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Me and my boyfriend have been on and off , back and forth like crazy for the past two and a half years that we have been together. We argue ALL the time. So we just got into an argument 5 minutes ago and after the argument he says, "I hope you aint pregnant, I swear to God, we need to do something about that!". In retaliation I said me too but it really hurt me. Im 5 weeks and we found out I was pregnant by an in home test, i almost wish I wouldnt have gotten pregnant by him because more than likely we wont be together always but I dont want to regret my baby. Im just feeling hurt and confused right now.
Thanks yall. So so much. I will take the advice and use it . I really appreciate you all reading and commenting because I am totally in and out of my feelings . I just want him to get it right. I want US to get it right. Relationship wise and family wise. Thanks alot!
You r so welcome ... we all go thru things , u just gotta be strong and hold ur head up
Even in healthy relationships, that aren't a roller coaster, men take a while to acknowledge that you are ACTUALLY pregnant!! They don't understand your mood swings, you're so sensitive out of no where, so irritable, and you cry over silly things! They don't know why you're so different.. it's hard for them because it's all over night.
The first 4 months my man and I fought to the point where I was ready to just leave and do it all on my own because I was convinced I would do this better than with him !! I stayed obviously but I realized that this is an adjustment for him too, and he is picking up on my energy and hormones and I was saying things that hurt him too.
Men don't get excited until later, haha in fact I didn't either, I was like oh I am pregnant but it didn't set in until I felt the kicking honestly...
I swear emotionally the first 3 to 4 months are the worst. The second trimester is the freaking best in every way for most women and their men :) the last one I just want him out. I digress,
I want you to know short term here there is light at the end of the tunnel...
You will fight. You will cry. You will want to leave and so will he, but just do what you can for this baby and make it the best you can. Do not stress, take bubble baths (not too hot) with candles, take a walk, breathe deep, and read a book or get into something that takes your mind away for a bit.. and come back into things with kindness like she said kill him with kindness. It totally works.
The first 4 months my man and I fought to the point where I was ready to just leave and do it all on my own because I was convinced I would do this better than with him !! I stayed obviously but I realized that this is an adjustment for him too, and he is picking up on my energy and hormones and I was saying things that hurt him too.
Men don't get excited until later, haha in fact I didn't either, I was like oh I am pregnant but it didn't set in until I felt the kicking honestly...
I swear emotionally the first 3 to 4 months are the worst. The second trimester is the freaking best in every way for most women and their men :) the last one I just want him out. I digress,
I want you to know short term here there is light at the end of the tunnel...
You will fight. You will cry. You will want to leave and so will he, but just do what you can for this baby and make it the best you can. Do not stress, take bubble baths (not too hot) with candles, take a walk, breathe deep, and read a book or get into something that takes your mind away for a bit.. and come back into things with kindness like she said kill him with kindness. It totally works.
Awww thank you so much for sharing your story with me and the advice!!!! Last night I wouldnt talk to him or anything I was so upset he got into bed and apologized sayin he didnt mean it and he was just mad but that didnt matter to me. So when I woke up for work this my morning he apologized again but I havent firgiven him because it just really hurt me. Idk maybe he will come around, I hope so
Im 18 years old and im pregnant with my first child , we have been together for 4 years ... he is the only family i have , my mom put me out wen i was 16 and i moved here with him and his family ... i found out i was pregnant wen i was tryna go to get in birth control , my bf was so mad that i got pregnant ... he wanted me to have a purposely miscarriage , he even threatened to put me out and leave me if i decided to have this baby ... we have been on and off since forever , even while im living here ... BUT he has came around , he apologizes for his actions , he talks to our son and tell him he loves him everyday ... i think he will come around for u , dont let wat he say out of anger hurt u ... ur hurting the little one as well be strong ma because ur the one thats having ur bundle of joy not him ... ur carrying that baby not him ... calm down and relax because things will get better :)
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Ok well thats great I will accept it. Thanks for the advice. Have a great night as well.
Well you have a blessed night I am gonna add u to my friends list :)
You really need to be alone so you will not be stressing it not good for you or the baby, then what you do with guys no matter how hard it is kill him with kindness he will be so confused and fell so bad he will wonder why your being so nice.It works trust me I have been married for 11 years.
I think thats exactly what I should do .
Sometimes its best to just take a good long break away from him sometimes when you are prego guys can be very annoying!
One moment I wanna cry and the next moment I wanna punch him in his face!
Thanks you guys! , im just sitting outside like you stupid *******. I wish I was more angry than hurt.
Don't let him ruin one of the most amazing time of your life, focus on you and your baby !! And ^^^^ she is right men are dogs !!
Everything happens for a reason sweet lady. Whatever you do don't stress even if it does not work out between the two of you babies turn into children and blossom into young adults and they bring so much joy and unconditional love its really a blessing. There will always be arguments and disagreements in a relationship. IG it works good, and if it don't good Gods got your back ;)
Men are dogs. Don't do something you will regret.
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