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So I'm 4 days away from due date and my baby's dad got arrested and now won't be there I have been so depressed and lonely I don't know what to do
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I have no idea how long he will be away for I am still waiting to hear of a court date to be set. So it's tough I'm on wait and I hate that but yea my dad is not thrilled but he wants to make sure me and the baby are going to be okay. I feel bad for the way I feel cause I know the affects it has on my little girl
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How long will he be in for?   Sounds like he has a good dad who is willing to help the two of you which will go a long way.  
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My dad took me in he's good just made some bad choices he broke probation and was talking like he had a lot of money when he didn't he was trying to make me feel like we will be ok we will get a house and everything will b ok but I know things aren't great and yes that was selfish of him but in away he was trying to make a home a new start we all do thing we arnt proud of an it catches up to us one way or anouther but you can't run from your past.. I know it's going to be hard and with my farther offering him a career when he gets out is a lot but when you spend every day with someone and they know how to make you feel better and make you feel like your not alone when there gone you really don't want anyone else there to help with your baby you want the farther imagine losing your husband or boyfriend over something they did in the past and someone decides they have beef with them and do that to your family it's not very calming or easy to handle but at this time I know baby is first but this is my first baby and his to so just for those who want yo trash try to put yourself in my spot someone your close to makes you laugh when your about to cry brings you food at midnight cause your hungry would do anything for you and all the trips to the Dr or er or even labor place because you think your in labor and is right there by your side and that's gone so feeling mad or upset about what happened isn't any better then feeling sad and depressed no one likes to see a love one in cuffs
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Anyway, sorry to hear.  Is your family around for you to lean on?
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That's unfortunate.  What was he arrested for?  That would worry me in itself as things like getting hired after a criminal record is harder and things.  is he a good guy?  
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You are not alone little baby is there! Relax and be strong. Hoping everything turns out good for you.
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The most important thing and you and the health of your baby, that should give you the motivation and drive to get through it all!
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Right now she need support now for people to put her man down like really smh. Girl hold your head up everything will be ok god won't put you thru anything that he don't feel you can handle.
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My sister's partner went to jail when she was 7 and a half months. It was hard on her but she's a strong woman. She went through labour with out him. She visits him 4 days a week. She set up there place woth out him. She has had to do it all without him because of his choices. By the time he gets out their son will be 8 months old.
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Couldn't imagine being with a guy who would do anything to put himself in a position to even go to jail. Been married to my great husband for 7 years.
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Get a new man who ain't a jail bound loser.  My 9 year old dad is in and out all the time. I no longer talk to him and my kid don't even know him. Those kind men suck . .find a real one .
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I'm sorry you have to go through that though. The same thing happened to my best friend. Everything will be OK, just don't worry about your bd, put all your energy and focus into your baby.
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I wouldn't be depressed if I was you. He's selfish for doing whatever it was he did to end up in jail, knowing he could be arrested and he has a baby on the way. He put himself in there and left you with the bills to pay and a baby to care for by yourself. I'd be mad if I was you.
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Girl let him be in there he knew what he was doing worry about your baby
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Thanks I just found out he's bond is set at 20,000 so it's stressful and now all the bills are layed on me and I'm not working at this time idk what I am going to do
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I feel where your coming from. My child's father had to go away when I was 3months pregnant, I'm due tomorrow &he doesn't get out till May. We gotta be strong &keep it together. Good luck
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