CYCLE DAY?DPO?TWW?(2010)p10

[faith2086]

HEY LADIES..TO THE NEW LADIES WELCOME...OUR ROUTINE..IS TO POST SIGNS OF AF LEADING UP TO BFP..THAT INCLUDES ANYTHING U ARE FEELING..EVEN IF ITS LITTLE OR JUST DOESNT MAKE SINCE..IN THIS ROOM EVERYTHING COUNTS..WE HELP EACH OTHER BECAUSE ATLEAST ONE OF US HAS BEEN IN UR SHOES..

baby dust..and lots of love..

[faith2086]

JESUS CHRIST LADIES NEW THREAD.......CYCLE DAY?DPO?TWW(2010)P11

[smjmekg]

I wasn't really young when I got married, I was 21, but not everyone agreed. My husband and went to the same place for our AIT (Army's job school). I used to go out to the bar on the weekends with my friends, but decided to go alone one night when they were at the hotel. A guy my husband was sitting with came up to me and asked me to join their table, and I agreed. My husband barely said a word to me that night, but I knew I had to see him again, I didn't know why and I couldn't explain it I just had to. So I looked for him everywhere I went and found him at the bar again, I stared at him ALL night, and I don't normally do that I'm very old fashioned, you know, guy asks the girl out, guy calls the girl, guy makes the first move....so I went outside to smoke, and he came out after, we talked for a few minutes and then he asked for my number, we talked every day after that. A couple weeks later I stayed at a hotel with my friend and he stayed at the same hotel with his friend. We woke up the next morning went to eat at a bagel place, my at the time boyfriend and I were looking at real estate magazines and he said "we should just get married and buy one of these houses" In the back of my head I was thinking "that sounds like a good idea". So later that day he told me he was kind of serious. Not too long after he sent an e-mail asking my parents if he could marry me, and soon after that we got married in a courthouse. Now...I was engaged to a guy for a year and a half before I joined the Army, I left him just after basic training, and met my husband a few weeks later. My husband and I had known each other almost three months, and dated just over two months before we got married. I think you can see where people didn't exactly agree, and you can imagine some of their replies when we told them two months later that I was pregnant. (We got the whole "you could have told me when you got married") BUT I got pregnant AFTER we got married. Anyways, my husband and I have been married for two and a half years next month. But I know my husband and I were meant to be. When I was engaged before my husband and I met, my ex and I picked a date...Sept 13, 2007. This was before I even thought of joining the Army...Guess what...that's the day I got married, because that's the day I graduated AIT, I knew I'd get married that day, I just didn't know to who. So that's my story. I wasn't that young, but people did disagree...BUT~~I wouldn't change it for the world!!!

[sprarah]

Well ladies 16 dpo and co AF.....have not tested again since the neg at the doctors at 14 dpo. I think I am just late because I have been stressing out.

For those of you that read the long post I put a few months back about my fathers lung cancer diagnosis and that he was refusing to talk to me. I have an update. He had surgery yesterday an they had to remove 60% of his right lung. He is actually doing better than we thought he would be and I actually got to see him and spend some time with him. But hopefully he will recover an they wont find any more cancer. But I think all this is why AF has not come yet.

[AngellaHas2]

well 6 mores days, and I can test.

I only feel so tired. Which is a sign, but not this early. and my breast are tender. But I dont read into my signs anymore. because they all seem to be related to the dirty AF. So I am just going to wait it out.

[Amanda853]

THANK YOU LADIES SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH.

I am just so excited. I ask that because i dont have any happily maried people in my family other than my cousin (who also got married at 20). I just got in touch with her so i've been talkin to her about it. Other than that, I dont have ANY positive relationships in my family AT ALL. My mother got married at 23 after she had me at 20 but when i was six my father left us and is now raising another woman's kids (i still talk to him but its hard to not be upset with him). Everyone else in my family has been married more than once and is still not happy. So i have no one to really talk to about it/ Im feel that i am truly blessed since i grew up around that type of family but still able to look at marriage in a positive way.

SMJMEKG- I would love to hear your story. I appreciate EVERYTHING and advice that you all give to me. It really does help!

AIMZ- THANK YOU! I know that ring will be really nice. The ones we looked at and picked out were soooo pretty. I just dont know what to pick. (Although I would love a real expensive ring, i dont believe in spending alot of crazy money on jewwlry because thats not whats most important and we aint got money like that As long as its pretty lol).

