I can't get over this...

Dear Doctor,

I posted in the community forum about a despicable thing I did – cheating on my girlfriend (no intercourse, but still). It happened seven months ago and all this time I’ve lived with guilt, remorse and shame. I’m away from home, getting increasingly sad and leading a normal life has become very difficult. I’m basically surviving myself. It’s turned into an obsession that drains me. I’ve started therapy, but my therapist has no expertise in couples counselling and your opinion would be appreciated.
I have written a post for the expert forum, but realized it’s got sensitive information I would not disclose on MedHelp. It’s also quite long (2 MSWord pages). English is a foreign language to me and I don’t always summarize properly. It is, however, very clear. I’m currently doing research in humanities and that has helped me pinpoint underlying aspects about myself and the relationship. I’ve reflected a lot. At this point, however, I’m getting very, very tired.

Can you somehow be contacted by email? Your website does not work and email addresses are masked in the forum (don’t know about private messages). Thank you!

[Richard Pomerance, Ph.D]

Dear Some John Doe,

Yes, I can indeed be contacted by email. Try me at rnpomerance
followed by the usual AT sign, followed by comcast, then a dot and a net.

If this doesn't work, try reaching Medhelp directly, and likely they will patch you through to me.

It's not clear why the system didn't alert me to your post. Sorry.

Dr. P.

[SomeJohnDoe]

Dear Doctor,

Thank you for allowing me to contact you by mail. I have just sent my story on your comcast account, in an attached file.

If only I had identified my "blind spots", as you call them, earlier... I really hope that every cloud has a silver lining and that this is the experience I somehow needed as a wake-up call to reevaluate myself at the eleventh hour!

I'll wait patiently for your answer.