Would it be selfish? (Kind of a long rant...)

[KaitlinMarie]

Last night I went and hung out with my childs father for the first time in 3months. Everything was going fine. We were sitting on the couch when all the sudden he says "You should move in"...I was completely shocked. We have only known each other since last summer. And every time I brought up dating before I was pregnant he would say "No, dating is over rated" or "Im just having fun, I dont want tied down". So my first responce was no. Oh boy did that **** him off. And now hes talking about how he is gonna call an attorney and how hes gonna make life miserable for me. I never said he couldnt see her or anything. Up to this point, my mom has been there more then he has. So you can see where I have a right to say no. But at this point, I have bought everything,I have gone to all appointments alone, he critisizes every name I give.

Would it be selfish to just say eff it and name her without his imput? I mean Im doing everything else without him...

Im just frustrated i guess...thanks for letting me vent...

[polgara437]

I think you should try to have a conversation with the baby father about why you said no. Explain that you been doing everything yourself and yall hadnt been dating or even seeing each other in months and you dont want to rush into anytjing for the stability of your baby.also make sure he knows you have no intentions of keeping baby from him so maybe you wont have to deal with the whole court thing unless you decode to take him at some point just because him taking you is added stress you dont need. Maybe if you talk it al out you and him can date and work toward being together as a family someday. Or you can talk and decide not too but to work out a planthats good for all of you for the babys sake.
And about the name if he is maoing it to hard for you to choose and shooting ever name down but not helping find one then yeah decide onyour own, but then again if you have the other conversation with him I mentioned fistt maybe he will be more helpful in naming. Good luck

[Niqueniq]

No I named my son myself because his father hasn't been there at all so he has no say so if he wanted a say so he should of been there

[AshleyDMcCaig]

I'd choose her name myself, if he doesn't like it, tough poop!!! An attorney won't do much for him but get him visitation and maybe 50/50 custody, or you could push for just residential and you have primary custody. Most states are Mother states and want the child with the Mom.

[Emi10172013]

No it would not be selfish the way I look at it if the man is there and helps out he has every right to help with the naming process but if the mother is doing everything by herself as you are then that is your baby and you name her whatever you like