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So confused about my sexuality hocd?

Im 16 and have been going through puberty for awhile. Anyway i never thought about being gay before about a month ago. I saw something weird online about people turning gay almost random and i am worried that this will happen to me. Its weird because i have never had a gay thought its always been girls i have had many crushes and a few girlfriends. Before thisbi never thought about being gay. I have alot of guy friends i love playing sports and stuff. I watch porn with girls i cant watch gay porn its gross to me. Im preaty sure im straight because i never thought i was gay then something made me mervous that i wpuld turn in the future. Others say stuff about denial but if i was in i wouldnt be able to fool myself about being attracted to men... I talked to my dad he said no matter what its fine. Im not attracted to men but it would be cool in the future if i had someone to hangout with have a beer and watch football with. Im not saying kiss talk anout feelings i dont like that. Also i dont talk to girls much i get nervous i havent hungout with one in forever so is that the reason i dont have a crush. It ***** im worrying myself to death about me being gay. Im not attracted to guys. Its so anoying and confusing is it like hormons.
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Hello. I can hear how confused you are feeling. It is hard to be 16; there are a lot of different feelings and changes that happen during your phase of life. From your question I hear your confusion and fear. I also hear you saying that you are not attracted to guys, which probably means in this moment, you don't identify as gay. And it sounds like there was something scary about hearing that people can randomly become gay--something about that triggered you to fear that it could happen to you too. It's true, we never know what's going to happen in the future. And as you get older you will start to get to know yourself more and more. We don't know the ways you are going to grow and change. All we do know is what is happening right now.

It sounds like you have a clear understanding of how you feel now and what your attractions are now. As for the future, no one can predict it for you. You have to wait and see what happens as you continue to grow and change. Continue to remember that you know yourself--that how you feel inside is the truth about you.
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I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that your gay because of something you read. The relationship your describing that you would like to have with a future male friend is what most males do, my other half and his mate seemed inseparable before they each had children, i laugh because i swear they were like soulmates, they'd drink, play games, shared a hobby together, go to martial arts together you name it but they were far from gay, it was a great friendship and that is something valuable to have it doesn't mean your gay. you said you get nervous around girls and that is NORMAL too.  What you describe sounds like mixed feelings and puberty as you said. the teenage years are one of the hardest and most confusing, your still figuring out who you are, don't beat yourself up about anything. you are who you are today and who knows tomorrow but be accepting of yourself, be confident in your decisions that you make-its your life, do what makes you happy and everything will turn out well for you. Just go with the flow :)
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I agree with b-girl2000 that the Teenage Years are a time when You are figuring out Who You are and what You're going to do and be in Your life.  This is a very important time for very important reasons as You are on the verge of being a Responsible Adult.  Many overwhelming thoughts and ideas occur to You but I think one knows by the time They are 16 what Their sexual preference is.  So relax and enjoy these teenage years - they will be over in a short time and then You will be an Adult for the whole rest of Your life.
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I agree of course with all of the posts. If you look at the statistics, 1-4% of gay people in the populations of most cities, then the odds of you being gay is very slim, that's not to say that there's anything wrong with being gay, just that the odds are against it.  It's like worrying whether you might get lung cancer without being a smoker.....I know how hard it is to be a teenager, just get an additional hobby and keep busy and integrated.  Please know that most of us have had the question cross their minds, you're not different because your talking about the odds.......

http://www.domesticpartnershipflorida.com/gay-facts-statistics-2011/
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like having a cough, and knowing it could be cancer, but really, you've just got a cold.........I'm meant NO different than those that have had it cross their minds, not that being gay is different...
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