Aa
someone please help me!!
Im currently extremely stressed out and need a friend. My babys father/boyfriend left to go play soccer...ok that's fine he went around 6 and it ends around 8 it is now 12:48and i still haven't been able to get a hold of him... i know he went to the movies at 9:40 cause we have each others banking info and i saw on that, that he went there...hopefully with his soccer buddies...evem with going to the movies he should have been done around 11:25... i tried calling a billion tmes with no answer...about 15 mins ago i saw he made another purchase at a 711...i still cant get ahold of him i am so stressed and i am loosing my mind i know stress is bad forthe baby, but how could a women not stress out over this...
Sweet ladies...it is so true that men are from Mars! Their brains don't seem to register. It breaks my heart to listen to your stories. I would be in the same situation had I stayed with me husband. I met my soulmate and the rest is history! We've been together over a year now. Made our angel the week of our 1 year anniversary! My love completely adores me. That doesn't mean I don't know what it feels like when a man doesn't want a child or know how to handle it. My sweet mother just divorced her 5th husband. So I know what that heartache looks and feels like! Its a lonely place. Tomorrow is filled with promise! Never let a man determine your happiness!
I am glad thst your talk worked with him bekahboo. I hope it continues to work too. Don't care that it takes men a little longer to get used to the idea of being a father, just because he isn't carrying the baby doesn't mean he gets to do all the same **** and not change one bit, I have to sit home all the time and alone too because he is doing something with his boys, he calls and text me constantly when I go out to lunch and shopping with my girlfriend and I only do thst once a month if that...anyhow I am glad thst you two talked, if you ever need to talk again feel free to message me, since we seem to be in similar situations we could lean on eachother even just on this.
It will happen again though if you don't correct him. Give him your boundaries. Make him think it was his idea to let you at least know where he is that late. Say. ."you are so right that we should update each other.." or something like that...sometimes it works ;)
Im sad but glad to see im not alone, corriem you literally decrubed what happens to mine occasionally like to the T lol but ya update, we talked yesterday, and the way he sounded was as if he has just been so overwhelmed with all the changes that when the opportunity to hang out with the guys came up he took advantage of it and he said he knew i had nothing important to talk about and if it was an emergency i would have texted him its an emergency and he would at that point responded, but he didnt feel that he needed to answer the phone every five seconds While he is in the movies. I stll think he should have picked up and just told me where he was, but ohwell hope fully this wont happen again. I heard good news that one of the dead beat dad bad influences moved away, so at least one is down...hopefully mine having his first child will mature him... im too grown for highschool BS. Btw 26 weeks today woohoo
Yep I agree about that....I have said to him since day one that I feel like I can't count on him, he's going to miss the birth of our sons because he never answers his phone....I even had a scare....I work in a hospital and almost fainted at work one night so the girls I was working with made me go to labor and delivery to get checked out....I couldn't get a hold of him till I was down there for 1 hour and then when he finally did answer he was angry with me cause I just kept calling....course he felt like an jerk when I told him and got there as soon as he could. My point is what if I go into labor and he's in one of his moods not answering his phone or what if he's out with his friends...I don't want him there if he is drunk!! He doesn't get it and clearly never will, so I prepare to be alone, it's the only way I can deal with being treated like it.
So what was his side of the story? Explain to him that it only takes a second to send a txt to say he is ok. Also he should always answer because pregnancy is unpredictable and anything could happen.
I understand. I have the most amazing supportive and loving husband ever. And even I get scared sometimes. A few wks ago, he didn't want to come to dinner and baby shopping with me and my dad who was buying us a bunch of stuff we need. He told me that he had a long wk and wanted to stay home. Next thing you know he tells me that he going to have a few beers with a friend. I'm pk with it cuz he works really hard to support us and deserves a night to relax. Well this is like 5pm, then at 830 I'm on my way home and try calling him to tell hum how exciting am with every we bought. He didn't answer his phone and it sounded like he sent me to voice mail by the way it rang then hung up. I tried calling hum for 3 hrs answered ended up leaving him the meanest messages and even threatened to lock him out of the house by bolting the door and it was -10 degrees outside. I know my husband and he would never cheat or stray or anything but I was getting so angry that he wasn't answering and your hormones are in overdrive. He finally called me and was so cheery, I was so short and rude to him. Well it turns out that his friend who lives on the ocean doesn't have any cell service at his house and he even tried calling and texting me to give me their house num. Well why couldn't he call me from their house to let me know? Well he's a guy and they don't think that way lol.
So we have all been there And thought the worst. Don't jump to anything until you talk rationally and you have cooled down. Good luck!
So we have all been there And thought the worst. Don't jump to anything until you talk rationally and you have cooled down. Good luck!
