 tn?1342346373
Ahh, I'm so sorry.  No explanation at all from him?  That is so hurtful.  The cheating, the STD, the end of the relationship.  I'm just really sorry you are having to go through this.  Big hugs to you sweetie.  
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Did you ask him when his "affair" was, so you can figure out if you were already pregnant and how long you may have had this STD?  When I read your post, I wept.  I went through some similar, but not when I was pregnant.  I understand your rage and the feeling of betrayal.  It is SO painful that your heart feels like it's breaking in half.

Have your OB doctor's told you whether the baby is safe from the STD?  Knowing if you got gonorrhea before or after pregnancy, could make a difference.  I am writing this without doing any research on the internet.  I should have looked it up before I wrote you.

I don't know you Leigh, but I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone, sweetheart.  There are literally thousands and thousands of women that have gotten STD's from cheating spouses.  With you being pregnant, what he did was much, much worse.  In my case the cheating happened with my "former best friend," after I was married to this man for 34 years.  Both of them left me with the Human Papiloma Virus at the age of 51.  A life long "sentence."  I am divorced now, but hope that you and your husband can try to work things out.  He definitely needs some counseling, then maybe you two can get marriage counseling together.

I am so, so sorry for what you are going through, Leigh.  I wish I could reach through the computer and give you a big, reassuring hug.  At least your STD can be cured.  My STD cannot.  My days of having an intimate relationship with a man are over, since I will always be positive for HPV.  I won't risk exposing any man to this.  Since there are so many "types" of HPV, I am just thankful that I have the one that does NOT cause cancer, as some of the other types do.

Warning Leigh, HPV is at record levels in the U.S. from what my doctor told me.  Make sure that you get checked out for that.  Even if you don't have any outward signs.  Want to make sure that you and that precious, innocent baby are safe.

God bless you, precious.
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Sending prayers for you and your children I can't imagine what you must be going through.
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My doctor order that I come in and get treated for it. So I went to the emergency room today and got my shot and antibiotics to help cure this STD. so now im praying that everything go ahead and go away so I can move forward in my life. My baby will be just fine it doesn't affect him at all thank god. I hate my relationship had to end like this but there is no way im staying and allow this mess to get it again or something worse. Its going to be hard to move on but i know god,my kids,and family will sew me through. Thanks for all the comments and I wish all you mother's the best of luck and may god be with you all.
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