Mainly just venting

[ebonyxo_]

I'm 20yrs old 25+3 pregnant with my first child and my baby's father is a lot older than I am (to say the least) anyway we aren't really together due to the fact that I don't trust him cause he's done so much sh*t but just recently we decided that we were going to work on bettering our relationship. I decided to work on my trust issues with him and he claimed he wouldn't continue doing the stuff that he's been doing. Well he went to Miami for the weekend and to totally blew all that "working on us" thing out the window. He posted pics of him and other females, grabbing their butts and what not then on top of that he makes a mistake and sends me a text saying "send me your address so can I come see you". I know we're not technically together but I still feel disrespected by that but he doesn't seem to care. I really don't know what to do.. Give me your input ladies.  

[OhHeyStace23]

to be honest it sounds like he doesn't want to be with you.those pictures and that text was not on accident ,he isn't stupid.. do not tolerate that from him and just keep it cordial do not discuss what you saw. just say that you are on a different page thand he is.being casual with men after certain situations like these always throw them off totally off.even though you may not feel like this when you talk to him just say "you know this isn't what I was expecting for relationship and I think I'm better off alone" tell  him that you will allow him to be there for your child and that you want him to support you morally and your child only financially, but nothing more.. be cordial and leave all emotion out, talk calm anf firm, no attitude.. I almost bet you hell be soo thrown off. and if he agrees happily be glad because his true feelings are out now wash your hands of it and move on. there is no point in hanging on to a scrub.. it will only cause you.more pain and heartache.in the.future. .. I hate to say it but us ladies pick the worst men and then.complain. about.them. .. and some say well he wasnt like this before.. well wtf how long did u know him before you started ******* him? ofcourse men ate nice,sweet ,caring attentive at first. they want to have SEX and sex only. Stop giving.it up so soon girlfriend, make a man work for you because. your worth.it.. !  me and my.hubby.didnt have sex until we.were.together officially for 8 months and he NEVER pressured me . not once. true story. thats.how I knew he was the one. I was 17 when I had my daughter and he has been the best father since I found out I was pregnant..never once ever giving me a hard time are making me wonder about his whereabouts not a single time.you deserve better and don't settle for anything less. most importantly your child deserves a good father

[GordonBaby]

Be done with it....stay civil for the baby's sake, but just be done. If he were serious about it, none of that would have happened. It's great that you wanted to try, but some people are just stuck in their ways and won't change or understand unless they want to. Keep your head up and keep your had straight forward. You know what you have to do to make sure you and baby are good.

[clawe00]

Ps. I'm only 23 and am blessed with a great hubby but he knows...on the day our daughter was born I told him if he ever hurts us or screws around ill make sure he never sees her again. All the nurses laughed but he knew I wasn't joking. As soon as she was born my whole goal was to protect her at all costs from anyone or thing that might hurt her. And sometimes a daddys actions or lack there of can hurt a lot.

[Kate037]

Good on you for trying to better your relationship to the best of your abilities. But honestly it doesn't sound like he's ready at all. And that text just sounds shady. I can't understand how people can text the wrong person when there are contacts in their phone to chose from. Buuut, that being said, if you aren't technically in a relationship then you have no claim over his actions, and he's just being him. I think you should either confirm a relationship or just drop him and only allow him in your life as a baby daddy. My two cents.

[clawe00]

I would totally not put up with that. That's irresponsible and just rude and disrespectful. You wouldn't want your kid to spend weekends with a dad who has different ladies over all the time or have you kid exposed to that behavior.  Especially if he can disrespect you like that by posting pictures he won't hide disrespecting you infront of your child...I would tell him to take a hike. That baby will show you more unconditional love with no strings attached than any guys will ever give you. And its way more rewarding than what he's doing.