[jrobertson20]

Thanks.  I am on CD3 right now.  Back at the very beginning but  I now know more about what my body does before AF arrives and when I ovulate.  I think ovulation just happened a few days later than what I thought it did because my cycle was 30 days this month and I thought they were about 28 so now I know.  I got married 3 days after I turned 24 but we got engaged when I was 22 and my sister got married when she was 22 and engaged at 21.  They also got pregnant with their daughter on their honeymoon so she was 22 when she had her first child and just had another one at 24 and we are both very happy.  You heart knows best....not anybody else.  Good luck and hope you get that ring.

Heatherm4 - Thank you it is a fresh start...that is how I am trying to look at it.  I have not looked up Deanna's story but I will.  I really started tracking things this month (I should have started a few months ago but just didn't think of it) so I am hoping now that I am more aware of things I can pinpoint ovulation a little better.  Good luck in getting your positive.

[Heatherm4]

SMJ- Your MIL is crazy...I don't know how you deal but it's good to just stop talking to her before you start saying what you really want to say. Don't listen to them about anything...all that stuff is just their opinions and nothing more. You and DH sound like you have a great family and know what you're doing! Plus you're moving closer to home are you not? So that makes total sense to get pregnant now cuz by the time you're due you'll be nice and cozy in your new home!!

Aimz- That's crazy too!! How odd that she would offer that to you. Maybe there's a tinge of jealousy there? 4 or 5 months isn't very long...your time will come!!

jrobertson- Welcome!!! Sorry to hear about AF....it's a fresh start though...look up Deanna's plan. Not sure how long you've been trying but I've heard it helps some ppl!

Amanda- I have a friend that got pregnant and married at 18 and now she is 26 and still happily married and just had her 3rd baby. It's not about being "married" but having a real marriage that works!! I'm so excited for you!!

Gail- I hope you get a BFP shortly!! Oooh waiting 12 weeks to tell people would KILL me I think!! LOL

Angella, lamb, megs and jellybean- Hope you have a bfp coming soon too!!  And everyone else if I missed you!!

You guys are right about telling ppl you're ttc....that puts the pressure on. The only ppl that knew for us was my Mom and Step Dad because of my miscarriage. We didn't tell them really...they just asked how we were doing from it all and asked if we were trying again. But when you've been together forever and married almost a year....MANY people ask you when you're going to have kids!

Now I'm on the fence about telling ppl! I don't think anything has really hit me yet. I'm sooo nervous that I'm just going to end up getting AF tomorrow or this weekend when she's due. If that doesn't happen then I'll feel better next week about it! I think I may tell my Mom and Step Dad on Valentines day in a card that says something like "My heart will start beating for you!". Cuz I'd be in my 5th week.  As for my Dad and DH's family...I might want to wait a little bit longer.

[smjmekg]

I have an interesting engagement/marriage story for you...but for now it's bed time. I'll write all about it tomorrow, you ladies will think I'm NUTS!

[Heatherm4]

OH MY!! I came on to read this while my car is warming up and it's SOOO LONG LOL that I don't have time!! I'll be back in a bit ...I can't wait to read!! Must be good.
By the way I took another FRER and I think I got a clear pic so I'll post that too when I get back!!

[Aimz86]

Totally - nah honey your storey DIDNT beat mine, two mothers at once saying negative things - NOT COOL on any level! I have no idea where she even got the idea, I think maybe she just didnt really think about what she was saying - except before that she was saying she wants to be preggas again so she doesnt have to go through menapause....

JESSSHHH what the hell is wrong with your MIL - that is so not OK to send you especially for that reason... some people should just shut there mouths - or know when to... LIKE US we shut out mouths and type it all on here ahhahaha I LOVE YOU GUYS! thank you for understanding always!

I definately could never have a family or friend 'carry' my baby, it was never even an option in my head let alone out loud I would rather adopt any day arghhh why am i even talking about it - lol we will all get pregnant - some of us might just take our sweet A time :) haha

Amanda - my friends are 21 years old this year and getting married in 2 months been engaged since they were 18... so many people do - dunno about USA but in Australia its pretty common I think... HOW EXCITING FOR YOU!!!!! I cant wait to hear all about it - and of course SEE THE RING!

