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2025592 tn?1348156019

pregnancy frustration

ok so im 26 weeks pregnant and pretty pissed off. i know im gaining and getting bigger its suppose to happen ok fine. but my husband anf partner of 6 years..basically i saw his phone and he has been looking at a porn site...  naked women on cars. porn videos as well. my husband has never been this type of guy..hes never gone passed the maxim type stage but now as ive been getting bigger in pregnancy..not fat..just 6 mos along now..ive noticed him doing it more. im so tired of everytime something changes doesnt matter what..kind of change big or small..he treats me different and looks at me different. i know im not a hot piece of booty..because im pregnant nd he does tell me im beautiful and yes i still do it for him. but its all just words..theres no actions. and forget talking to him about it because he ***** utter butt at communication. truly does. i dont know what to do anymore. im so tempted to leave him..because im so sick of empty words and promises and this stupid nude site really has me grossed out by him.
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2025592 tn?1348156019
hey thanks....yea exactly..he doesnt stay out or do things like that far...but he used to flirt with his girl/friends send pics ask for em..etc..text cheating if u will and i packed my **** and nearly left him..id never been more serious in my life on that..and he swore to god hed messed up and didnt realize he had everything so dang perfect and messed it up..etc...he was terrified of losing me and kissed my butt nearly two months ebfore he was the same old jerk. but he didnt continue hitting up girls or crossing the line anymore with friends. but it was his idea..he approached me about wanting a baby right now..and i thought it was just stuff to keep me here..and we created her and now im 26-27 weeks pregnant and i see him more and more looking and nude women online. on top of hot rod cars. and once in awhile a video. but mainly pictures of nude girls or hot girls. and it makes me feel terrible because i did have that body type. i modeled here and there. never got anywhere professional. but i did model. and i dont at all look that way. i dont look awful i look to him and according to him. beautiful. but i mean i wonder what is going on through his head when hes looking at these women. like man there hot..or i wish i had that or whatever. its easier said than done as far as NOT thinking about it..adn im sure its not as extreme as it is in my head. im sure hes just being a guy. but ive never known him to be that way and ive known him 20 years. we grew up as friends. i know he looks at me different..and he treats me different..i honestly do feel alone throughout this entire pregnancy. he stinks at communication and stinks and being supportive. hes a very self absorbed and self centered man. all he cares about is himself. i dont want to be extreme and say ill leave him but ive been dealing with his issues ..theres another word id like to place there but cant, and im tired of dealing with it. im not going to be miserable..and i dont need him to raise a baby.
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2195822 tn?1341056911
Wow you sound like me. I found porn on his history last week. He knows I don't agree with porn and that I'm insecure. He swore he would give up porn if that's how I felt. He knows he's broken ny trust before ..over ten times and every time hrs caught is apparentmy the last time..I hate porn. We have a one year old and I'm nearly twenty weeks. Every night I go to Ned at like eleven..he won't come up.and is up til 2am doing god knows what..I know what yr going through so message me if you wanna chat.
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After my first was born and we got the ok to have sex again that same night I walked in on my husband masterbating in the shower. I was so mad but it wasn't ment to be mean, its just men. Pregnancy can either turn them on or off like a switch over night. Guys think of sex differently.
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He's a guy, they do that stuff. He doesn't mean to offend you and it doesn't mean he thinks any different about you. My fiance watches porn sometimes while I'm at work and I really don't mind because they are just nasty bimbos and he still thinks I'm the hottest chick on earth. So it doesn't bother me.
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187316 tn?1386356682
Men will be men. Id be pretty upset as well. I don't think its a reason to leave him though. Maybe try sitting down and have a serious conversation with him about it. Tell him it hurts your feelings and explain how you really feel. Odds are he doesn't even realize how its effecting you.
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