Oh girl I am going through the same thing...I am hoping thst I'm not going to be a single mother but preparing for that to happen. My boyfriend went out last night for "just an hour" and 10:30 and didn't get home till 3...I'm hoping he grows up once the baby is born but we have about 2 months to go to my due date and he hasn't grown up at all yet so I don't expect it to happen...just hope...that's what I hold onto. If things don't work out between the two of us I will definitely not EVER get into another relationship...this is it for me...and then I will teach my son how a he should treat his girlfriend and future wife...with love respect care concern loyalty dedication! All the things his father never showed me.
Let us know what happens. Good luck hunn
I feel for you sweet girl! If he has yet to talk to his parents that means he's scared as hell. He's only known for a short period of time. However his parents do know about the baby, just not the moving in part right?
Well that's good. My bf is kind of hard to get anything out of him but I'm moving with him again by the end of March and he's always said to be with me. He's in love with me but has a lot more of growing up to do. Maturity and reality tends to definitely catch up once baby is here. But hopefully the bad influences don't get to him. After all he is grown and knows what will be more important to him his family to be or friends. In the end don't blame yourself for anyone's decision just be there for your baby be the best mom you can be and everything will turn out great for you and your baby.
Well that's good. My bf is kind of hard to get anything out of him but I'm moving with him again by the end of March and he's always said to be with me. He's in love with me but has a lot more of growing up to do. Maturity and reality tends to definitely catch up once baby is here. But hopefully the bad influences don't get to him. After all he is grown and knows what will be more important to him his family to be or friends. In the end don't blame yourself for anyone's decision just be there for your baby be the best mom you can be and everything will turn out great for you and your baby.
I agree with jackie. Just be prepared for the worst but try to keep a positive mind. Stay strong darling
He was happy, and does talk about her and says things like "you cant drink soda thats not good" or "why didn't you tell me you got hurt at work...i should find this out at the doctors office" but he is young (22) and his bad influences are even younger (19-21) and one even has a child but left the mom to fend for her and her baby's self while he decided to move to his original state (fl where we are now) honestly since this guy came back...ive not been as happy and i really would like to move to another state so we can get back to just the two of us...
Just keep a positive mind but be ready for the worst okay. You're strong and if you feel like you can't be you need to cause you have a baby coming and all that baby has for protection right now is you. So stay positive no matter what and try to rest and be calm when you guys talk :) those hormones can drive you crazy.
Yeah Carols94 is right. My bf didn't want this pregnancy and has always said he was scared and this wasn't part of his life. But it takes 2 to create. If you didn't want a baby you should've wrapped it or been more careful.
Me too, thank you guys for your support by the way. And i did a little mini math and he only bought one ticket one popcorn a drink and a candy, which is kind of a relief because i know him and if (god forbid) he went out with someone other than the guys he would have paid for them and food and drinks for them too... so i kinda feel good seeing that, also i also was thinking, maybe him and the guys all got in one car to save on gas and him being him would let everyone else go home before him which would explain why it took him so long to get home, and why he might have stopped to get a drink or something on the way home from 711. The 711 part is a stretch though cause he is a cheap kinda guy and idk what he could have got from 711 that cost $6. Idk im just trying to be positive.
He might be feeling a little trapped things are changing. If he's hanging with ppl who are gonna bring him down in life and avoiding asking his parents he might be doing it cause he's scared or didn't want it
Honestly I know some people do and can change but if they do something once they can do it again. I especially think guys like that tend to do things their old ways when they feel like once the baby is here they can't go do the same things they would or it'll be a long time before they can with you. You know what I mean? For example, my bf kept going out on Fridays and drinking with his friends lying to me about little stuff and hiding things until I'd find out myself and I felt it was because he feels as if he won't be able to do stuff with me once baby is here or it won't be the same. Truthfully it won't be the same but they sometimes feel like they have to go and do all this craps before their "life" is over. Usually happens to those young guys who aren't as mature or wanted a pregnancy and were ready for fatherhood. I Always expect the worse so I can be mentally prepared for it. But dont stress your baby out. You're beautiful, and once you have your baby you won't feel so alone. Trust me. I had problems throughout my entire pregnancy with lack of support or interest from my bf. I'm only 15 weeks and ftm now but I've managed to just focus on my baby and I. Be strong no matter what. You got this.
Just try to stay calm when talking to him. And don't forget to do what is best for you and your baby if it goes wrong. Hope nothing bad has happened for you. Stay strong
Of course you do
Now calm down and relax
Now calm down and relax
Im gonna try to speak with him tomorrow, if worst comes to worst im just gonna go to his house after i get off from work. I need and deserve an explanation...
If i was you i would just wait and talk to him and see what he has to say
Ya @carlos94 he has been hanging out with bad influences lately, i thinkth ats whats most concerning for me, and @sanja25 we dont live together yet... we used to, then couldnt afford it so we moved back in with our parents, he has been supposed to ask his family if i could just move in since the baby is coming in a couple of months, but is "waiting for the right time" im at the point now where im about to just ask them myself cause this night never should have happened.
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