Uugghhh!!!! I'm gonna flip out!!!!!!

[DelainaN]

Correct me if I'm wrong. My husband was married and has a child from that previous marriage. Crazy ex wife has spent the last year and a half trying to ruin our relationship, she has done nothing but keep the child from the family ( unless she's getting child support) and before I came along she used to make him have sex with her to be able to see his kid. Well now that she can't do that with him she's manipulating his mom and she lives an hour away from us. She told my husbands mom she was going to be in town and asked if she wanted her grand child for a few hours, so obviously his mom says yes because she never let's them see her, well after being in town all day on her way out of town she decides to go to his parents house and the only way they could spend time with the child is if she was there, so she hung out with his mom for 2 hrs trying to act like she belongs there!!!!! She is clearly not apart of the family anymore she has no right, there need to be boundaries that are enforced, she does whatever she can to keep her foot in the door and them allowing it to happen makes me feel I shouldn't even be apart of the family anymore.. Am I wrong?

[jen_ortiz]

That ***** sounds psycho I'm just sayin it seems like a lot of baby mama drama smh ........... Still I don't see a reason for her to be hanging out at ur mil house I don't think ur wrong

[DelainaN]

There will be blood before that happens lol, it was so funny she was yelling at my husband for not inviting her into our house and letting her look around, I told her she's lucky she's allowed on my doorstep, my house is the only thing I have that isn't tainted by her and that she's not welcome in our home and I have a gun if she would like to test me

[ashtom]

Def agree that u r not wrong. She should hace dropped off the child and let them visit and then go back to pick the child up. It's like she did it on purpose to prove something or throw it in ur face. Some B's r flipping crazy! And she is not part of the family. Only the child. What next....Easter dinner with his parents. I dnt think so!

[DelainaN]

What!!!!!!!! That girl is insane!!!!!! Why would you put your child in a position like that! Devil woman came to pick his daughter up one day and she didn't wanna leave so she threw a fit after they left she slapped her in the mouth and called 5 min later saying her daughters lip was bleeding and that our dog bit her, her lip would have been bleeding before she left us and she gave 3 ppl a kiss goodbye before so someone would have noticed, I think the courts should be obligated to investigate and choose the better home that's like the only way I feel like

[kategram88]

Its crazy I tell u!! Were I live the moms can take u back to court countless times this will be the 2nd time were she is trying to get supervised visits. She even went as far as taking my bfs son to the emergency room and flaming child abuse for bruises. My bf is never alone with him this girl is 23 lives at home and lives off my bfs childsupport checks never worked or gone to school. She is constantly saying he's brig touch inapropriatly and that his son is saying this and that his son is 2!! I tell u some moms need to lose theirs kids they need to know false accusations are bad and can ruin peoples life's. I was reading that in most cases the.courts side with the mom when they way the child is being abuse just in case their could be a chance and its to keep the court out of trouble! Its so dumb. Ur lucky u have one lady who will work with him and u. I'm afraid my bfs son will never get to meet his little sister and I'm due any day.. wish their was some thing someone could do to stop these crazy exs! !!

[DelainaN]

Thank you !

[Lyssa0607]

The answer is no your not wrong! She isn't apart of your or your husbands family your step son is she is in no way apart of your family and its rude of her to think she can intrude on what little family time your family gets with him she could have dropped him off said I will be back at this time and went and did something else so again the answer since you asked twice is no your not wrong she needs to learn her place as an ex wife

[fLoWeRcHiLd007]

That's what everyone tells my boyfriend too. That someday when the kids are a little older they will see who has been and will be there for them. Most states tend to be a mommy state. And we have the same situation. A better household for three children compared to them sleeping on the floor of her boyfriends parents house. It's like dealing with another child when it comes to her. I will never understand it. But I might have to agree with thirdtimemom, I'm sure his parents were excited to see her and would do anything for that moment. But not intentionally doing it to hurt your feelings. I have realized in this relationship that when the kids are younger, every moment is crucial, especially when seeing them is rare.

[DelainaN]

I should have been more specific , it's not like they don't ever see her, they see her enough for her mom to keep up the drama and keep pulling stupid crap, but yes his mom dealt with her hanging out but that's where the boundaries need to be enforced, if it was necessary for her to stay the court would have ordered for supervised visits

[thirdtimemum]

I agree that the grandparents probably just wanted to see their grandchild, and unfortunately that meant the mother came along with it. They were probably just so grateful to get the chance to spend some time with the grand daughter they didn't actually care that she was there.

