HCG, Conception, BC, and my circus life

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I have an issue that has made itself a very detrimental part of my life. I believe getting your opinion on this would help me cope with the situation.

The Facts:

1) My girlfriend is pregnant.
2) First day of last menstrual period: 4/27/07 (also the day she stopped birth control)
3) This cycle was her first cycle on the patch, previous to that she had been on the pill.
4) We were very sexually active from 4/27-4/12.
5) She was with someone else, here forth referred to as "him", from 5/17-5/22 (4 times).
6) She was with me again from 4/23-4/26.
7) Her HCG level was 333.23 on 6/4/07.
8) The pictures from her first ultrasound (sometime in June), one of those intravaginal deals, say that the G.A. was 6 weeks 5 days, which corresponds to 5/9/07. I was under the impression that these machines read gestational age, not the actual age of the fetus. My confusion exists in the fact that the doctor knew the day of her LMP therefore I do not see the reason the machine would give the aforementioned date if it was infact estimating gestational age.

9) The baby is a male.
10) When not on birth control, her cycle is usually 38 days.

My thoughts:

1) I have read that a girl is more likely to have a boy if she climaxes during intercourse. This has only been the case when she was with me.

2) I have read that fighter pilots are less likely to have males because pulling G's does something to the male sperm cells. He is a fighter pilot. He also had cancer and the doctors said he may never be fertile again. He is fertile again but on the low end of the spectrum

3) Through various research I was under the impression that HCG levels started fairly low (5 or so) and doubled every 2-3 days. I also am of the understanding that HCG levels begin to double at implantation, which occurs 8-10 days after ovulation.

4) I have read that in some cases woman can ovulate quicker than normal after getting off of birth control. My theory is that hormonal BC methods regulate the cycle to prevent pregnancy by using natural hormones estrogen and proestrogen. Estrogen preps "the area" for implanatation. When the body senses that "the area" is ready, a woman ovulates. After a woman stops BC, especially the patch sense it puts 60% more estrogen into your blood, it is my theory that a woman may be more quickly primed for ovulation...Just my thoughts, I'll let you all opine.

5) I know it will come down to this eventually so please let me know if this will be a satisfactory method. They are both O- blood types. I understand that two O-'s can only produce an O-. I am not O-. I understand that a mother contributes her type and her RH factor (+/-) and the father can give his type or his recessive type and his RH factor or his recessive RH factor. So the theory is that if the baby is O-, it could be mine or his, but if the baby is anything else, it is definetely mine.


This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I really really really want this baby to be mine, and I really really really want to start a family with this girl. Any information you can provide me as far as the likelihood of me being the father would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

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I see a mispost in my original feed. #4 in the "facts" section should read, 4/27-5/12 and #6 in that section should be 5/23-5/26. Thanks

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Thank you for the positive feedback. The day she told me that she was with someone else I told her it didnt matter and I loved her no matter what, and wanted to be with her and raise this child no matter what. Regardless of whether we were on a "break" or not, we were still very much in love and we both agree that she made a mistake...I guess the issue is that she is kind of letting this "mistake" be the deciding factor on the progression of our relationship. : (...

There are a whole bunch of factors that play into her decision that I don't want to post...as much as I try to convince myself otherwise, she isn't really being unloving toward me in this decision...I don't want this blog to turn into a "gang up" on her or her character so I'm going to leave it at that. Thanks.

[NewAFwife]

In the end you will just have to wait and see when the baby is born.  With your chances, I would say you have done enough research to figure it out, but if she was comming off of BC then who knows where she was at in her cycles.
If you were on a break, and she has done nothing wrong (or even if she has cheated on you BUT you have worked things out) I don't see any reason for you not to try to start a family with her.  Even if this child is not yours, if you love her she is still worth it (at least in my opinion).  If she was unfaithful and you have not worked on that, then using a child to keep her with you is not smart.  If you love her and want to start a family, then be there for her through this, and see if she feels the same.  You cannot control the outcome of the pregnancy, so worry about it will just make you crazy.

[melimeli]

you will just have to wait and see...  the u/s gives an accurate date not based on last menstral period but rather on crown to rump length...they give you the time you are preg... (the age of the baby plus 2 weeks)  for example... when they did mine they told me 6 weeks pg... the baby was 4 weeks but they always add 2 weeks...

I hope that she didn{t cheat on you and that you were on a break otherwise she isn{t worth it.

[Diane1003]

Sounds like you've done quite a bit of research.  When going off BC your body has to adjust so there's no way of knowing when ovulation occured.  You can wonder and play what if until it drives you nuts - the only way to know is to wait and see what blood type the baby is.  With the whole gender thing, I think if you search long enough you can find data to support what you want.  Good luck with things.