Sensitive subject, how to talk to my OB about it.

[KTowne]

When DS was first born we thought he was colicy, because he would cry all the time, after changing his formula many times and seeing the doctor many times about it, she just said he might be a fussy baby. At about 2 months old he woke up and his arm wasn't moving, I took him straight to his ped. and she though it was dislocated, and she said it happens quite a bit, she did an x-ray and found out his arm was broken, they did a full skeletal x-ray and found out he had 8 other broken bones, mostly his long bones. She assured me she didn't think we were abusive, as we were very concerned the entire time, and she never even realized anything was wrong in the 8+ visits we saw her, on top of that, he was mild anemic, so if any abuse was occuring, he would've had massive bruising. But it was her job to report it to CPS, cps opened an investigation, and they also let us know they didn't think we were abusive, but it was their job, and we had to go through the court system. After a longgg year battle over it, they found nothing on us, but also found nothing that caused the broken bones. We seen a specialist about 2 weeks after his arm was broke and he said it could've been temporary brittle bone disease, or during my rough emergency c-section they could've broken his bones and handling him like a normal infant could've been refracturing them. Temporary brittle bone disease is rare, and it's not like a regular blood test that will tell you yes, or no, he doesn't have it, he can be tested a hundred times, and it may only show positive once, if it ever does. I want to mention this to my doctor, just so he knows to look out for anything abnormal with my little girl, and in case it was an issue with my c-section being too rough, but it's a very sensitive subject for me, and as much as I was assured they didn't think we were abusive, if I heard the story from someone else, I would wonder, and I don't want my doctor thinking that way of me, I really feel it's important for him to know though, to avoid all of what happened in case it were to happen again. Any input? I don't know how to approach it with him without him thinking I'm a psycho child abuser! :(

[KTowne]

That's also what I was thinking Rainboybaby, I have no reason to hide it, but definitely want to mention it, and she will be seeing my son's specialist as well, so she can be checked over by someone that specializes in infants bones, and make sure we aren't missing anything, if god forbid, she had any of the same issues.

[RainbowBaby]

I definitely would mention it KTowne. They have to watch out for it when they deliver your little girl and if you are vocal about it now, and at the hospital, if she (heaven-forbid) ends up with it also, you already have record of speaking about it before having your little one with you. Good luck!

[KTowne]

It is VERY hard, especially not knowing he was in so much pain and there was nothing I could do to help him at all, thank god he's had no ongoing issues, and temporary brittle bone disease resolves itself usually within the 1st year. And thank god he'll never remember it, because it was definitely the hardest thing I had to go through!

DNP, it is humiliating! I'm sorry you had to go through that too, and soo glad it's over!

[DNP47]

I just wanted to say that I had an issue with CPS also, though it was no fault of my own. My daughter had a skin infection that she got from the hospital, well it kept reoccuring so her pediatrician recommended that I use a treatment commonly used in adults. It was much too strong for her skin and caused her to have a chemical burn (she was maybe 12 months old). Well I kept calling the nurse line my insurance provides telling them that the cream was making her cry, and her skin was red and irritated. They reported me to cps. They had to do an investigation (which is humiliating right?). They only did one home visit (unexpected...that was the first we heard of any investigation was them knocking on the door). Well lucky for me the doctor admited what she did, so they concluded that I did not burn my child on purpose. I was (and still am) very angry about the whole situation. It made me feel like I did something wrong. Just wanted to offer my story and support, you are not the only GOOD parent who has been investigated. I hope your new baby does not have any bone related issues, and that he/she is born without any problems. And I also hope that you dont hold on to any shame associated with the investigation, it is not your fault=)

[alyringy]

Wow. I have no advice but I just wanna say I'm so sorry this happened to your little one that had to be so hard to deal with. It would take a strong momma which obviously you are!

[KTowne]

Thank you! :), and I guess I'll just have to tell him exactly what I posted, and ohh well what he thinks of me, I need to make sure my little girl is checked thoroughly through in the beginning, so he needs to know!

[niqua123]

I support u 100%.... :))))

[KTowne]

I definitely feel more comfortable letting my OB know, it's not that I have any reason to hide it, I just don't want anyone thinking any less of me, it was the hardest year of my life, and thank god we had an awesome team of people working with us, we seen about 4 specialists out of state to make sure he got the best care, I just never want to have to go through that again. And thank you, I would never ever hurt a child, let alone my own, and I very much trust everyone around me or they wouldn't be in my life! I have a very nice doctor, so I'm sure he'll understand. My entire family, and DH and I were put through the wringer, lie detector tests, background checks, interviewed our entire families and friends (just routine things) and CPS were not in the least bit concerned, so I'm not concerned about it being a matter of abuse, just want to make sure my little girl doesn't have any similar issues!

[niqua123]

I would def recommended u mention it to ur doctor especially if the baby specialist concluded it could be due to having cesarean.. Good luck Hun.. How ur so knowledgeable about pregnancy and babies I don't think ur capable of hurting any child not alone yours..:))

[KTowne]

Oh, and there were no children in my house, when visiting my sister my niece and nephew were never alone with him, and DH (who I trust 100% anyway, would never worry about him) would never watch him alone, he's never been around babies, but I completely understand your questioning.

[KTowne]

Yes, absolutely, he was mild anemic, so there's no way someone was abusing him (no one watched him, outside of me at all in the first 2 months of his life anyway) he would've had bruises, and never had any bruising at all, he had many symptoms of brittle bone disease as well, very dark blue in the whites of his eyes, bowed legs, barrel chested, etc (and he continues to see his specialist and get tested every year) The specialist is a very credited doctor that told us a c-section can fracture a childs bones, a vaginal birth it can occur too, it's not that the doctors were too rough, it's a matter of there being something wrong with his bones. His ped. will not be the one that does his early day check ups, I'm going to a hospital in a different town, so the ped. on call at that hospital will be the one seeing him the first few days, that's why I want to mention it to him.

[AnnieBrooke]

Sorry to sound like one of those people who hears the story from someone else, but have you absolutely ruled out entirely the possibility of any person (obviously, not you) harming your son?  A caregiver?  A child in the house?  Anyone in his life at all when you are not in the room?

If you are certain that was not what occurred, you're just going to have to be sure your pediatrician (who knows the story) is the one who deals with your child at his early-days checkups and all.  The C-section would not break a child's bones, kids are taken out very smoothly, so I don't think you need to talk to the ob-gyn about it and open that can of worms.