Trying to conceive after losing a baby

[jac5513]

Hello, I miscarriaged the beginnig of March 2007 I was 7 weeks pg.  Ever since then my periods have been so irregular, I got my period on April 7, May 18th, June 18th , July 23rd and August 20th.  We have been trying since June and we still aren't pregnant? Could it still be that my body is not ready due to my cycles are still not normal?   I am worring that it may never happen.  If someone can help me & give me some hope I could really use it.
Thanks! ~~~*babydust*~~~

[Maskee 32]

I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. The doc saw me at 12 weeks. The pelvic US showed a mass (looked like the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks.) I did the D&C to clean house as I call it.... I waited to try and conceive until I was back in my old cycle, but the doc said a could start as soon as she cleared me. I got pregnant again three months later and only lasted 29.5 and I had an emergency c section. My daughter was born 2lbs.11 oz.She is ok.... and me... well jipped out of a normal pregnancy.I ask myself what is wrong with me and why can every other female have a normal 40 week pregnancy, but not me?Six years passed and I am pregnant for the third time and it took seven months.I went in for my US at 7 weeks 3 days gestation.....well there is a sac there but not much else. All I could muster to say is "OK.... We've been here done that.See you next week."My husband is really trying to be hopefull, but why? I think I have all ready accepted the fact that ... well I have an empty gestational sac.... with no baby inside. I wish all you female sisters good luck, and It's like what one of my co workers said to me. Not that I am a religious fanatic lets face it this is a medical forum.... But she told me in a sense that God has his way of making things right. I figured well maybe I would have ended up with a baby with 7 heads or something. Keep trying you will get your bundle of joy. I have one healthy kid and she's really lucky to be here. I'd like to give her a sister so when my hubby and I are long dead they will have each other. Good luck and let me know how you all turn out:)

[kitan]

I had the same experience.  I went in for my first ultra sound at 9weeks along with all the happy anticipation a couple can have for this big event.  The tech wouldn't say anything.  She got hubby out of the waiting room and told us the baby stopped growing at 6weeks.  Because I live in Canada I had to wait almos 2weeks for a D&C.  Let me tell you it was the most hurtful thing we as a couple experienced.  My hubby is adopted and no children.  I have three from my previous marriage which he has accepted but this baby was as important to him as can be.  We are now hopefully 9weeks along and I am terrified.  I spend my days obsessing over every little ache and pain.  Is my hair falling out, does my back hurt overly, leg cramps-oh no its signaling a miscarriage, my morning sickness has eased today, that means the baby is dead.  OH my god, you wouldn't believe what I put my self through everyday.  The thought of spending another 7months like ths is scary for me.  I have an ultra sound on the 17th of september and as the day grows closer I am more and more upset about going in.  My doctor is over worked so she isn't really helping me in settling my fears.  The thought of losing this one is so intense it has taking over my world.  I have had alot of people tell me they experienced the same thing and they had another just fine, well that doesn't cut it for me.  How does one get over this?

[still hopefull!]

hello everyone! I am new here,  just wanted to share my story. My husband and I were TTC for 7 months Oct of 06 we finally got a positive test and were sooo happy!went to the doctor right away and found out I was 6 weeks along. We got to see the baby and heard the heart beat it was 165 we told everyone right away not thinking anythng of it. dec 16 06 I was spotting a little bit, no cramps or anything. I got a little concerned so made an appointment for that day. I got into the ultrasound room the tech looked for a while and never said anything then she went and got the doctor. He came in looked around for a while and then told us that the baby had no heartbeat. we were devastated. we scheduled to have a d&c the next day.we were a little confused we had been told that once you have heard the heart beat over 100 and seen the baby that the chances of a misscarriage were less then 10%. plus the fact that we were 2 weeks past my first trimaster.
   We waited for one normal cycle and then started TTC again it has now been almost 8 months and we stil have had no luck. Please pray for us! Thanks Still Hopeful!

[Emma23]

I had a miscarriage in November 2005, I thought I was 10 weeks but a scan showed that the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks and 4 days. As my son was only 7 months old, I was advised that maybe my body was not ready to carry another child and everything that comes with pregnancy and that is probably why I miscarried. That and apparently early miscarriages being due to an abnormality with the baby in the first place.
I am now 21 weeks pregnant with another boy, I am very paranoid about things still going wrong. I won't relax until he gets here safely!
When I got pregnant this time we weren't trying. I didnt think it was a good idea because I was so worried about another miscarriage and so I wasn't stressing out about it. It must have been the right time for us. My last period was the 11th April and we must have conceived on the 22nd April. I think its all about timing and your frame of mind.
So relax, enjoy the trying and good luck!

