Las name for baby

[Parentaladvisoryexplicitcontent]

I was wondering what will be the downside of having my daughter have her fathers last name. My ma warned me that if ever me and him break up then he will automatically have custody of her. We have a strong relationship and i hope that we never split up. I just wanted to know if its a good idea to have my baby have my last name or his due to custody reasons. I am not one that believes in child support either but i guess things happen where the man will have to provide some way some how i would hate to do it to him. I rather be like my mom who didnt put my father on child support when i was young.. Instead she left him in peace.. Cause i kno not paying child support can also lead to the father being in jail and all that stuff.. I wouldnt like to live without my baby either i want to be able to have her under my custody.. I wouldnt mind shared custody either.. Im just thinking ahead just incase he might leave me or i might leave him.. I just dont fully understand the whole last name thing and the benefits/downsides that come with it.. I was thinking of putting both our last names for her too but idk how that would affect anything as well. Can any of you ladies provide more clear info on last name for babies and its significance?!

[freddiesmum]

If you have a strong and open relationship you should talk to him about this last name thing. X

[MamaDreaa]

It's up to you , don't just do it cause "it's a honor " , everybody has different situations .

[xxtoria]

It's a honor for a father to pass on his last name to his child, so give him that right.

[MamaDreaa]

Staying together * or getting married

[MamaDreaa]

Mmmh it doesn't automatically give him full custody but it does give him automatic rights, if for any reason yall did split up. & things got taken to court , him having his last name would be much easier , if the baby has your last name he'd have to fight through the court . I know for a fact Bc it happened to my uncle & I've talked to many people about this because I wasn't sure about giving my baby his fathers last name either ... I'm playing it on the safe side & giving the baby my last name. You can always change it in the future if you guys do end up starting together or getting married !

[Parentaladvisoryexplicitcontent]

Aw thanks ladies for the support and clearing that up for me! I def needed it cause i was definately confused.

[Destynee2015]

Giving her the fathers last name does not give him full custody. As an unmarried couple, legally you as the mother have Sole custody. If he is on the birth certificate, he legally has rights to partial custody. Its best to work things out in a cordial manner if u two ever split up, that way u wont need the courts involved in what could have been a simple solution.

[xojensen_]

If you two spilt he would not get full custody due to her having his last name. My son is going to have my bfs last name id hope we never split but I'd never regret it. Of course if your bf didn't want to be in the baby's life then I could understand not giving it to her. Like I tell my bf the only down fall is ill be the odd ball out until he decides to propose ;)

[liyliy]

If you two break up she doesn't automatically go to him.  I think you should give her her dad's last name. Whatever  happens with you two doesn't make her his daughter any less

[jaynasaurusrex]

Just because you give the baby his lst name doesn't mean he automatically gets custody if you split. But to be on the safe side, you should probably give the baby your last name. If you two end up married later on, you can always have the baby's name legally changed. Or you can do both names. It really doesn't make a difference where custody issues are concerned.