I am worried

the last day of i had periods was on 22nd of January. after that i didn't had. even though i didn't had any symptoms either . now i feel i am pregnant because my stomach is coming up. i want to know whether i can do a abortion and what kind of abortion. even after 3 months . please help me to solve this problem .

[workingmamaof4]

if your last period was 1/21 and you are pregnant then you are 21 weeks, which means it's too late for an abortion. At least in America it is, not sure where you are...

nothing like paying attention to your body and being responsible. you need to take a pregnancy test.

[Mommy_Nicki]

I know this is a pregnancy forum. most of us are all happy that we are pregnant and I don't agree with abortion WHATSOEVER. No matter if you were raped, or just being irresponsible, it ISN'T RIGHT. Every one deserves a chance and you need to have that baby if you are pregnant.

[kittykates]

If you are really pregnant, PLEASE do the right thing and give this baby up for adoption.  Just because you don't want it doesn't mean it doesn't deserve to have a life.  Please take responsibility now. Please.

[NotAMommyYet]

I just suffered a pregnancy loss and am right now struggling with with my second pregnancy. I feel like I would do anything to be a mom. Please don't take away this baby's life. There are wonderful families who would love to have a little baby. Please be responsible and do the right thing.

[Prometrium?]

Dear Amenda,

I suspect that you are a young single girl perhaps under 18 years of age?  If you are over 18, let me know, perhaps I can help you find a loving home for your baby.  Write back to this forum and let me know if you want to email in private.
dd.

[Brin_Mamaof4]

Hi,

I have 4 kids... After my daughter I had a tubal ligation done immediately following the delivery. I was extremely fertile!! You could cough on me and I'd get pregnant ; )

Anyway, my cycle of 26days is consisent and has been this whole time until this month... I was suppose to start on 6/15 and I still havent yet (5days late)! I took a HPT and it was neg. I never miss a period... I do have some pregnancy symptoms.. nausia, fatique, cramping.. and slight vertigo at times. I read someone elses post that their HPT didn't show positive until 6weeks - right now I would be calculated as 4 weeks 3days... would there not be enough HCG to show up on a HPT? Even though its the one that says "Now know sooner....5 days before your missed period"??

Thanks for your help,
Brin

[GlennaJ]

Do not get an abortion.......it is not right.....I'm sorry that just my opinion.

[maryhe]

I think it is too late for an abortion, but you need to determine how far along you really are or if you are even pregnant/have a viable pregnancy.

Although I don't think someone should abort at this stage, you may want to check with a reputable clinic. In any case, they can tell you about other options like adoption.  You need to make the choice yourself based on your own beliefs.  

That being said, there are many women who want a baby on this forum and are either having problems or simply can't.  I'm sure you could find a happy home for the child if you wish to give it up.  Understand it is very painful for many women on this forum to hear about a possible abortion when they are trying so hard to have a child.

Take care of yourself.  I wish you the best of luck.

[pookii45]

I had unpretected sex twice 6 days ago(6/14) and he pulled out and i suspected that i may be pregnant i had all the symptoms but i started my period today (6/20) and it isnt as heavy as usale but it isnt light either and I am worried. could i be pregnant? how long should i wait until i take a pregnacy test?

[nsrchofbaby]

I seriously doubt you would have any pregnancy symptoms 6 days after you had unprotected sex...it's not even realistic. You need to learn about your cycle. Were you expected to get your period on or about the 20th? Common sense tells you that if you were expected to get a period and you did, it's normal...it also tells you that if you don't want to get pregnant, you shouldn't have unprotected sex or have sex at all for that matter.

[akaymik85]

An abortion wouldn't be right, even if she was raped?
Who asked for your moral/ethical opinion? Um....I don't think anyone did.

I take it you haven't been raped and become pregnant, so don't go off spouting your opinions on a matter you don't know anything about!

-Amanda

[kjbutcher]

being a person who does agree with abortion, i still think that 21 weeks is a bit late.  i know at 21 weeks i could feel my baby almost every day.  at this point it is a baby baby.  i think i even read that it could dream at this point.  maybe you will learn from this experience that procrastination is bad!  

[DSYBAHENA]

I HAD A MISSCARIAGE FOUR MONTHS AGO AND IT WAS SUCH A HARD PAIN. MY MOM WANTED ME TO HAVE AN ABORTION BECUSE BACK THEN I WAS 17 I FIGHTED FOR MY TO STAY AND IT DID. GOD TOOK HIM AWAY FROM THO. NOW IM PREGNANT AGAIN THAT SEEMS TO BE GOING INTO A MISSCARIAGE. DONT GET AN ABPRTION THERE ARE OTHER WAYS LIKE ADOPTION

[SDteacher]

Dear Amenda,

I have had an abortion many years ago.  Ironically, I am trying desperately with my husband to have a baby and it has been a long journey.  We are still not pregnant!   If you have this baby there are so many couples who would be willing to adopt it.  I am one of those people who would feel blessed to have a baby!  I have even made a baby room!

Please do what is best for you.  If you choose to have it, please let us know.  I am in Southern California.
Where are you?  In the USA you can always bring a baby to a hospital anonymously and they will find a family for him or her.  No questions asked.

