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what do you think ladies.

Wanted to know how you ladies would approach this situation.  
So bf family are from the other side of the country and we have compromised on them coming two weeks after baby is born (because I like my privacy and I havent met them yet).
I have seen lots of conversation about making sure that family that handles baby get updated on tdap and I think its important. I already told my mother who lives here that I would like our family to get updated to protect my baby.  And she got upset about it.
How do I ask his family to do it but not come off as rude or what not?
Thanks!
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Honestly It's Ur baby Ur decisions.  Do What u feel Is best. I know u dnt want to come off as rude and That's understandable as I feel The Same way... Sometimes I am Just way to nice. But Just Tell them straight up, Hey not to be rude and It's Nothing personal, my mom already Is annoyed by me telling her The Same thing But I feel most comfortable If everyone's updated and If You can't agree to That Then I Don't want you touching my baby. Theres been lots of stuff going around and I'm paranoid mommy and Just want my little one safe as I'm sure Everyone else does to So please make sure to get That done and If You Don't want to Then That's okay But You can be expecting to see baby through video cam and pictures.... They may hate It Or They may agree with u But either way your baby Is your number one priority and as mama You wanna protection your child in any way You can. So If They can't handle It Then to bad For them.
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Also his family is from California I heard whooping cough is bad out there is that correct?
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Ftm_2015: I have set my boundaries already with them waiting to come out. And honestly I wish I could wait a month. But two weeks was the best compromise I could do. And it make a uncomfortable. I haven't met them and they will be staying in my house and I just want to bond with my baby and breast feed. His mom doesnt want to cut the cord with him and I feel she is going to smoother my baby
I am just concerned that they wont get the tdap or shot or get mad when they find out I am not budging on it.
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My fiance family is from MS and im from LA. My mom goes to parenting class with me so she knows to give it time before holding my baby(becauze i will be berstfeeding) i told my fiance as well and told him to tell his family. To give me at least three weeks after bbay is born so we can bond and i breastfeed propley. Just let then know,its your baby.
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I told my family that if they don't get it. In order for you to hold our baby you would need to wash your hands and wear a hospital gown and do not remove my son's hat or mittens and do not kiss him anywhere.
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I have the same issue. My family is updated on all vaccinations but my fiancé and his family don't get them. I don't know how to tell them that I don't want them around my baby if they don't get them or how big of a deal it really is.
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