My PCP said I have Moderate DEPRESSION!!

[mamaof4410]

Went to the Dr today for my yearly physical and I was telling him how I have been feeling lately, especially with all the stuff going on with my mother. He said I have moderate depression and since I'm pregnant they can't treat it. I cried. I called my husband histerically crying because I can't understand how I could be depressed. I have an amazing family, a wonderful husband....I have been crying alot for no reason and I do have trouble sleeping sometimes. He asked me a buttload of questions and said he wanted to do blood work to check if I have any vitamin deficiencies. I now feel guilty because I always have myself together and now I feel like the crap with my mom is really affecting me if this is going on.
Is there anything I can do to fix this?  I don't want to end up on anti-depressants or something...

[AshleyDMcCaig]

I can say I understand in a weird way, this might be much for some people to read because a lot of people get weird about it, but my Mom commit suicide in June 2010 and she wrote suicidal letters, in the one she wrote for me, she had said that she did it because of me, she was in a coma for about 2 months and came in and out of it for a few weeks or so, but she used to tell me that she didn't mean what she had said in her letter, to this day it still upsets me and I'm sure if I went to a Dr. they would tell me that I'm very depressed. Point is, I take life every day with a grain of salt, I try to enjoy it to the fullest and look at all of the bright sides, especially with being a first time Mom and getting to experience everything myself. I've read some of your other posts about your Mom, and it really seems like she's jealous of you and your lifestyle, she wants what you have and she can't have it, so she'll make you miserable as long as you let her. I think you cutting off complete ties with her is the best thing to do, which is hard because in the end she's still your Mom, but in the same instance, you have so much to live for now, your amazing family that keeps you going every day, I'm sure you do this, but look at your kids already, they know they have an amazing Mother and wouldn't change you for the world. Some people need help when it comes to people like your Mom, but if they aren't willing to get it, you won't be able to do anything for them. You have YOUR family, and that's all you'll need. :)

[luxejess93]

I'm in sorta the same boat. I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 13. I had a really tough time in high school and ended up dropping out and getting my GED. I was always on a different med to see what worked. But the only thing that truly helped me was growing up and maturing and seeing the world in a new light. I finally got to get off my meds last March and have felt okay ever since with a flare up maybe once a week. I too met a wonderful man who understands me through it all :) I get some more flare ups now that I'm pregnant of course with the hormones. My mom always drives me crazy too. She chooses abusive men and still chooses them over me. But I'm sure everything will go back to normal after you give birth. I had a really bad week myself a few weeks back, but I got through it. Just breathe through it and think of all the good things in your life.

[mamaof4410]

I was diagnosed wth depression when I was 12. That's when my moms crap really started. They put me on Paxil and I was a zombie. I stopped taking it within a month. This continued until the summer of 02'...then i met my now husband. He changed everything. I finally felt loved and wanted. And I still feel the very same way with him almost 11 years later.
It has to be the stuff with my mom. My hubby and I went out to eat earlier and we left the kids with his mom. He came right out and asked me if I was still happy and in love with him. I actually cried because I don't want him to feel like its him doing something wrong. Because he does everything right. I really want to do this on my own and not have to rely on meds.

[NikiHans]

Counselling and relaxation techniques are great non pharmaceutical ways to cope with depression. Don't beat yourself up about it hun, it can sneak right up on you, even when you can't pinpoint anything that could have made you depressed. It just happens sometimes.

[lou1113]

It also helps to keep yourself busy if you can :) So you think less.. Just remember theres something wrong with her, not you. Shes losing out, not you.. I know shes your mom but you dont need someone like her in your life. Try think of what you do have rather than what you dont have. Thinking of you, and goodluck! :)

[lou1113]

I was depressed about a year ago, and doc gave me antidepressants.. I didnt want them but felt overwhelmed so i said id try.. They were horrible, i dont think they helped me. If i forgot one i would panic, or everytime i remembered to take one it just reminded me i was depressed which made me worse.. I found i cried more on them so stopped after 5 months, i stopped completley and had horrible side effects, dizzyness, panic attacks and kept getting frights for no reason or my heart would beat really fast. I told my doc and she wasnt happy she said i should have been weaned off, i didnt think being on them for such a short time could cause side effects.. Im glad u didnt take them! Im okay now and i dont need them.. I write positive quotes on sticky notes and put them on my mirror and around the house, i go for a walk or get lost in a book.. I also see a counseller every 2 weeks and it helps alot, i hated the thoughts at first but its good to go somewhere where you can vent.. Sometimes u just need a good cry! :) You cant be happy all the time.. I know its hard but i think you should try forget about your mom, its her with the problem not you! She doesnt deserve you in her life.. Hope you feel better soon :)