[sussexlady]

i my self am looking for advice i suffered 2 miscarriages the last in february 2007 i was 13 weeks my husband and i have been trying to concieve ever since with no luck my periods are always on time apart from these last 2 months when one was on the 4th july the next came on the 8th of august am awaiting the next as i am sure my dates of ovulation are not right due to this change in periods can any advise me on what to do next if i still dont concieve? PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Keith Downing, MD]

Hello,

I would continue your attempts at conception.  Sometimes it takes a bit longer to achieve success.  Also, if you feel as if your cycles have changed, you may be mis-timing ovulation.  Tracking a basal body temperature or using an ovulation kit may be helpful to better time intercourse.  

Best regards,

Dr Downing

[jac5513]

That is what we are planning on doing whatever happens, happens. And you are right when you least expect it, that is what happen my first time, only did it once and BANG we are pregnant...HA HA

Thank you for your advice, I will keep you posted on my progress.
Yes the things we do for our little ones!  ~~~**BABYDUST**~~~

[anikac]

Have you spoken to your doctors yet in reference to your concerns?? Are you charting down when you get your period? I went on to my montly cycles.com and started charting there. I was somewhat irregular as well and they give you an average on when you might start going for it or not...maybe you should try that....
I'll tell you after my miscarriage me and my husband said whatever happens...happens... and when we weren't even really trying I got pregnant so let it go...and when you least expect it you'll be pregnant!!
Then you'll be paranoid like me!! LOL...the things we do for our little ones....

[jac5513]

Could it still be that my body is not ready due to my cycles are still not normal?   I am worring that it may never happen.  If someone can help me & give me some hope I could really use it.

[jac5513]

I waited 2 cycles to start trying we have been trying since June and nothing yet but I am keeping my fingers crossed that it will happen real soon.  Try not to worry you will drive yourself crazy!  GOOD LUCK!  ~~~**BABYDUST**~~~

[anikac]

My doctor told me to go ahead and try whenever I was ready. That there really is no truth to having to wait a certain amount of time after miscarriage...

[anikac]

I had a miscarraige June13th and now am 5 weeks pregnant again...I had one normal cycle and got pregnant right after but am extremely paranoid and worried...Everything and anything sets me off and I start worrying about another miscarraige. Have any of you gone through that? It's ridiculous I'm even having dreams that I'm going to miscarry again... I am so scared that I'm going to think it into existence....

[afl7]

They say you should have three cycles before trying. I don't know about regular. I have no idea of I'm regular or not but as long as I have one once a month, I figure that is regular. I miscarried five months ago at 11 weeks. We waited the three periods and I am pregnant again. Unfortunately I went to my first US appointment yesterday and I should be 8 weeks but the US shows that I'm 5 1/2. They think I am miscarrying. I have another appointment next week and hope that they are just wrong. So maybe not getting pregnant right away is a good thing. Maybe it is giving your body time to get stronger and able to hold the next one. I waited the three periods but my body may not have been ready yet - although I am hoping that is not the case.
Good luck and if you want to increase your odds, they have those ovulation kits you can use to find out when the best times are.

[becky-idaho]

gosch, it is so strange to me how things happen.  my husband and i were going to just try that too because i am sure my periods will be very irregular now especially since they are only regular with the help of b.c.  but, i guess it's kinda out of our control which is hard to cope with and understand sometimes.  well best of luck and i know this is hard but try to find a new hobby or something you have always wanted to do and have that as your focus for awhile.  everyone has told me that doing this helps.  easier said than done i know.

[jac5513]

You are not being personal, I miscarried in March and we didn't start trying until June, and we have been using the every other day method as often as we can.  But I think that we are putting alot of pressure on the both of us so we are going to go with the flow this month and see what happens.  When I found out I was pregnant in Feb 07 we only did it once...HA HA, and that is all it took. So you really never know what it takes! I will keep you in my prayers and I send you lots of ~~~**BABY DUST**~~~ Good Luck! It will happen it just takes time!

[becky-idaho]

not to be personal, but how often are you trying?  i just went throught a m/c one week ago.  as everyone is, i was devastated especially because i was overwhelmed with excitement of becoming a first time mommy.  but i am nervous that it will take me a long time to get pregnant.  my husband is wanting to try in two months.  so i just thought i would see if the dr. might have told you to try anything since you are so irregular that might help you get pregnant.  all my friends tell me to just try everyday.  but i have heard you are supposed to do it every other day to give the sperm a chance to mature.  

[jac5513]

Thank you, I know I need to relax, and I will try not to stress. It will happen soon I know it will. And I pray to god everyday to give me the strenght and to guide me in whatever he has in store for me.  Thank you for you kind words.

[augargus]

Just relax, it will happen!  Don't let yourself get stressed b/c that could have alot to do with an irregular cycle.  Just keep trying and trust in God!