Pregnancy after miscarriage..anyone have stories?

[Joshs_Angels]

Hi everyone :)
I post/read questions on here every now and then, and now have a good question for anyone who may be able to help.
I usually post in the December '08 Babies forum but thought I might reach more people this way.

So, since I'm new to this forum, here's my story.
I was pregnant earlier this year, and had a miscarriage at 8w1d. Didn't have or need a D&C since I was so early on, so I passed everything naturally without needing any help (first pregnancy, too). Of course my fiancee and I were completely devastated and wanted to be pregnant again as soon as we could. My ob/gyn told me to wait til I had one period, then we could try. Though we were being careful, we had a few accidents in June but I got my period towards the end of the month, so that didn't take (which I can understand, since my cycle was all thrown off and not regulated again yet.) I wanted to wait for that first period again anyway so I wasnt too disappointed...just thought it would make more sense, allowing my body to "flush" out anything extra that may have still been retained. We tried ALOT in July, and yet, I still got my period, which was a huge emotional blow for us. Now this month, we bought at-home ovulation strips to give us a clearer picture of when we should really be trying, and we did when I seemed to be having my LH surge. Still waiting on how our efforts paid off; my period isnt due until this wednesday (8/20). I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high this month, seeing as how last month didnt quite work, but am experiencing things as I was when I was pregnant (constantly fatigued, food aversions and eating all the time, severe mood swings, frequent urination, breast tenderness, etc.) And my fiancee is saying I'm acting EXACTLY how I was when I was pregnant, and I know I am too.
My problem is, I took an early result pregnancy test yesterday morning and it came back negative (which is why I'm doubting that I'm pregnant, but then again I dont know when TO test because my period for July was 2 days late...I dont know if they're regulated yet.) I dont know if it was just maybe still too early to be very sure though (yesterday was 4 days pre-period). So maybe I took it too soon? And when I had taken it, I had already gone to the bathroom 2 or 3 times that night also...which I'm thinking may be why it came back negative (all the pregnancy tests say the best time to test is with your first morning's urine because it most likely has the highest amount of HcG in it..probably because you sleep and dont pee all night :)
So I'm wondering if anyone has had that happen before, getting a negative result for whatever reason and actually still ending up pregnant?
And if anyone else on here has had a miscarriage, how long did it take you to conceive again?
I know I should just play the waiting game and hang on a few more days to see if I get my period...but I'm just so anxious for predictions and advice!
Thank you everybody!

[KM604]

I am so sorry about your loss and understand how hard it can be.  My husband and I started TTC in August 2007.  I had been on the pill for the past 7 1/2 years so I knew my cycles would be screwed up for a bit so it might not have been as easy to get pregnant at first.  Well my periods were off, but I would still test when I was late just in case.  Well I had a period the end of October so I should have gotten my period in the end of November.  Well on December 2 I was a week late, tested and it was negative.  I had mild period like cramping for the next few weeks and called the doctor, he put me on Progesterone supplement because since my home pregnancy test was negative, he said this would help start my period.  Well I ended up starting to spot, that lasted 5 days then on Christmas day I was in extreme pain and bleeding very heavily.  I went to the ER the next day, turns out I was pregnant and had m/c'd.  We aren't sure exactly how far along I was (because there was nothing to show on the u/s) but based on my last period I was about 7-8 weeks along.  I had a natural m/c, I passed everything on my own.  Well I got my next period 8 weeks later (in early February).  We continued TTC and finally did so in the end of May.  It took us almost 10 months to have a successful pregnancy, but I am now 14 1/2 weeks along and everything has looked great so far.  I never realized the effect the m/c would have on me, I would think about it every single day.  Now that I am pregnant again, I am 100% focused on this baby but I do think about how I would have had a baby by now, I also wonder if it was a boy or a girl.  But honestly, there is a reason for everything.  Like my doctor told me, at least we knew we could get pregnant.  But just know that it will take time to get pregnant again - some people are lucky and get pregnant right away.  If you really think about it, you only have a 24-36 hour period each month to actually conceive - so it's not like there are that many oppurtunities.  Best of luck of message me if you have any other questions.

