secret pregnancy

[LovelyJoss]

Im 19 going on 20 in April. Im nine weeks pregnant and i haven't told my family. I dont know how to tell them.  They are gonna think my baby is a mistake and im so stressed cause i hate keeping secrets. Im still with the babys father and hes super excited since hes older and hes ready for a child. I hate that i cant be excited cause no one knows....

[LovelyJoss]

Thanks everyone for all your strong words!!(: love the advice! Its good to know I'm not alone

[DaniellaOrAmalio]

hey im also 19 ill be 20 April 11th. im 9 weeks 2 days and i was afriad to tell my family because i thought they would be mad at me and judge me i had finally told my mom first then i told everyone else when i knew the baby had a heart beat some people where mad at first but they was happy that i was happy. keep your head up and dont stress its not good for the baby ma.

[QueenB_82]

Maybe wait until after your in the safe period. After the 12 weeks and then tell your family. When they ask why you waited so long to tell them say it was because you didnt want to tell them and them get excited and then something go wrong and disappoint them.
Hopefully your family will be happy and supportive. Do you get along with one parent more than the other? Maybe sit down and talk to them about it first.

You may be suprised. They may be happy about it.

[mamaviv951]

I just turned 18 when I found out I was pregnant. I kept it a secret from my parents because I was scared because they've always been stricken on me and I could never do anything. I was almost 4 months when they found out and they were upset and even more upset because I kept it away from them. Now I'm 26 weeks(6 months) pregnant and they've been helping me more with food so I can be healthy. Try telling them right away your older than I was your an adult they shouldn't get mad

[stepalln]

Keep in mind that how you feel about the baby is being taught to the baby right now. So if you feel down about the pregnancy the baby will too, besides the anxiety of telling people can be a sign of postpartum I would talk to your doctor. My family acted the same way...having kids ruines your life blah blah blah....I spent nine years feeling that hurt, and my kids saved my life giving me something to look forward to. This time when I told them I handed them the ultrasound sound picture and said well darn guess your grandparents at ten weeks. And walked away. No matter what their opinion was I wasn't going to let that hurt me anymore. My boyfriend and I are happy, we both believe it's a good thing to have this child, and we both know children don't ruin ones life. Our lives may not be perfect but it's our lives. Your family will eventually come around just as mine did in the end show them that this is a good thing. Show them that it's ok. They are only looking or for you.

[gksangel]

Tell someone in your family, stress is not good for you n they might surprise you with their reaction!. Also it's a lot easier when someone who cares about you knows what's going on :)

[kiki24115]

Hiding it makes it look like you feel it's a mistake. ..be honest and stop hiding...not everyone will agree with your decision but it's your choice and no your life...

[LovelyJoss]

Thanks ladies!  

[badnursebette]

My first child was the same situation. I'm currently 34 years old starting all over with baby #2. My daughter is amazing and I wouldn't have it any other way. Your family will eventually be on board.  Stand by your decision and show them this is what you want. It will be hard, but totally worth it! Good luck!

[Sophieparsons92]

I was the same!  Only tell someone now if you want to.  Or wait until after your 12 weeks.  But i found out really early on it was an accident and i told my mum straight away,  i was so scared but felt so much better after somebody knew. Im 22.