Aa
about to cry :'(
Ok I'm a softie I understand buy I'm about 23 weeks pregnant and every time I visit my parents my dad makes me feel so small and insignificant and llike I'm lower then dirt. my older sister had her baby a year before she got married and she didn't get this much **** for it :'( I even asked her if dad wwould be on me for being pregnant without being married but engaged and she said he wasn't with her and if anything he'll be happy because at least I'm engaged and pregnant when she wasn't. ever time I see my dad he gets on me and I tried to talk about baby names with him and ask him some questions and after awhile I got tired of crying or feeling like crying but waiting to leave his sight to do it and I went to calling but I still get the same thing only I can hang up the phone? he says things like God can't and won't bless you for this, you'll never get into the kingdom of God with everything your doing, or why should I help you? you stepped out of God's grace. am I over reacting or something because I'm at the point where I don't even want to talk to him or anything and I don't want him around my baby with his negativity I'm 23+ week's and I've been getting this since the beginning.
I dont care who it is.. I would never let anyone disrespect me or make me feel small. Especially about having a baby. Your baby comes before anyone else now. Even before yourself. Your baby feels everything you are feeling. So if I were you I would just remove myself from that situation. You have your fiance and his family now. Thats more than some other women get. And im sorry to sound harsh.. but you sound old enough to not need your dads help. Its a tough world and not everything is going to come easy. Its up to you to show your child how to be strong. But you wont be able to do that if you're letting one person break you down. I know its sad to let someone you love go. But it sounds like whats best. We're all human and we all deserve respect. And we all need to set limits and boundaries so people dont walk all over us. Your dad can either come around or not. As long as your baby has a strong happy momma.
Im sorry to hear all you are going through during what should be a joyous time for you, but just be reminded that earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot heal. Read St.John 8:7 and Ephesians 6:1-4. Verse 4 is especially for your dad. There is nothing that we do that takes God by surprise. That's why he sent Jesus to die for our sins. It was coverd by his blood at calvary. Remind daddy of that. I will be praying that God gives him a change of heart. Surround yourself with positive people. You need it now more than ever. ☺☺
im 16 and pregnant and my mom has been supporting me sence the beginning . i was afriad to tell the rest of my family because they judge real quickly and i dont think its good for my baby if im stressed all the time .
I would not be around him. Ur baby's health comes 1st and u crying all the time is not good for the baby! Ur baby feels everything that u r feeling, Remember that. And as far as God, I'm a Christian and we r not perfect we make lots of mistakes to! That's why we have grace! Ur father, I'm sure made lots of mistakes to, he just won't tell u. Ur salvation is between u and God. Not ur dad. Stay healthy for u and ur baby, away from ur dad, he'll come around later.
Babies are little miracles from god. All things happen for a reason, as a so called "man of god" he should not be so judgemental. If you weren't supposed to get pregnant you wouldn't have, period. It took my now husband 5 years to get this far (16 weeks now). I believe that those years of ups and downs was a test for us. Maybe this is a test for you and your fiance. I know you want your father's approval but if he refuses to accept this miracle into the family maybe you need to take a step back for a while. Give him some time. You don't need that extra stress right now, you need to focus on your new growing family. I hope I could help. Good luck and god bless.
He's probably just upset that you got pregnant young and unmarried, some dads are like that. He shouldn't judge you so harshly and not your sister though, that's not right. Maybe he held you in highly esteem than your sister, expected more out of you than her, and when he found out you're pregnant, his little girl view of you came crashing down. You really need to talk to him though, adult to adult. No crying, no whining, and find out why he's so harsh on you. And yeah, if he says you're going to hell, just say, " well at least I'll have a familiar face with my sister. "
Tell him that he's not god and him judging you is a sin. Only god can judge you and have the final say so. Or be a smart *** and tell him that when you go to hell at least you'll have your sister with you.
he's my dad it would be disrespectful to back talk to him or to do anything about it and he says he was just as hard on Linda my older sister but she said he wasn't and when he asked her in front of me she agreed with him that he was just as hard :( so she's lying to someone here but she won't say who and debts she Saud anything like that to me and now my parents won't help me with anything I'm almost completely on my own on my side of the family and his family is so supportive and my finances ex's family is more supportive then they are :'( I just don't know what to do
You're not overeacting at all. Did you ask him why he's being so harsh on you and not your sister? I really think that you have to stand up for yourself. I finally started doing that and my family has been much nicer now that they know they can't walk all over me anymore.
Well so far I haven't been hormonal unless it comes to my adopted son landon then I get told I'm over protective and things :/ but that's about. it
And no...you are not over reacting. Its a tough thing to deal with. And the crazy hormones to go on top!!
Its hard when your Dad isn't happy with you...especially about something like this!! Give it some time, I'm sure your dad will come around.....mine did :)
thanks I just wanted to know if I was overreacting because my fiance says he thinks I'm underreacting and our room mate says I'm to over about it
Tell him that if God can forgive for worse things, then he needs fmto forgive you for whatever it is that is making him so upset. A child is the greatest gift anyone receive. Being religious he should understand that. Good luck sweetie!! And congrats :)
I've told him I don't appreciate it but then he says he doesn't appreciate it that I'm pregnant either and things like that and I live about 45 minutes away just visiting is a hassle because it's all uphill
Tell him to stop disrespecting you! & if he won't, stop being around him.
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