birth mark??

[sarahshahzad]

M ftm n i have a really big n dark birthmark on my stomach m worried is my bby gonna get it too n what r the chances of him getting that on his face??? I feel bad abt it plz dnt judge me i want my bby to be perfect:(

[sarahshahzad]

Thnx stephie no one has an idea of how bad it is i still dnt let my hubby see it its so dark n from my tummy all the way to my bck :(

[stephie325]

Babies have a 1 in 3 chance at just having a birth mark. So the chance of your baby having your birth mark are very low

[sarahshahzad]

Travic thanx for understanding dear iam not hating or whinning abt it i guess its just natural to think the best for ur kid..iam gona love him unconditionally no matter what ..thnx cdv n cef for ur reply good luck with ur kids

[cef1990]

I completely agree with making it a positive thing to your children if they do have them. My daughter at 4 had feet two sizes different, I was so worried she would have problems when she's older and it be noticeable etc, but we made it fun and she loved telling everyone she saw she had a little foot! Luckily they have evened out more now but it's always best to encourage them to be happy in their own skin whatever the reason.

[CDV123]

i have a small one on my arm my oldest has like 3 different ones on her butt. my other 2 i have yet to find one. my sister has her birthmark on half her face so she has one blue eye and the other is brown and green none of her kids have it.

[traciv]

I think we all have features we hope our children do or don't inherit. While pregnant with my daughter I prayed she wouldn't have my flat wide feet because I have had struggles throughout my life finding cute/comfortable shoes. I also didn't want her to have her dad's large Roman looking nose because while it's handsome on him it is a very manly looking nose and I hoped she would take care of his side of the family where the women had small bone structure and we're very skinny. All of you women telling her she is wrong to wish her child doesn't have a birthmark don't understand that she wants the best for her child. She has a birthmark she has had confidence issues with this is a real struggle for her and she doesn't want her child feeling the same way she has.
BTW my daughter did get my feet they are square and super hard to find shoes that fit right. Do I love her any less? Absolutely not. I feel bad that she won't be able to where the cute shoes that all her friends will get.

[sarahshahzad]

Thnx ewiggle :)

[EWIGGLESBOTTOM]

I know how it feels to want the best for your baby, even if he does wind up with one, he will be okay just as you, I and millions of others are okay with our marks.

[sarahshahzad]

Thnx ladies for ur replies..

[Mamaofdeux]

I don't think birth marks are hereditary.  My husband and I have identical birth marks, mine is on the back of my hand and his is behind his ear, and they are the exact same shape,  completely identical. Our son doesn't have it.  He has two small 'wine stains' on the sole of his foot.

[jellybelly105]

If you make a big deal out of it, then so will your child if they have one. Kids are more susceptible to adults' emotions than people think . If you don't want them to feel insecure then STOP treating it like it's a big deal.. cuz it shouldn't be. Maybe call it a "beauty" mark instead? I would want to teach my child to accept herself and others as they are. Birth marks and all. It's part of what makes us special. I think you're a bit traumatized from your experience but your child doesn't have to be if YOU teach him/her to love themselves as they are.

[sarahshahzad]

Thnx smich cnt wait to hve my gorgeous prince:)

[smichellec]

What's the point of leaving a comment if you have no answer/advice to the question and only want to insult/change her way of thinking? I am fairly sure birthmarks arent hereditary and i wouldn't stress too much. Like, what are the chances of him having the exact same bmark? Nha. He'll be gorgeous;)  

[sarahshahzad]

And the ladies whose saying i shud be grateful for the health only dnt knw what iam going through its not like m gonna love him less if he gets it  but i realy pray he doesnt has to go from inferiority complex his whole life like i did it isnt bad to think abt a perfect baby not only health wise but in physical aspect either..

[sarahshahzad]

Kathyy i wish mine skips too:)

[sarahshahzad]

Hol i can feel for u dear..

[christinah90]

I agree a birth mark is a birth mark as long as your baby is healthy it shouldn't matter what he/she looks like

[hunterdee]

Its a birth mark
Sorry to sound abit rude but get over it..
as long as ur baby is a healthy one who cares..
I have one on my shoulder n my daughter has her
on her hip Big So WHAT!!
Just be greatfull!!

[Kathy2015]

I have a birthrate on my back. About the size of my hand. It's called a wine stain, deep red/red/pink. Also, I have a strawberry (a red patch hiding in the hair on the back of my head, just above where the neck starts). Both of my children have inherited my strawberry. None -so far- have gotten the wine stain. However, I was the only one to get it. None of my cousins (on my mother's side, I don't know my father's side - they never spoke) or brothers and sisters had it. None of my nieces or nephews have it. But one great nephew (neck) and one great neice (chest) got it. I believe it skipped a generation.

[hol1127]

I know the feeling. My toes are really crooked and overlap, Thanks to my father. My oldest son inherited that trait, and his are way worse than mine. That was the first thing I checked for. Luckily my youngest has perfectly straight  toes and I'm hoping this baby will too. I'm embarrassed to have people look at my feet so hopefully my son won't be so self conscious about his

[sarahshahzad]

Thts great ecilef i nvr cared abt mine but now its my bby so iam a lil worried..i want him to be confident abt his body unlike me..

[ecilef]

I have a very ugly birth mark on my left chest. I was worried also before that my daughter would have it too. Luckily, my daughter is perfect!She's now 5 years old and flawless unlike me.

[sarahshahzad]

But wat abt if mommy has it??

[jellybelly105]

"Perfection" is overrated. Whatever happens you have to accept things as they are.