scaredofcommitment

[darbel]

Bf and I have been together 3 yrs. We bought a house, have a child together. Just found out I'm expecting again... Tried talking about commitment/engagement, he says not for 3+ years... Seriously? I've committed everything I have for the last 3yrs...when I asked why he wants to wait or why hea scared to get married he says he doesn't wanna talk about it... Was hoping to ease into telling him bout #2, but... Am I wrong or stubborn to just hide it for a while longer???...:(

[LexciSanders]

Dont hide it . It takes a man awhile to commit. They never be ready when we are ready . It takes something real unknown or some type of big surprise for a man to notice " Okay im ready to settle down with...." And he will propose . But don't hide nothing cause then he will be probably mad cause you hid it . Jut tell him and give him time to process and see that this is his family . You all need him and he got to take a bigger step.

[AnnieBrooke]

You're in a really bad position, the two of you have lots of long-term commitments and he is behaving like he is in high school.  Whether he is "ready" or not, owning a house together (if both names are on the deed) and having a child together is commitment.  Evidently he still thinks he might get to move to Hawaii and sit on a beach with naked supermodels if he doesn't say the word "commitment" to you?  What a dope.  Too bad you went as far as you did, it could be a mess if he decides to bolt.

I'd tell him.  Be ready for him to act like this is bad news.  But you may as well know where you stand.

[mommyof_1]

I wouldn't hide it. I would just tell him. Just bc he's not ready to be married don't mean he won't be excited to have another baby. Me and my bf are expecting baby number 2 and we've been together for 6 years and still not engaged. I know he's not ready so I'm not pushing it.