Self esteem vent! Advice? Comfort?

[Erika_W_5314]

I'm really struggling with my weight gain at the moment and my baby isn't even born yet. I'm almost 36 weeks and have gain 40 lbs so far and I'm dreading getting back into my regular wardrobe once he's here. Before getting pregnant I lost a bunch of weight and got rid of most of my bigger items and I never replenished my wardrobe. So now going into fall/winter I am limited in not only staple items in general but ANYTHING that will flatter my new body. I feel bad and kind of ashamed for gaining so much weight and I'm not even to term yet. My husband doesn't get it and I think he's under the impression that when I talk about a mini post baby shopping spree that I'm just thinking too much about myself and not enough about the baby and that it's all unnecessary fashion wants. I feel terrible thinking about it because part of me feels like getting anything new would be putting my baby's needs behind my own and that maybe that would make me a terrible mommy. I just need a few staple items but money is only going to get tighter and I don't want to add burden. I'm just so frustrated by my changing body and the unknown of what it will be like after birth. I feel huge. I'm excited and scared to become a mom but I'm seriously having some self esteem issues when it comes to my body and looking/feeling attractive. I wish my husband didn't get so impatient with me about it but he gets super snippy with me. I feel like I'm in someone else's body. I had to cut off my hair in a pixie cut  because the breakage from hormones was so bad. I have acne worse than my high school years and have hardly any clothes that will reasonably fit later. Gah!

[Pray4me2015]

Wow, I want to pinch your husband. How rude?

Look hair grows back and if it doesn't buy a sexy wig.

Acne can be fixed with a quick trip to a dermatologist. Besides it will cure itself post pregnancy.

As for clothes, window shop for looks and sizes,  then hit up Amazon or EBay or one of the mommy swap sites and get your wardrobe where you want it. I lost 24+lbs before I was pregnant, have no clue what happened to my big clothes and all my smaller clothes don't fit. I feel your pain. But just remember in 4 weeks the reason for all these changes with melt any self esteem issues away with it first cry and smile.

[shelbyminor]

Hi, I'm a ftm and I'll be 33 weeks tomorrow. I'm having some self-esteem issues myself even though I've only gained 22 pounds so far. I have a pixie cut also and I feel so unattractive. My husband is very supportive and patient but I can't help but feel ugly..Not posting this for attention but I know how you feel girl. I think my self-esteem got worse when I cut all my hair off real short but it was getting to hot from the weather and being pregnant. But hair does grow back AND I'm sure I will lose some of my weight after the baby is born in October. I'm trying to just stay calm and working on my self-esteem! By all means I'm not blaming my baby and I don't regret none of it. As women,we are very emotional well I am anyways but I'm working on it! My husband tells me all the time he loves me just the way I am and that's what I keep telling myself and it helps! (:

[figaro08j]

Wow. I was worried about my weight gain  but i guess i should be lucky. Am 27 weeks and still haven't gained weight.  Am just gaining what I loss in my 1st trimester. I have no maternity clothes from my 1st pregnancy cause my job at the time required me to wear a uniform.  Money is tight for me too and with my belly getting bigger and me having a different job i want to fell like a girl again. Us expecting moms happiness is important too because how you feel affects the baby. I  was thinking about goin to the goodwill and seeing if I can find a few things.  

[licia31]

O and my self esteem was so low and bad I wouldn't even like take off my shirt when I had sex with my husband he helped me alot get over it and friends giving me advice

[licia31]

I knw how u feel with my son I gained almost 80lbs! Took me a while to lose it but I only lost about half but hey it doesn't matter what size pants u r or number of pounds u weigh as long as u feel beautiful.  I pre pregnancy weighed 220 and now I'm 190 I'm ok with it.and if other people aren't they don't have to look At me and my husband don't judge either. And u should go buy ur self something nice that will make u look even prettier! :) stay strong I knw it's hard

[Autumnbeez]

I gained 48 lbs with my first born, 27 thanks to gestational diabetes with my second. And I'm 33 weeks with a 31 lb gain with this one. With my first Isomehow lost all but 10 lbs with in the first week.Just ttry not to get discouraged I know it seems like alot of weight but you will loose quite a bit after the birth and even more if you breast feed and stick to a healthy diet. The acne should go away after your hormones balance out. I've been using proactive and it helps me tremendously. And don't feel bad if you buy a new outfit, after all you are going through so many changes physically and mentally and something like buying a new outfit makes us girls feel good and you deserve it!!