Stress

[chely716]

Im 30 weeks pregnant and im stressing ugh i have no idea what to do anymore i just wanna quit and give up on everything , my husband is the only one working i stay home everyday and financialy were not doing so good i dont know how to help him all he does is stress every day and takes it out on me i feel so alone and broken down because im the only one thats basically taking everything and i try asking constantly how could i help and he says nothing im just so done with everything does anybody have any idea what i could do , im just so upset and depressed i cant even go to him without stressing him out even more im loosing my mind what can i do someone help me out ?

[pjescanakula]

Are you able to work right now? There are lots of seasonal holiday jobs that are temporary.  Do what you can to help him,  see a counselor of you can,  if you go to church they are free, or if you have insurance to pay for it.  Sometimes there are community services.  Find ways to cut expenses wherever you can.  There are lots of suggestions online. Lots of ideas and methods online on how to manage stress.  There are a lot of resources out there.  But take a deep breath,  try to find time to relax for a few minutes and then use it as motivation to find solutions.  Do not take any abuse however,  if this is that kind of relationship leave asap! But if not,  your husband should be willing to find a moment sometime when he's not too stressed to talk and work on finding solutions, he wouldn't want the stress to harm you or the baby and the best way to do that is communicate honestly and find time for each other.  Work as a team to find solutions.

[Trimisha]

I can relate on so many levels. I'm going through the same in my household EXCEPT my husband don't complain. I'm the one complaining and stressing. This is our third child,I'm use to working as well not just my husband. My husband holds down the household and I held down the kids. But because of my health and my pregnancy I really can't afford to work right now. So mentally im not taking it well causing me to stress out and stress my husband out. All I can do is pray and let it go. So babygirl the best advice I can give you is to pray and leave it in Gods hands the best is yet to come.

[m_p_baby]

I suggest you do things that calm you down.  Go for a walk,  listen to music,  paint,  knit... Whichever.  When he is home,  just make sure he has what he might need for the night (dinner,  lunch ready etc)  and then just try to stay out of his way.  Now I am not saying this because you're a woman and you're home.. I am saying it to avoid stress to you and your baby.  Lack of money always causes fights and arguments... I've had share of my own at one point.  I choose to quiet it out... Do my part of what I can and honestly... In my personal opinion -  he's a man.. A father.. He is supposed to be able to provide.  If he is not making enough.. Might be a time to look into another job... Move somewhere cheaper.. Cut out things u guys might not need so save some.  Having a baby does not make stuff easier nor cheaper... Its a little amazing expensive bundle of joy (saw & heard from close family) as I am just expecting my first.  Please for yourself and the baby.. Just calm down.. Breathe.. Just do your best to give in as much as u can. But mostly just breathe... My favourite quote is "this too shall pass"  :)  and it will -  it always gets better.