Trust me if he says he will change but doesn't, he never will because he's learned thru repeated behavior that he doesn't have to.
Leave. Tell him why.
When he says I'll change ... tell him words are not enough anymore. Leave him. And if he wants you and his son back, he'll do what he needs to, including getting a job, a safe place for you guys to live, and gain your trust back.
Even tho you love him, just because you have a child that does not obligate you into being miserable on his behalf, for his sake, when he only looks out for himself???
if he looks out for him and you look out for him, who is there to look out for you?
You are both adults now who made the very adult decision to have a child together. So, you need to first sit down and talk to him. He needs to grow up and it's time to take responsibility. Moving home to mom just isn't going to solve the problem. You are the mom now, and need to find a way to make this work, with or without him. You two are joined for life now.
Talk to him and give him the opportunity to work on the issues. Threats typically don't work. If he won't help financially, then file for support. He will still be in his childs life, but he must help financially - that is the law. Best of luck.
You can't just threaten - he won't take you seriously if he doesn't change and you don't leave. If you're going to tell him you'll leave then you have to be prepared to go through with it. I hope he gets his act together for your sake and your son. Long run your son would rather grow up in a happy house then in one of hurt and anger knowing he's the only reason you're still there and unhappy. Best of luck x
The thing is I have, but he just shrugs it off or says he will but nothing changes, maybe one last time with a threat that I'll leave. An I'm 19 and no other kids.
true also i agree with ftm2013 stick up for urself and tell him how u feel first and see how he reacts!
I would leave at least until he gets his act together, your baby can still see his dad
Leave if he doesn't change!!!!
I don't think you need to leave I think you need to grow a back bone and tell him how you feel make sure he knows your done putting up with it before leaving! Men can be stupid sometimes they need a wake up call.
tel him your not happy! thats no way for you and your son to live....go home to your parents finish school:) how old r u and do u have other kids?
How should I tell him or should I just leave?
You need to leave hun.. its not going to get better only will get worse read my post you will see i have been through alot and the same thing u are so please leave before it gets worse
Doesn't seem like he really cares too much I think you need to decide what sort of life you want for your son and act on that it's not for us to tell you what to you. I personally would leave though.