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Loss of twin (long post)

When we first found out that we were expecting, my mind went directly to twin stuff. I had no known history of twins in my family, or his. But for some reason, that was the only thing I wanted to look at.

5 weeks later, we found out we were carrying two precious babies who were most likely identical because of their placement in the womb.

Less than three weeks later, we found out one of them (baby A) wasn't going to make it because she had anoncephaly. Our beautiful baby wasn't going to make it... And worse, if she died in an uncontrolled way, our other baby would die as well...

We had to make the decision to terminate our precious daughter (we found out the gender via amniocentesis at 16 weeks)

Now, over 18 weeks later, I can barely even look at the twin section anywhere. It hurts to think about. The worst part though, are the people that INSIST that I'm having twins. They insist that the other one must have been missed. They are meant to be innocent comments, but it hurts like crazy and makes me cry all of the time.

Sorry for the rant, I just felt a little overwhelmed and needed to write it all out. Thank you for reading this post
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I am truelly sorry for your loss my first pregnancy I lost twin b you are very lucky I didn't even get to know the gender. My baby was a disappearing twin just know that thats your precious angel. Everything happens for a reason it is going to be so hard to get threw being pregnant It was hard for me but i lost both sets pf twins and now i am pregnant once again. But I wish you a healthy pregnancy god bless you.  
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I'm so sorry for your loss prayers your way  
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I am very sorry for your loss :( there is this amazing book that might be worth looking into-- 'Spirit Babies'. I have been reading it and it brings a lot of peace at times like this. At the very least, it may be intestine if nothing else for you. I hope this helps. <3
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