[smjmekg]

WOW!!! I think you story beat mine, but it's still not as bad as my MIL sending me info on shaken baby syndrome and the first baby on the list's name was Elijah...that's my son's name. Now THAT made me mad...That really is pretty harsh though, telling you she'd be your surrogate and to get on it if you want her to...I stopped talking to my MIL this morning when she said that (instant messenger). I'll probably talk to her again next time I see her online, but definitely not unless she speaks first. There's other people on my instant messenger that I'd much rather talk to, and I'm not going to be the first to speak after this incident. I actually signed off without warning or saying bye just because I think if I wrote another thing I would have said more than I should. She really is a rude woman, and doesn't hold her tongue at all, nor does she think before she opens her mouth. I could use a surrogate if I had to but it wouldn't be someone I know, like Lizmab20 said, I wouldn't want family/friends hanging it over my head. And I'd make sure that once my baby was born i didn't have to send the surrogate pictures or anything like that, I'd want my baby to be mine and to forget how he/she came into the world. I'd tell them later in life especially if it was a girl and she may have whatever problem I would have had...but I don't know, I think it would be weird to have the surrogate in the baby's life.

[Amanda853]

Yessssss, it would be nice if he proposed on Valentine's Day. That would be soooooo romantic. I am soooooo excited lol. its overwhelming (in a good way). I really can not want to start our life as one.

HAS ANYONE ELSE GOT MARRIED AT A YOUNG AGE??? I've really been meaning to ask you all this because i would LOVE to know how it was, or if family disagreed, or if you weren't ready.

[Amanda853]

WELCOME JROBERTSON20. Im glad you decided to join our post because its always good to have another person to talk to,befriend, be there for. How are you? What CD are you on?

SMJMEKG- I really wanted this to be your month but its not over until you're all dried up so we all can start over together. I really thought it was my month too. I completely agree with the similar symptoms because i had all preg symptoms that i never had before but still ended up seeing AF (Atleast I think i did. I know you all think im just in denial but Af was really different this time in color, length, and lightness.) but until i take another test, Im going to assume that it was AF. Its almost like charting symptoms is pointless because in the end it could mean anything or it could mean nothing.

[Lizmab20]

Have you talked to your mother before about being a surrogate for you? Why would she say that? I think it would be hard to watch a stranger carry my baby, but I think a family member would be worse. A stranger wouldn't be able to hold it over your head like a family member would. I have always wanted to be a surrogate for some one, but I am overweight and I've never found a place that takes surrogates that are overweight.

[Gailybaby]

Morning ladies! well no symptoms today at all. I feel 100% normal! and that is weird compared to yesterday! oh well jsut another day to get through so either AF can show or I can get my BFP soon.

Intersting reading this morning... gurls must sya i have no told anyone we ae tyring after hte m/c so we will see what happens and it is if pos we will wait till 12 weeks.. excpet you guys will knwo before DH even.. lol kidding but htat how i feel more support form the gourp than family at the mo.!

YOU are all great thanks for all the comment wishes and listening to my whining!

[Aimz86]

*&@#!!!  I was just about to have a vent too... on mothers too! haha my mum said to me last night, we had really better start trying and 'do I even know when I am fertile' @$#$%#%!!!!!! I know when I am - it doesnt happen I have ovulated ONCE in the past 2 years, and now I am on provera and its making me sick... GOSSHHHHH!!!! She was like well if you need me to surrogate for you then you need to work it out soon!


HOW DARE SHE!!!!! We have only been trying for 4 months 3 months 'officially' just because i dont ovulate (every month) doenst mean I cant do it, and it does mean it will be harder! and sorry but I dont think i could watch someone else i quote 'cook' my baby it would hurt too much and I dont even want to think about it!!!!! :( arghhhhhhh!!!! I AM FEELING YOUR PAIN MATE!!!!! Mothers can go stick it!

Anyway sorry ladies, I am actually ok just frustrated and reading ur post smj i was like NOOO NOOO NOOOO ATTACK OF THE MOTHERS MUST STOP!!!!

I am nauseated on and off, pains on and off, smells making me feel like I am going to chuck, (assume nausea), headache and extreame fatigue. CD56, on provera another 3 days i think... arghhh if the pains come back I am going to ER it was like stabbing thought it was my appendix, then thought cyst but it went away and I havent actually been sick or had funny bowel movmts (sorry tmi) anyway ... I will go to ER if they come back and make them do a blood test and ultrasound coz something is up. my nipples are burning on and off... maybe its all the provera???

[Lizmab20]

Wow I would have freaked out! I'm lucky. I have pretty great in laws and I know that my kids get the best care when they are with them. Of course at times my father in law says things that he should keep to himself. My mother in law knows we are trying, but she's the only one. I know that if my father in law knew I would get a call telling me all the reasons that we shouldn't have another baby right now. I'd argue with him, but it would be pointless.