[KellyA74]

I'm sorry about your loss....It's so hard.
As far as symptoms go, I didn't have any until I was at least 6 weeks along, so I'm not sure about that part of it....
Anyway, I had a missed M/C in Dec....meaning my babies (twins) did not miscarry on their own.  I waited for 5 days for something to happen and nothing did, so I had a D&C after confirming the lost pregnancy with bloodwork (i was in denial as I was having no symptoms of anything being wrong).  After the D&C, my Dr. told us to wait 3 cycles before trying again.....I basically told him no, and that we were going to try right away...as I'm not getting any younger (34 now)......so we tried in Dec., Jan., Feb. and it happened in March.  I'm 24 weeks now and all seems to be fine.  
I know how frustrating it can be trying month after month....it took 5 months the 1st time around.......I too used the OPT's......What worked for us finally....was BD'ing EVERY day for the entire week that I was fertile......sometimes 2x a day....exhausting, but now I have my little guy on the way, so it was worth it!  :o)
Best wishes.

[pmperez]

I had a miscarriage Feb 7th of this year I was about 5 weeks pregnant...I was also devastated was told to wait but low and behold I got pregnant before I ever started my next period...its funny how things happen, Im now 28 weeks pregnant and the baby is doing great...I feel your pain, I had just started seeing a Reproductive Endocrinologist because I thought I couldnt get pregnant then bam!! 2 times, I said your a really good doctor we never even started treatment I only had my interview....lol..he said sometimes it happens that way..and they still tell my story to other women who are coming in with the same issues...believe me it will happen again and you will be so nervous and scared but it levels off after a while....Best Wishes!!

[Joshs_Angels]

Thank you guys. No matter what stories you all have, its always comforting to know that theres other women out there who know and have experienced what i went through. it makes me feel better knowing im not alone. i will try to relax about it and focus on other matters but with feeling the loss of what i loved and wanted so bad, its so hard and sometimes seems impossible. sometimes i feel like i wont be completely happy until i'm not only pregnant again, but feeling and holding my child in my arms :) what also makes it alot harder for me is my best female friend..who is 7 &1/2 months pregnant right now, who i work with and see almost every day. our pregnancies brought us so much closer together. now i feel sad and jealous when i look at her. but i still love her and will always be there for her and her baby. her baby shower was sunday, and i went, but as soon as i got home i had a major meltdown. but, with the constant help of my fiancee im getting better :) my period is due today, nothing yet, but am holding out til friday to re-test again. i am letting it wean from my mind. i already forgot it was wednesday :)

[StressHead]

I miscarried in Feb after 7 weeks. Tried straight away and was disappointed. Bought ovulation sticks and used them. Had a period four weeks after M/C and that was the only one I ever saw. Had a funny cycle, seems that I ovulated three times in the space of 8 weeks. I am 19 weeks pregnant at the moment with twins but it seems I got pregnant on the only day we BD'd for fun.

I know it's hard, try not to get your hopes up. It takes some women a month, some several and some years. Try and focus on something else.

[leighanne143]

i had 2 MC's, one in oct 07 and one in feb 08 and now i am 13 weeks 1 day pregnant again.  

when your body is ready, it will happen.  i totally beleive that our bodies know when they are healed enough to make it work.

[em0ti0nz1086]

Hey everyone I too had a miscarriage one in May of last year and one this April, one at 10 weeks and the other at 7 weeks.  I am currently 8 weeks pregnant now and so far so good hope it stays like that.

[Jusaqirlxox]

Wow. Your story sounds like mine....

I miscarried in April at 13wks so I had to have a D&C done. I waited 2 months before TTC. Here it is August and I am feeling horrible, just like when I pregnant before. I did take some $tree test and they all came back negative and I was 5-3 days before. AF is supposed to be here tuesday, hopefully she wont show her ugly face.  Keep us posted.

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[tarrah87]

hi i am very sorry for your loss, but i know exactly how you feel. i had a m/c in aug of 2008, at 8 wks, and after that i wanted a baby so bad so i waited a month and then got preg 3 months after m/c unfortunately i lost that pregnancy at 21 wks due to an incopatent cervix and it was twins who had twin to twin transfusion syndrome. i do recomment giving yourself some more time to heal. i know how you feel but it is best to wait a few more months if possible. it's been 5 months since the twins died and i am still having a hard time with that and i thought ppl were crazy when they said try to wait a lil bit, bc i want a baby so bad, but that gives u time to completely heal and lowers the chances of post pardum depression according to my doc.