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I guess I just need support idk what to do. I'm 8 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend just broke up well I broke up with him. When he gets mad he would hurt me twist my hand slap me push me drag me always something different. But he blames it on me and says its my fault that if I wouldn't have made him mad then he wouldn't have done it. One time I slapped him because he was screaming in my face which I felt horrible about and he choked Mr and threw me on the floor and then other times it was just an argument and he hurt me . once I threw ice at him and he punched me in the back of the head. He says its my fault is it my fault? I broke up with him today on my birthday I just need support idk what to do.
Sorry hit the wrong button. Anyway to sum up what I was going to say. You did what you had to do at that moment to get away from him. That is not wrong. Evidently the one who made that comment has not been in that type of situation. And as for keeping him from his kid. Document everything if you haven't already. And if the courts don't listen then call child protective services. They can help. And if need be they can also help in placing you in safe housing.
You are right to leave him. For your safety and the baby. And as for you having to use violence to get out of a possible life or deatj
CALL THE COPS AND REPORT THIS PIECE OF SH!T..you are right he could kill your baby so why haven't you reported him!!!
^^^I Slapped him out of anger yes which I regret and have apologized for I was trying to get away from him and get out of the apartment and he wouldn't let me get out so I slapped him. I'm not saying that makes it ok but I didn't do it to hurt him. I did it in total panic i eas scared and he wouldnt let me out. When I was throwing ice we were half laughing it started out as a joke then he got mad and a piece accidently hit his face I was not aiming at him at all and he thought I did it on purpose and he hit me. I honestly would prob have let it go. but I'm pregnant and he slammed me by my throat into the wall and pushed me down other times I've been dragged across the floor for no other reason than he didnt want to hear the music i played on my phone.he could kill the baby doing that....
I think you should get some anger management counseling - as soon as possible, before you give birth. He isn't the only one who was being physically abusive. You slapped him when he was yelling? You started a physical fight? You threw something at him because you were upset? Who's to say you aren't going to slap your baby when it won't stop crying? It's all very well and good that you broke up with your abusive boyfriend - that sounds like it was definitely the right choice. But now your goal needs to be making sure your child is protected from harm - and you are not innocent of causing harm.
Ibethiswithchild Read again! She did say that she broke up with her boyfriend. So she actually is thinking about her child, how about not being so rude and actually be supportive!!
Do not feel guilty about leaving and definitely don't think twice about calling the police. It's obvious he's playing mind games. If he wants to see his baby, his attitude will have to change otherwise I'd say report him to the police now to get both you and your baby protected. Also, I do not think he loves that baby because if he does, he would not treat the mother of that baby the way he's treating you. I'd say well done for walking away and please now is not the time to look back. You're a hero and should feel good about the decision
You've done the best thing by leaving this worthless boy...if he hits you that's not on especially since you are pregnant!!!!! He needs to be caught in a dark alley somewhere to get a taste of his own medicine. He obviously has huge anger issues to be doing this to you as well as denial issues by not owning his pathetic actions and making you think it's your fault. He is meant to be a grown up and should know it's wrong to hit and woman. The next thing you need to do for you and your baby is to inform the police and that will safeguard him being able to take off with your baby cause face it...if he is hitting you he is ALSO hitting your unborn child so is essentially starting the cycle of child abuse before birth. You do not need that as much as your innocent baby does. CALL THE COPS!!!!!!! MAKE HIM TAKE SOME PUNISHMENT FOR HIS ACTIONS.
Its not wrong to keep him away. You dont want to take a chance on letting him see the baby & him taking off with him ir doing anything to get back at you. If you do file any restraining order or charges against him for hurting you, that will also help to keep him from gettung any type if visitation or custody of your baby. What you did is the right thing. You have to fhunk about your baby, what is right for him/her & what the possible outcome of your choices would be. There is no acceptable reason to do what he did to you. Instead if being sad, be glad that you had the strength & courage to do what you did. Happy Birthday :)
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Is it wrong to not let him be around the baby? He insist that I can't do anyth ing to stop him from being around him. Which i know i can but i dont want to get him arrested or anything. I no he loves the baby and that's y he is saying that but I'm scared he would try to take him from me as in just not give him back when he was supposed to.I want my son to know his dad but I don't think he would work with me idk I just want the best for my baby.
I respect u so much for having the strength to leave him and to make yours and your child life better by getting yourself out of that horrible situation my mom went through the same abuse but wasn't lucky to get out of the situation quick enough and my biological father pushed my mom down the stairs and she lossed the baby. So I have so much respect to women that get out of that situation and have the strength and courage to do so and to put their foot down that they will never let anyone ever do that to them again u did the right then and when your child gets older he/she will see how strong u are and will also never stand for someone doing that to them.
OMG this is not acceptable at all. Even if it was your fault and your being a ***** about things, a real man would not lay a finger on you, specially if you are pregnant. Run away from that relationship. Dont let that man control you and your mind, telling you its your fault, you cant be believing that sh it... Where is your family? Do they know this MF physically abuses you? I hope you are mature enough to leave now before he does something worst to you.. You know he can push you one day and not only hurt you but also your baby. Man up , think about your child, maybe your motherly instintc hasnt kick in because you are not thinking about your child. I dont mean to sound harsh, but i mean this in a way to give you strength and to open your mind a little to see beyond what your eyes cant. Take care of yourself and your baby.
And definitely talk to your doctor or the police; they could provide you with people to talk to and safety to you and your baby
I think you have made a good decision. Physical violence is not acceptable. Neither is verbal bullying. It is not your fault he is hitting you but it is up to you to take yourself away. It won't be good forbaby either when bbaby's born it needs a calm loving environment. Who knows just maybe you can make it work later once he learns he's not in control of you. Sorry hun x
You just need to think of you and your baby! Its never your fault for a man to hit u! You and your baby safety should be the only thing u nerd to worry about. You don't want your child around that! You are in my prayers hunn!
I think u just did the right thing because u not support to let No one put a hand on u that is not the way things should get resolved he's ur boyfriend not ur father u shouldn't not let that happend the first the heme either because they can easily get used to it ... It should be hard but honestly I think u did the right thing if u think and give him another chance just tell him that he shouldn't even try it again . Hope this help ☺
It is not your fault..you done the right thing..better to do it now instead of waiting another month...u deserve better and bby too..
You are right to break up with him imagine if he did any of those things to your baby how would you feel? Fighting isn't always good and yes you should feel good about breaking up with him. Keep your head up and think about your baby
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