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okay mii son father left me when I was 4 months for another women no he wasnt abusive or anything but it's just the way he did things . now we ddon't talk atr all don't show no concern about my baby don't ask about him or bought him anything . if we do talk its always something sexually never about my baby .. I want him in my son life but do you think he's going to be in his life
thanks ladies
You can't make someone be the parent you think your child deserves them to be. You can however focus on making yourself into the best mother you can be. I would definitely discontinue any and all conversations or actions that regard sex or any communication that might confuse or distract him from what really matters now and that's this baby. Realistically you can get child support but be aware there is the possibility that he won't come through so you really have to make your way on your own. I speak from experience the best advise I can give is never bad mouth him to your child. One day your child will know them for themselves and will draw their own conclusions about the type of person he is. There is a possibility that he will grow into a better man and that is who your child will get to know. You and your child have to be your priority any focus. The the right man for you will come when the time is right. I will keep you in my prayers. Best of luck and congratulations on the beautiful blessing your life is being gifted with.
Sorry, she has brothers. They are aware of her and she know them. Parents are too dramatic and childish that i keep her away from the drama.
I agree with marijana
I went through this. I found out about the other women when my daughter was a week old by his mother. Honestly through my pregnancy i knew he wasn't going to be around because he was already barely around and sex was on his minds when he came around.
My husband isn't bio, but is doing a great job that many don't know. For bio, i gave him 5 weeks because he said he needed 5 weeks to prove himself. I did go for child support although i didn't get it until lately and she is 7. And whenever he came around, i handed him his daughter. He disappeared for the firstyear, came a little the second year, left the third, came round the fifth, and walah, nothing since last October.
I get 300 a month when he pays, total of two years within 7 of getting support. Don't settle for less. I didn't. My child have a great dad, bio barely ever called. I really wanted her to know her bio and she do, but calls my husband dad and barely speaks of her bio. She had brothers she is aware of but they are so much drama with him and the mother i prefer to keep her away from it.
My husband isn't bio, but is doing a great job that many don't know. For bio, i gave him 5 weeks because he said he needed 5 weeks to prove himself. I did go for child support although i didn't get it until lately and she is 7. And whenever he came around, i handed him his daughter. He disappeared for the firstyear, came a little the second year, left the third, came round the fifth, and walah, nothing since last October.
I get 300 a month when he pays, total of two years within 7 of getting support. Don't settle for less. I didn't. My child have a great dad, bio barely ever called. I really wanted her to know her bio and she do, but calls my husband dad and barely speaks of her bio. She had brothers she is aware of but they are so much drama with him and the mother i prefer to keep her away from it.
A bit of advice for the future, don't have sex with a man who has 4 kids he doesn't take care of. Men like that are not worthy of a good woman, or the children he fathers.
i really don't know what to expect because a man can say 1 thing and do another but in my heart I know he's not going to be in his life he have 4 other kids and 1 while we was together and didn't know about but only care for 1 of his kids . I don't think I want to just run to child support because what is that go do if he doesnt pay his other kids child support I know hes not go pay mine and thats not go make him be in his life .. I just really hate feeling so down
I wouldve made him pay because he was the one that left for another woman and he was the one that made this baby. He is responsible too.
ultimately that's up to you, most women get child support and call it a day, if you want him in his life you might as well, if a man has to pay child support he'll probably make use of his parental rights
let him live his life, I personally wouldn't want to deal with courts and the legal system, I wouldn't want that around my baby and i wouldn't force him to pay for a child he doesn't want.
I'd at least ask for child support.
Have you thought about taking him to court? Let him know he has responsibilities and he needs to his part as man.
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