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10591101 tn?1411286183

low self-esteem

I am 30 weeks pregnant and I've have been having such a low self-esteem. My partner doesn't seem to see that things that he says make me feel worse. He calls me a dumb*** everyday. I just dont know what to do no more and i just stay quite and leave to the room to cry. :( Everytime i.o to.my appointments i always say am fie when the reality is inside am dying :.(
Do i need a therapist???
What shoul i do?
Am i harming my baby with these emotions?
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Why are you tolerating that from him? If he treats you like that,  imagine how he will treat your defenseless,  innocent child.  
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Hey BEAUTIFUL your giving life to someone and that makes you beautiful person itself. I don't know you but I do know there's nothing more beautiful then a woman awaiting her chance to be a mother! Stay positive and find some things to occupy your time the less time you spend around negativity the MORE time youhave for good things. And always pray and know that God will never put more on you then you can bear!
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You really need to talk to the doc about that and also have ur partner there to know that it is true also u need to tell him to stop calling u that the emotions can harm the baby
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There are studies showing that constant negative emotions like that can change your babies brain chemistry during development, and not for the good. It often causes emotional, and behavioral difficulties later on life. Not trying to scare you, but that is the harsh reality of the emotional abuse you're going through, and I would definitely talk to your doctor about it as soon as you can.
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10591101 tn?1411286183
Ill make sure to talk to my doctor.
I never taught i could ever feel like this.
Since before i got pregnant people would say you have such great self-esteem.
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Please be open with your doctor,I bottled evrrything up until 36weeks I became suicidal, i blamed my husband's female friend who was manipulating him saying its just "pregnancy" etc...

Anyway after giving birth I had the worst post partum depression I wasnt prepared.. i think as early as now make sure you are open to your doctor. It helped me and avoided killing myself.

This is coming from a person who never believe suicide or depression is real until reality slapped me.

So please talk to your doctor and be open, take care and be strong show your man he is wrong and he will come around
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It's your partner that needs therapy not you! He's being unreasonable, unsupportive and a downright idiot. It's normal to feel the way you do and your partner is making things worse! If he suddenly lost a leg in an accident, or hurt his back badly, he'd expect sympathy and understanding, which is what you need right now. Please show him all these posts and hopefully, IF he has half a brain, he'll change!!! Good luck x
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10591101 tn?1411286183
I really appreciate the help.
I feel a little relieved writting down how i feel.
I just want him to realize its not my fault.
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10591101 tn?1411286183
He always tells me my pregnancy isn't an excuse for anything :(
And thank you for ur help.
I'll make sure to tell my doctor in my next appointment.
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10591196 tn?1411435782
I felt like that with my first pregnancy, it's a good idea to talk it over with your doctor. It's very normal, your hormones are going crazy at this point. Your partner doesn't understand what your body is going threw right now. It isn't right for him to be calling a pregnant women dumb
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U r not a dumb*#* it's call pregnant brain. And your guy needs a kick in the balls. He doesn't understand what your body goes through. But talk to your doctor. Don't keep anything from them. They need to know everything
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