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I don't want to be touched...

This is something that has happened to me as long as I can remember, but I didn't think about it being a problem till last night with my current BF.  I am a 28yr old female.  I was married for 4 years, have been divorced for 3.  I have 3 beautiful kids.  As long as I can remember I have gone through temporary (I stress the word TEMPORARY) periods of time where I do not like to be touched.  Sometimes not at all, but usually it's just a soft touch that drives me up the wall.  Almost sends a shocking sensation through my body or ticklish and I have to get away from it.  
I don't really think this is sexual but I didn't know where else to try and post this!  The reason I don't think it's sexual is because it doesn't necessarily have to be someone of the opposite sex, in an intimate relationship to affect me this way.  (i.e. if my hair is touching my face at all, if I have a stray hair on my arm, if I have pants on instead of just shorts or underwear, if the kids try to hug me.)
It also seems that at these times, if I can be the one to INITIATE touch I'm ok.  I thought it had something to do with the heat.... if it's too hot I don't want anyone by me touching me, but I realized last night that it's different.  I've also thought that it had something to do with a psychological thing.  I have never been abused in any way, but with past BFs and my ex husband it seemed like I would be this way if they pissed me of in some way!
My new sweetheart was over last night and we were snuggling on the couch.  He is very affectionate, and loves to touch me, and normally I respond in a positive manner.  Last night, if he did more than just sit with constant pressure on my arm I flipped out.  Pressure was ok, but moving, or rubbing or anything sent me through the roof.  He rolled over and I "spooned" with his backside and as long as I was the one touching him, I was ok.
Ok, so LONG explanation, but I'm hoping for some answers.
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Dear Sammy,

Let me see if I understand this correctly. Ok if you're in control. The symptoms can manifest without the presence of other people. It's related to your anger at people, if they get you mad.

If this is right, my bet is that you have emotions you're not yet in touch with, that erupt in the symptom you describe. I'd guess (and it's only a guess, from what you've told me) that you've been hurt by people, and that your skin is trying to tell you something about getting them away from you.

I think the next stop to figuring out what's going on, is to check with an expert on the interface between skin and emotions. As it happens, there's such a person on Medhelp itself. That would be Dr. Ted Grossbart of Harvard Medical School, at the OCD Expert Forum. He's the best, darned near the founder of the field, author of serious books and articles in the field. I urge you to take your case to him.

It's always possible that there's a medical, neurological, or an every day basis to your compliant. Dr. Grossbart can best tell you what's worth following up, and suggest a further course.


Sincerely,

Dr. P.

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