Sincerely,
KB

[SDteacher]

Have you ever been raped????   Ignorant people as yourself have no business voicing your unethical opinions.  So if you were terrible raped... ripped open by a total stranger who by NO choice of your own ejaculates into you... you would want to allow your egg to grow into a baby????  What would you tell that child when he or she grew up and wanted to know about it's father????  Would you lie???  That is not ethical!  I believe you are unable to make intelligent decisions and hope your children will have better sense than you!  You are rediculous.   The world is not black and white... there are exceptions; even when it comes to morals and ethics.  Read a text book on Ethics and maybe you will understand that some circumstances are situational, cultural, an can be based by upbringing.....  but never black and white.  Think about that.  It is not your way or the highway. It is okay to feel strongly about something but be smart about it!

[witch30]

This is not an abortion site it is a pregnancy site.
I have had 5 miscarriages and am currently pregnant again. If you are prgnant do you realise how lucky you really are. there are people out there who cannot have any children and here you are discussing the option to kill the baby. It is thoughtless and irresponsible. abortion is not in place for contraceptive purpose it is for medical reasons like the health of you or your baby is in danger. Do you realise your baby if pregnant can feel pain now and would feel what you are about to do. Why not give the baby up for adoption and let it bring joy and happiness to someone who really cares. HAVE A CONSCIENCE AND DON'T BE SO SELFISH.

[ez2no05]

I was wondering how long would you have to wait to get your thyriod level down to try to have a baby.

[naneli]

hi amenda!

i dont know your situation, much less the reason why you are interested in an abortion.  i assume may be you are scared or may be you feel you cant take care of the baby... although you probably are very stressed about it, please consider other options....

like many people here have said, motherhood is a miracle... so many of us have been trying to conceive and have waited and waited for years.... some of us are still trying and still have not been able to do it.  in other words, there are many couples trying to become parents, and may be your baby would be a blessing for them...

i am sure you have strong reasons for considering abortion, but please think about the life you are carrying inside of you... and what a wonderful gift it could be for someone who is ready to be a mom.  believe me, some of us would go around the world to take care of your baby.

with great sympathy and hope.

[tashbash]

Hi

I'm 9 weeks pregnant. Nausea has suddenly stopped. Not had any for the past 4 days. Breasts haven't been sore since i've been pregnant. I've broke out in loads of spots all over and i never normally have spots. As you can imagine with this being my first pregnancy worried that i have suddenly stopped feeling nauseated.My partner and mum told me not worry as i could be normal. I have an appointment with midwife on friday so i guess i will wait till then to talk to her. I just hope nothing is wrong.

I'm feeling very randy and i have heard that's not really normal in the first trimester... Any advice. is it normal or does anyone have no symptoms like myself...

Thanks

Natasha

[MrsJacox]

jan22nd...  wow... techinally you are already 7 months pregnant.. i could be wrong.. you are so blessed. im only 6 or 7 weeks pregnant and already i feel i have a connection wih my baby... i feel of course you shouldnt abort it(even though you probably cant)  but sometimes a woman has to do what a woman has to do. God Bless you and keep your head up.

[guenevere]

so, what happened?

No one deserves to be preached to; we all have our own circumstances and we are entitled to them. Although, apparently, no one "agrees" with abortion, you have to live your own life and make your choices.

Thank god we can still do THAT.
Good luck to you.

[crazeemonkee22]

hey everyone! i wanted to kno if any1 could help me...i am almost a week late for my period and i have been having many signs of pregnancy.  my last period was last month july 10th and 2 weeks after i had very light brown spotting but only when i wiped i would see it...then a week later and still i have been havin non stop clear sometimes whitish discharge like crazy and my breasts have been sore on and off and they just feel even bigger and heavier  and i noticed some like small bumps or pimple like things on my breasts by my nipples...i have been so exhausted lately like last weekend all i did was sleep and when i thought i had some energy i just would get tired all of a sudden...i have been peeing a lot and its so annoyin lol especially in the middle of the night...the other day i felt nausueas(srry cant spell it) ive been gettin some headaches and my lower back has been botherin me on n off....i did take 3 tests and all came up neg...just wanted to see what u guys think i would love the advice....n i havent been using protection w my bf either....plze help thanks all!

[alicia_m]

kinda worried. reading these blogs have relieved me a little, but i am still a little concerned.

my bf and were trying to conceive for almost a year (we just recently stopped a few months ago)
up until 4 days ago i was two weeks late. on the first day i noticed just a small amount of bloody discharge and thought i was starting and put a tampon in-i noticed a few hours later nothing was really goin on.. two days pass and nothing so i bought a pregnancy test yesterday- last night i started getting really bad cramps and started-so i never took the test. (this was later evening) which was really heavy. today while using the bathroom a large clot came out of me- which i know is semi normal (i have never clotted before.) i just went to change me tampon which had a small clott on it as well and i dropped another one while peeing. i think i am just afraid that i might have become pregnant and had a miscarriage. opinions? advice? help??!?!?!