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Need Advice & Thoughts Please!
Hi Everyone,
Okay here is my story...it's extremely confusing so try to stay with me! My husband & I started trying to have a baby July of this year. I went off the pill in June (and I had been on it for about 8 years) so my period was all messed up after I went off it. Got my period in July took a Preg test came back negative. Took one in August came back negative and I got my period on Aug 22nd. Than September I had no period, took a test and it came back negative. Still no period in October, took a test on Oct 29th and it came back positive! At this point I have no clue how far along I am because my last period was Aug 22nd which at the time would have made me more than 8 weeks, but I took a test in September and it came back negative so at that time I could have only been 4 weeks or less. As soon as I get the positive test in October I make an appointment at a health clinic on 11/16 to get a professional test done, and that comes back positive. Now in the meantime I'm starting too feel symptoms...hungry all the time, tired, back hurts, legs sore, breasts tender, stomach feels harder and appears to be growing a bit.
Everything is going fine, than the week of November 18th I notice some brown spotting in my pants and when I wipe-nothing major and I was told that was common, old blood nothing to worry about. Than right before I went to bed on 11/20 I wiped and there was more brown blood with some regular discharge. It worried me only because it was a lot more than I had normally seen. I quickly threw it in the toilet and told my husband. He suggested going to the hospital but I wanted to sleep on it-there was no bleeding no pain, so I went to bed. Woke up the next morning and there was nothing. Than around the evening of 11/21 I wiped and there was blood. No more than 1 second later I went to the hospital. They took my blood, urine and did a Vaginal Exam. My blood was great, still pregnant and my HCG Level was 11,901, urine was good and my Cervix was closed and I wasn't really bleeding anymore. Just a bit here and there when I wiped-they told me I was fine but to come back tomorrow for a u/s. So Thanksgiving Morning I went back for my first u/s, there was an empty gestational sac that measured 6w2d. And I'm assuming there was no heartbeat because the tech didn't say anything. And at the time I was asking a million questions but she told me she couldn't answer any of them for me, that the doctor would have to do that. So I was staring at this u/s not knowing what the heck I was looking at. I was so worried and sad...and the worst part is, I have no clue how far along I was supposed to be. Because I have heard sometimes it's too early to see a fetus or hear a heartbeat, so what if I am not as far along as I think??
So she than does a Transvaginal exam and tells me nothing again. She showed me my ovary and that was about it.
I wait for the doctor...and I get a PA not a doctor and she tells me my sac was empty and I'm not pregnant! She had no other information and said I needed to follow up with my OBGYN...I tried asking her a million questions and she gave me no answers. I will never go to that hospital again. My husband & I cried for 2 days straight...the next day I start to bleed a little but not too bad, than right after dinner time I went to the bathroom and started to bleed a bit more and that was when I passed about 2 good sized clots and than 1 longer clot. I was devastated!! And before I had passed the clots I had some cramps, but nothing like labor pains or anything, just like period pains. Right after I passed the clots, I had no cramps at all. I've continued to bleed and had to wear a pad...I feel like my symptoms are fading..my breasts no longer hurt, my appetite is gone...but I've heard after a while your breasts no longer hurt..and I think my appetite is gone because I was worried sick and now think I have miscarried, who would have an appetitie! And I've always had a bad back so my back feels the same and I've been feeling my stomach every second and at times it feels thinner and squishy..and other times it feels rounder and harder? So I don't know if my mind is playing tricks with me or not? I made an appointment with my OBGYN, so in the meantime I am left to wonder? I really want a second opinion...I know my case looks bad and all signs point to missarriage but I do believe in miracles and I've heard of many cases where women have bleed and passed clots during their pregnancy and gone on to have healthy babies. And I just feel this hospital was in such a rush to dismiss me and didn't explain anything. This is our first baby and we are clinging on to any hope we can get. I've read similar cases on other forums where woman had the same experience as me, most were miscarriages but some were miracles. I think about it day and night...not knowing if I am still pregnant or not is just killing me, I can't concentrate on anything or even enjoy anything. And it makes it worse knowing that my period was all messed up to begin with, I have no idea how far along I am...I was told no information...I feel left in the dark.
I guess what I'm looking for are stories about miracles. Hope is the only thing I have left. Please share your advice, thoughts and miracles! I am in true need of them all!
Thank you so much everyone,
Gina
Okay here is my story...it's extremely confusing so try to stay with me! My husband & I started trying to have a baby July of this year. I went off the pill in June (and I had been on it for about 8 years) so my period was all messed up after I went off it. Got my period in July took a Preg test came back negative. Took one in August came back negative and I got my period on Aug 22nd. Than September I had no period, took a test and it came back negative. Still no period in October, took a test on Oct 29th and it came back positive! At this point I have no clue how far along I am because my last period was Aug 22nd which at the time would have made me more than 8 weeks, but I took a test in September and it came back negative so at that time I could have only been 4 weeks or less. As soon as I get the positive test in October I make an appointment at a health clinic on 11/16 to get a professional test done, and that comes back positive. Now in the meantime I'm starting too feel symptoms...hungry all the time, tired, back hurts, legs sore, breasts tender, stomach feels harder and appears to be growing a bit.
