13 and want to have a baby badley

[moocow13]

Hi so I'm 13 and I want a baby really bad I have dreams of me with a preggers belly I look in mother care I rub my stomach like there's a little baby inside I've thought of a scenario of maybe having a secret agent needing to get into provision or someone wanting to having sex with me getting me pregnant then tell my mum I have been raped and the find out I'm pregnant and begging her to keep it is this natrel also I haven't had a periods for a month

[remar]

I can't imagine a 13 year old wanting to get pregnant so bad that she would think about something as serious as making up a story about being raped. To me, this is disturbing. I have to wonder what could be going on in a young girls life to make her want a baby so badly. Maybe they want love and attention but babies are just the opposite. They're not capable of giving love or attention to anyone because they're a baby and need what they need. Which, is all of the mother's time and attention.
I'm not trying to offend any teen mothers but we're talking about 13 year old children who want to have babies.

[BrayBeanieBaby1214]

I agree with the previous posts but also think of this if you go have a baby with a random guy.... How do you think guys in the future will look at you. You will have a hard time finding a man who will commit to you AND a baby. Just wait until your older. I went through the same struggles growing up.

[remar]

Sorry, I cut my message of. I meant volunteer at a church nursery or baby sit sometimes.
It's not fair to have a baby just because you want one. Every child deserves parents who are old enough and ready to take on having a baby. It is the hardest job you will ever have.
Go to school, have fun with your friends, live your lives. You have plenty of time when you're older and truly ready to have children.

[remar]

You girls are thinking about the pregnancy. It can look like it's a lot of fun being pregnant because you get attention, have baby showers, people want to rub your tummy.
Once that baby gets here things will drastically change, believe me. You will wonder what in the world you're done when you're up in the middle of the night with a screaming baby. Your friends, boyfriends and family might tell you that they will be there to help and babysit. But once the baby is here most young girls lose friends and it's rare for the guy to stay in the picture.
When a very young girl wants a baby I always recommend taking a family members baby or a friends baby for a whole weekend. Under your parents supervision of course. You will see that the baby will need every bit of your attention. You can't go have fun with friends, you can't talk on the phone and you will get no sleep. I think by the end of the weekend you will be so ready for the baby to go home. If you have your own baby you can't just take it back.
I agree with th other posters. If you want to be around children volunteer

[RockRose]

geekgirl,  you will cut your options so short.  Don't do this.  You aren't ready,  your baby will suffer and so will you if you decide to try to get pregnant.  

Used to be,   moms and dads put the fear of God into girls who wanted to be pregnant,  and there was no welfare system to support you if you did this.  

I think it would be very positive if we went back to that time.  Girls do have a nurturing streak,  and that's a great great thing,  but you aren't capable of mothering a child at the age of 13.  You aren't capable.  

Stay in school,  find your passion in life,  and later when you've finished your education if you find a wonderful guy who wants to commit to you for life,  build your nest and start your family.  Even birds know to build the nest,  and find a committed partner,  before mating and laying eggs.  

You can do better than birds.

[geekgirl13]

I feel just the same way about really wanting sex and wanting to get pregnant and that whole experience. Sometimes I walk around pushing my stomach out ns tensing my tummy muscles so my stomach feels hard like a bump.

[RockRose]

Well,  last questions first.  If you haven't had sex,  it just sounds like your period hasn't regulated itself yet - you're young and sometimes it takes years for your period to become regular.

The other question,  about whether this is natural to feel this way - I think it probably is.  That's why you see so many girls your age volunteering to work in church nurseries,  and going nuts over little puppies and kittens.

So I wonder if you could get your "fix" of babies by volunteering to work with them in a nursery setting,  or volunteering at an animal shelter and playing with the litters of baby animals.

You also probably would benefit from finding a different focus - maybe joining a recreational team,  becoming involved in an adventure crew,  etc.  Your time and mind aren't occupied enough -

Best wishes.