[DelainaN]

The messed up thing is Colorado does favor the moms, our lawyer explained that chances of us getting custody are pretty much impossible even tho we have a stable house hold ( she clearly doesn't) and with everything she has done even against the courts the child's life pretty much has to be in danger for anything to change, my dads a cop and he told us were wasting our money because the system is so twisted with stuff like this, but my husband has to try for his daughter, at least if it doesn't work when she's older she will learn and resent her mom but her mom tells her her dad doesn't love her and messed up things so she suffers either way

[fLoWeRcHiLd007]

You are describing a situation I live in daily. I can't Stand how stupid ******* get away with acting like straight up a holes. Truly the system always seems to take the mommys side. And in some situations I understand that some baby daddy's can be a POS but for those who aren't its just so not fair. I hope you get this situation straightened out and sorry about the earlier post, I thought you weren't receiving the support from your husband about the situation. I always pray one day women that are the "crazy ex" will wake up and be great like the hs sweetheart you described. For now I guess I'll keep wishing for that in not only my situation but everyone else's that is so similar!

[DelainaN]

Kategram88 oh my we live the same life but this b word is crazy, my husband also has a son who he had with his hs sweetheart in high school (different baby momma then crazy x wife) well anyways his mom is perfect she doesn't pull crazy sh*t we have shared custody and she is just awesome, well crazy x told her lawyer that the daughter and son can't be in the same room alone because she thinks his son will sexually assault his daughter! How twisted is that he's 8 and she's 5! It's his sister! And when we do have her she accuses us of not feeding her or giving her water, and when we tell her what we fed her she yells at us for not giving her veggies! It's a non stop thing, she's in her early 30s and has never lived on her own she lives with her parents and hasn't had a job in almost ten yrs. she lives off his child support and so does her pos parents, his daughter sleeps on a mattress on the floor, and we have a bed in her own room for her and her mom says we don't have the right living situation for her to spend the night

[breee08]

I hope i didn't come off rude, I really wasn't trying to. Just try not to stress about it, she isn't a threat to you

[kategram88]

You are soooo not wrong I am dealing with my bday crazy ex who is now trying to tell the courts we abuse his 2 year old son she has called dhs and the police on us who have found no signs of such a thing!! And that I put hot sauce in his mouth when I'm never even alone with him! Some women will do anything to ruin their child's fathers life just because they arnt happy and lawyer fees are out of this world I tell u. She needs to back off its the child who suffers everyone keeps telling us to just wait that my bfs son will resent his mom from keeping him away from his dad when he's old enough to understand. His daughter might feel the same way u never know.

[breee08]

Don't get to see her* thought the child was a boy

[breee08]

But if its a situation where they don't get to see him, and she lives out of town she's probably not comfortable with just dropping the kid off. Not knowing if an hour later they don't answer their phone or something. I don't think she's trying to make a move on in the family, just making sure the1st child is still just as important as this one will be

[DelainaN]

Well she's not part of the family, the child is, if she was part of the family then she would be allowed to be present during hollidays and family events. My husband is only allowed to see his kid 4 days a month for 4 hrs at a time, she uses every excuse for us not to get her during his days, we have spent thousands of dollars on a lawyer for this custody battle were even getting a cfi done. Our lawyer thought we were going to sign our rights over because that's how nasty this situation is, she gets over 2 grand a month for child support because she lied to the child support registry and said he doesn't pay so that's another legal thing we get to deal with with her, his parents drove 4 hrs to see her when she moved their kid to Denver (after the court told her she wasn't allowed to) and once they got there she didn't answer her phone do they couldn't see her. We were in Denver for 3 days and were supposed to see her but her mom **** her phone off the whole time then had the balls to turn her phone on when we were back home and ask why we didn't come see his kid, and that's just a few stories of what I have dealt with and I'm at the end of my rope with it

[fLoWeRcHiLd007]

I think that you are totally right in this situation. You don't do that kind of thing by bringing the past into the present. Obviously the mother showed up with the grand child. Great. Ask her to wait patiently in the car or something. There has to be a way for some type of visitation rights. And his family needs to learn or enforce the fact that she is no longer part of that family. The grand child will always be welcome that is not the question. However that does not entitle the mother to tag along. I would be pissed if the father of my child's ex tried to act like that. But my future in laws would let that fly either. Nor would the man I'm with.

[breee08]

I'm going to have to agree with Rick Ross on this one

[breee08]

Although I do see where your coming from. She is the mother of that child. And its something your going to have to deal with the rest of your life. Technically she is family tho. She's the mother and their the grandparents. Its not something you should be mad at them for. Its the same as if you guys didn't work out, which you WILL!! But you'd want that respect from them also, and you wouldn't just drop your kid off either.
I'm saying this because me and my husband almost got a divorce over a year ago. So I can see the other side as well.  You and that woman need to respect eachother because like it or not, the two of you are also family.
Best wishes

[vivi2013]

I get u .. And no she is not a part of the family the child is .. It sounds like she is an manipulative woman who uses her child .. There is nothing wrong with ur in law's having a "relationship" with her cuz of the child but that is it !!

[ssimms]

There should definitely be boundaries so you aren't wrong on that part but she is still a part of the family she just needs to know where she stands and stop trying to use the daughter to get what she wants.

[RockRose]

Yes,  she is a part of the family still.  She's the mother of his son,  and the mother of his parent's grandchild.  

Since you asked twice if you're wrong,  I'll answer. You're wrong.