Everything is going fine, than the week of November 18th I notice some brown spotting in my pants and when I wipe-nothing major and I was told that was common, old blood nothing to worry about. Than right before I went to bed on 11/20 I wiped and there was more brown blood with some regular discharge. It worried me only because it was a lot more than I had normally seen. I quickly threw it in the toilet and told my husband. He suggested going to the hospital but I wanted to sleep on it-there was no bleeding no pain, so I went to bed. Woke up the next morning and there was nothing. Than around the evening of 11/21 I wiped and there was blood. No more than 1 second later I went to the hospital. They took my blood, urine and did a Vaginal Exam. My blood was great, still pregnant and my HCG Level was 11,901, urine was good and my Cervix was closed and I wasn't really bleeding anymore. Just a bit here and there when I wiped-they told me I was fine but to come back tomorrow for a u/s. So Thanksgiving Morning I went back for my first u/s, there was an empty gestational sac that measured 6w2d. And I'm assuming there was no heartbeat because the tech didn't say anything. And at the time I was asking a million questions but she told me she couldn't answer any of them for me, that the doctor would have to do that. So I was staring at this u/s not knowing what the heck I was looking at. I was so worried and sad...and the worst part is, I have no clue how far along I was supposed to be. Because I have heard sometimes it's too early to see a fetus or hear a heartbeat, so what if I am not as far along as I think??
So she than does a Transvaginal exam and tells me nothing again. She showed me my ovary and that was about it.
I wait for the doctor...and I get a PA not a doctor and she tells me my sac was empty and I'm not pregnant! She had no other information and said I needed to follow up with my OBGYN...I tried asking her a million questions and she gave me no answers. I will never go to that hospital again. My husband & I cried for 2 days straight...the next day I start to bleed a little but not too bad, than right after dinner time I went to the bathroom and started to bleed a bit more and that was when I passed about 2 good sized clots and than 1 longer clot. I was devastated!! And before I had passed the clots I had some cramps, but nothing like labor pains or anything, just like period pains. Right after I passed the clots, I had no cramps at all. I've continued to bleed and had to wear a pad...I feel like my symptoms are fading..my breasts no longer hurt, my appetite is gone...but I've heard after a while your breasts no longer hurt..and I think my appetite is gone because I was worried sick and now think I have miscarried, who would have an appetitie! And I've always had a bad back so my back feels the same and I've been feeling my stomach every second and at times it feels thinner and squishy..and other times it feels rounder and harder? So I don't know if my mind is playing tricks with me or not? I made an appointment with my OBGYN, so in the meantime I am left to wonder? I really want a second opinion...I know my case looks bad and all signs point to missarriage but I do believe in miracles and I've heard of many cases where women have bleed and passed clots during their pregnancy and gone on to have healthy babies. And I just feel this hospital was in such a rush to dismiss me and didn't explain anything. This is our first baby and we are clinging on to any hope we can get. I've read similar cases on other forums where woman had the same experience as me, most were miscarriages but some were miracles. I think about it day and night...not knowing if I am still pregnant or not is just killing me, I can't concentrate on anything or even enjoy anything. And it makes it worse knowing that my period was all messed up to begin with, I have no idea how far along I am...I was told no information...I feel left in the dark.
I guess what I'm looking for are stories about miracles. Hope is the only thing I have left. Please share your advice, thoughts and miracles! I am in true need of them all!
Thank you so much everyone,
Gina
Hi all, just wanted to give you my update. Unfortunately I went in for my blood and exam today and my levels had dropped down to almost zero. So it was confirmed that I miscarried....I'm just trying to think positive, that is was meant to be this way and it was what was best for me and my baby. My husband & I are trying again right away and hopefully we'll get a healthy baby :) Good Luck everyone, thanks for all the advice!
Thank you all so much for your advice and thoughts! I think my body is playing games with me, one hour I feel pregnant, the next I don't. And the thing that plagues me is I was never told how far along I was and when they did an u/s they saw a sac and I believe it measured at 6mm-which I have no idea if that is normal? I don't even know what I passed...I was so discouraged I flushed right away. And the hospital was in such a rush to get me out of there, and to think when a woman goes through such a traumatic experience, there are people in hospitals who are just careless...it's so sad. My appointment is Monday-I'm soo scared. I believe in miracles, but at the same time I already feel so devastated. To wake up one morning pregnant...and than the next not, that just scars you for life. And to have to tell the people you told....so painful. But I'm holding on to any hope I can find. Thanks for all your thoughts!
I am really sorry to hear what you have been through. I just recently had a miscarriage in August, I was approximately 7 wks pregnant. My symptoms were similar to yours, I began with some mild cramping and light bleeding. I imediately called the hospital and was told to go into the emergency room if my syptoms got worst. For the time being, they scheduled me in for a check up the following morning. Turns out to be that I was miscarring, and the cramping had to do with my body trying to pass some tissue. My Dr. immediately was able to tell by the ultrasound that my pregnancy was not normal, there was no sac nor baby. I ended up miscarring at the hospital. After passing additional tissue the cramping stopped right away and breast were no longer tender. My husband and I were devestated since we had been planning this pregnancy. We were told to hold of on trying again for two months which we have, and I am happy to say that I am pregnant again! :) although the thought of miscarring again scares me. I pray to God, that we are able to have this baby! So, don't get discourage, God knows what he's doing and things always happen for a reason. Stay positive, I truly wish you the best and good luck to you!
Don't worry, if this baby is meant to be, all will be well. And if it is not, you can try again. My advice is to pray. My mom had bleeding through 6mnths and my friend recently gave birth to a health baby and she had bleeding so much that they disabled her until she gave birth. She couldn't even do house chores. Never rely on a hospital, they are in a rush and half the time don't even care. Wait to see your ob and in the mean time pray and have peace. Everything happens for a reason. When you tested in september it was probably too soon. Don't worry, just be at ease, you don't want to hurt the baby with stress. God bless you and guide you my friend!!!!
It doesn't sound to good, but like you said miracles can happen. Just pray about it! Good luck and let us know what happens.
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