[jrobertson20]

It doesn't help when you want something and you know you can handle it and then other people decide what is right and wrong for you.  Good luck with everything and just ignore them but I know how hard that is!!

[smjmekg]

DH's mom will be lucky if she sees her grandchild(ren). The one and only time I left my, at the time, 6 month old with her for an hour and a half, I came back to a screaming, in pain baby. I don't know what she did to him, other than giving him two 6oz bottles while I was gone, after he had just finished the one I gave him before I left...my poor baby had a tummy ache, and it was more than obvious, he was crying, screaming, and I mean tears rolling down his face crying, kicking, balling up...if you touched his tummy or laid him back he would scream so loud...I was almost in tears, I felt so bad for leaving him with her...no offense to anyone but she's a "witch" or whatever she calls herself, and she has some of the WEIRDEST...I don't even know...I just don't trust her to keep my child anymore.

[Lizmab20]

I'm sorry they are giving you a hard time. Sometimes people talk when they shouldn't. As frusterated as you are now just keep in mind that they will be happy when you are pregnant. Do what is best for you and your family and ignore the rest of what they say.

[smjmekg]

UGH! Need to vent ladies, although I see a lot of venting going on today, is it a full moon? LOL. Anyways...I told my mom and DH's mom about us trying again, and told them both today that AF had started, hoping to get a little sympathy or something other than bad since this year hasn't started off well. So my mom says "good". She's worried about us moving into a new house in 3 months, which would be 6 months before I would have been due if I had conceived. DH's mom said "well I'm sorry since I know you were wanting it, but I'm not sorry because I don't believe it's the right time". Why the H3LL doesn't anyone listen to us??? We already know we're moving in three months, we know DH can get deployed soon after getting to the states, WE ARE OKAY WITH IT!!! We made the mistake of telling both moms that we were planning to start trying and since it's been non-stop "this is another reason you shouldn't have another baby yet" from his mom, not too much from mine. But holy @$%^!!! I for one don't believe DH's mom has ANY room to talk, DH and his sister were unplanned, accidents, and only 11 months apart. DS is now 19 months old, and DH and I are more than ready, if we weren't we'd be using protection. I should be used to DH's mom's comments...she's always like this, but really...She went on to tell me that if we're trying to hard it won't happen, and I told her we weren't trying too hard, it's just not our month...but then she b!tched at me because I took a test yesterday THE DAY I WAS DUE/possibly one day late, and I started AF today, and I'm technically 1-2 days late. How am I trying too hard by testing the day AF is due when NOTHING looked like she was coming, she didn't show until 1030 pm and it was 2 little spots when I wiped...2!!! If I had been pregnant it could have been from my cervix getting irritated due to DH and I BDing last night...UGH!!!!!!!!!!! I could scream right now, but DS is asleep...and I have people living above and below me.  Phew!!!! I feel better now. Screaming online helps...even if it's not out loud, I feel relieved...More than anything I just wish people would be happy that we're trying for another baby. What's so wrong about wanting more than one child, and planning it? Instead of having accidents, I have kids. I was prepared for anything when DH and I got married and from day one decided when it happened it would happen, we never used protection until this year, in the 2 and a half years we've been married. Granted 8 months of it we were apart before I moved with DS to Korea...but still. We know what we're doing, we're not stupid, and we want this...why don't people understand that???

[Lizmab20]

Thanks! I'm hoping I don't see AF for 9 months. lol

[jrobertson20]

I did the exact same thing.  I took like 3 tests knowing it would be too soon but I thought maybe I would be lucky.  It didn't help that I had a stomach problems right after we started trying (probably something I picked up at work) but it made me think maybe they were symptoms.  It's funny the things we do even know common sense tells us different.  I also need to vent somewhere because we are not telling anybody either.  Good luck and I hope AF doesn't show up tomorrow!!!

[Lizmab20]

I have just joined this site today. I have 2 kids. (Both unplanned) Hubby and I have decided to try for our 3rd. We have only been trying for a month now and AF is due tomorrow. I don't know how people plan having kids. I am going insane with the waiting. And I did the dumbest thing. I bought a hpt and took 2 of them last week. I knew they would be negative, but I still let myself be disappointed when I didn't have the extra line. :( Don't mean to be whiney. I just needed to vent. Hubby is patient and isn't bothered by the waiting like I am and he doesn't want me telling friends and family we are trying.