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I don't want to be judged, I just need to clear my mind and vent. Talking to strangers is much more satisfying than family or friends. So here it goes... I just feel lost, and i'm 5 weeks away from my due date. I don't regret my daughter in the least bit, but i'm wondering if I made the right choice. Me and my boyfriend are so far behind on everything. Rent and electric are late, he has another child in which the mother is constantly on his *** wanting at least 100$ a week for him to even talk to his son. We don't have any means of transportation besides cabs, which charge you an arm and a leg. And to make things worse he might go to jail for a bench warrant, he has fines to pay for tickets and the cops showed up looking for him, I got scared and said I didn't know him. I shouldn't have lied, but I don't want him to be in jail for our daughters birth. And i'm not working, so I would also have no place to go with my newborn and no money to support her. I am so scared right now, I don't know what to do. Everything is piling up, and my anxiety is so high. I just can't stop crying. I want my daughter to come into a happy life, but I feel as if i'm letting her down already.
I agree with rockrose. Don't let it get even worse. (Which it will if he gets locked up and you guys have no income at all) sorry you're dealing with this and I hope it all works out.
I agree with rockrose. Best to step up and get that stuff taken care of. It's scary but hiding from it will only make it worse for you guys. Also you qualify for so much help mama! Medical insurance food stamps, child care, WIC! Get down to your local DYCF office or look it up online (in NH you can apply online and send all of the proofs in the mail) and you get approved fast. One step at a time and breathe! You can get this stuff done and you will so much better to get it settled. It'll be okay:)
You need legal help, and he needs to turn himself in. This will only get worse when they finally catch up with him, and I don't know how you will cover the fact that you lied about knowing him - although maybe that's not a serious crime. Call your county free legal help organization and work on getting him cleared legally. Simple late traffic tickets aren't a big deal, legally, but it will cost money. It's better if he doesn't have to be arrested.
You can get assistance with everything! Especially since you are pregnant! Assistance for housing, bills, food, clothes, baby supplies, even with a job. You need to research and reach out to your community. DHS, Health dept, wic, Catholic charities, churches and many other organizations!
I know if he does go to jail, it's not for too long. Maybe a month. But that means losing everything we worked hard to accomplish. But it upsets me, cause he works so hard for us and he still get the short end of the stick.
Thank you all for kind words! My family has already made it clear that i'm on my own, and they won't take us in,which I understand cause i'm an adult now and this is the path I chose. I'm going to have to sign up for benefits, I just wish I knew sooner, due to there being a waiting list for almost everything and right now it's down to the wire. She has most of what she needs, I still have a baby shower next weekend which i'm so glad to be having and grateful cause I don't have everything yet. I'm trying so hard to stay strong for the sake of my baby, but i'm just breaking down. I had a great childhood, and never went without what I needed. The fact that my daughter isn't going to have that as well right now, is breaking my heart. Eventually I know it's going to get better, but that hope isn't making me feel better right now.
Its gonna be hard but yu can do it everybody have they ups and downs i know i do an sometimes i cry an break dwn about it but always get rite back up its gonna be okay.sometimes yu go thur stuff just to make yu stronger an wise before that next chapter.
You're so right. It just really gets me irritated because I would never just talk out my butt to make anything sound good. You feel me? Lol this girl is really going through a difficult time and I just want the best for her and her child. I would never want to mislead anyone in a direction that hasn't been helpful to me. But you're Right girl, sometimes I just need to shake it off and let God deal with it. All I can do is pray.
Pray thur all things wen your down to nothing god is.always up to something he gonna make a way just belive its all about faith take everything one step at s time
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@mrsjohson aw good and that is so true i have listen to those other tracks too there good:) & there is always going to be people who not have faith in the lord and speak foolishness thats why i let those comment gp over my head as them people don't move forward thinking negative x
Who says that? You... why would I give this girl who's going through a difficult time some bad advice? That's just silly. She doesn't have to listen to what I say but I will continue to say that God will provide the way by any means necessary. He's been there for me and he'll be there for those who believe and seek. It doesn't hurt trying to put your trust in a higher power. Anyways I'm not trying to go back &forth on this because you are entitled to your own opinion. I just wanted to offer some advice that has helped me through it all. You saying what you said no offense doesn't help her as much. I think if she was anyone's friend on here we would all take her in in a heart beat. And I'm pretty sure she has thoughts of friends and family. Silly.
Try callomg around to get help for utility bills they have churches and small companies that will help if you have medicaid they will take you to doctors appointments... Keep your head up .....
Do you have family that can help or friends that will lend you money?
Have you had a baby shower to help support the baby in the things she will need ??
Do you have family that can help or friends that will lend you money?
Have you had a baby shower to help support the baby in the things she will need ??
God won't pay for bills, put a roof over your head or put food in your stomach. Do you have friends or family? If you were my friend I would take you in in a heart beat!
Girl I love him. Listen to a song Marvin Sapp praise him in advance &never would have made it. He's really good. Got me through a couple things. Glad that God is faithful to us, we need to see above the problem. The Lord is with us all. We have to have faith some where, what do we got to loose? Any who God bless y'all all. And remember keep your head up. You got this!!!
I'm so sorry. I need To Go Apply For Wic and Food Stamps. And if you don't have it insurance. You can also apply for assistance that helps u with rent. If u don't plan on breastfeeding, formula is so expensive and wic covers more than just that. I understand u being stressed. I have a 3 month old and I stress about money all the time. I'm sorry about your situation. I hope everything works out so your bf can be there for the birth! I'm sorry I wish I could help u more...
@mrsjohnson that is so true i had a rough patch nearly my whole pregnancy but god helped me through it even though i was broke and was in debt and went through alot of other dramas and upset he got me through it i listened to gospel when i was feeling low a guy called (Marvin Sapp-in his hands) that song helped me when i was worried and was giving up but now i am 39 weeks tomorrow and lifes alot better ive moved house few months ago i now have food in the cupboards and all my baby clothes but what i am planning to do is send all my babie clothes once she has grown out of them to people who are in a struggle x
Im not sure if in your country you can claim any money whilst out of work??
Or if there is any organisations you can look for that help people in need because here in the u.k if behind in rent we can get a little help and also claim benfits to buy food and electricity and also mother and baby units for, mother and babies to stay whilst they get on there feet and find a home x
Or if there is any organisations you can look for that help people in need because here in the u.k if behind in rent we can get a little help and also claim benfits to buy food and electricity and also mother and baby units for, mother and babies to stay whilst they get on there feet and find a home x
It's supposed to say "get on ur knees" dnt know what's goin on with my phone..lol
Get on Iraq knees and pray... God makes a way out of no way... I'll be praying for u sweetheart... this is only a little rain storm the sun shall shine again.. gudluck
Hey God is with you and he will provide the way. Hey will lead you and guide younjist have faith and know that things will work out. You've made the right decision as of keeping your daughter, I'm sure they have shelters and programs for mother's. I'm actually In a situation where I gotnkickes kicked out my mothers because I'm pregnant I have legit no where to go in a week I need to be out. But I know there are resources out there to help mother's like us that are struggling. Look into that talk to your doctor maybe she or he can direct you in the right way. I will be praying for you. I know God will provide and guide you. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, we are going to struggle & be uncomfortable. But it will all pay off I know it's hard to be positive through it all right now but your mind is very powerful so try to overcome those worrying thoughts and try to replace them with solutions And positive ones. Maybe God bless you. You got this. I know you can do it.
And I feel so guilty that all of the stress is on him since he's the only one working. I can't sleep anymore, I just don't know how to fix any of this before the baby comes.
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