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[saramay2014]

So i have decided that i no longer want to take my lil girl to her dad's parents house.... his dad is not only extremely violent twards my bf but also his mom, he sells alot of marijuana and i mean alot also has tons of people in and out all the time getting it. He also keeps judging ne and putting me down about desisions ive been makeing parenting my child, he says i baby her to much and keeps hounding me for using formula.... i have to!!! I have a pump n ive tryed several times to pump but i dont make enough (which is why she wont feed from me). Its driving me crazy but the worst part is the violence.... he came in yesterday screaming at my bfs mom and took her into the kitchen and was hurting her and screaming, my bf got me n the baby and went to his room but i wanted to just leave (we did once things calmed down) it made me cry alot (grew up in an abusive home so violence scares me) i dont want her around that at all so yea ive decided not to go over there....

[saramay2014]

I was already putting the baby in her carseat when he had us go to his room

[saramay2014]

Hes already caught up n is still dealing... hes about to have pre trial the 16th hes so stupid so yea hes gunna get time already. The only reason i didnt walk out then was my bf wanted to calm me down n he was gunna be bringing me home.

[Rosalie23]

@rockrose you couldn't have said it any better!

[unknown_jones]

I agree with MzGatez. If he ever gets busted while your baby is there it becomes a CPS case, then you'll basically have to prove your fit and not endangering your child. As for him coming down on you about how you raise your child, he's abusive and use to having things his way. Don't stress about the way your raising your child, do what feels right. Being in such an abusive and hostile environment could cause problems for your baby in the long run. Maybe dad and grandma could visit baby at your home.

[RockRose]

Saramay,  I agree you should never go over there again.

I was interested when you said

"grew up in an abusive home so violence scares me"

I think it's exactly the opposite.  You grew  up in an abusive home so this didn't make you stand up that very minute and walk out and never return.  People who grew up in nurturing homes wouldn't consider taking their baby to that house.  it's only because it's kind of almost normal to you that you bring her there,  and are now sort of toying with not going back.

Don't go back.  Your baby - at this point - will never remember this.  But as the years go by she will have the same experience with violence growing up as you did,  and will be more accepting of it.

Best wishes.

[MzGatez]

You can anonymously report drug activity and then that should help with being able to identify the violence also. But keep in mind, noone is able to hustle forever. He will get caught up sooner or later regardless.  But if you have your baby there when they service to hit his house,  you may be charged with child endangerment and will become CPS involved.  So be careful.  

[saramay2014]

I would but i dont think his wife or son would tell on him, they are to afraid.... plus like i said i dont wanna go back over there with the baby. I hate that she was even around that....

[smichellec]

I'd report him.

[Mimilove3]

I agree with your decision. don't expose your little one to him. Hes crazy!! I would start calling the police every time he did something like this.