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please help hocd desperadly
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please help hocd desperadly
by nik2009, Aug 30, 2009 03:09PM
Hi for the past few month i have been experiencing HOCD as in fear of bein gay it not me inside it something stopping me from getting close to a female i have been hurt badly in my last relationship when i go outside a dont find men attractive at all but i do get aroused porn but i have stoped watching porn and i keep reading stuff bout sexual orientation online i have had 9 relationships with all women and now i dnt get aroused by men or women i have high depression and i take fluoxatine tablets i have attempted suicide once! i do see a girl in me life bu tthis is taking over my daily life! i have been straight 24 year not one thought bout bein with a man i love girls i find that i can get close to only females not males but it hard at this moment of time and i feel depressed even more bout it please help! when i masturbate i masturbate over nothing i feel dirty wen i do it as well !!!
Doctor's Answer
by Richard Pomerance, Ph.D, Sep 01, 2009 10:31AM
, Sep 01, 2009 10:31AM
Dear Nik,
I think this isn't the forum for you. You may want to try the depression forum here on Medhelp.
I understand that you're having a lot of depression and confusion. I hope you are getting professional help with it, including someone to talk with on a regular basis, and regular review of your medication, both in terms of kind and effectiveness. It often happens that depression (and a history of getting hurt) gets in the way of relationships, how well they go, our desire for them, and transient feelings of sexual orientation. If you haven't been gay, most likely you aren't.
Also, there's nothing wrong with masturbation, as long as it's not excessive. It can relieve tension. No need to feel dirty.
I hope you take your emotional situation seriously and work with professionals to master it. Don't forget family and friends, too! I wish you well.
Sincerely,
Dr.P.
I think this isn't the forum for you. You may want to try the depression forum here on Medhelp.
I understand that you're having a lot of depression and confusion. I hope you are getting professional help with it, including someone to talk with on a regular basis, and regular review of your medication, both in terms of kind and effectiveness. It often happens that depression (and a history of getting hurt) gets in the way of relationships, how well they go, our desire for them, and transient feelings of sexual orientation. If you haven't been gay, most likely you aren't.
Also, there's nothing wrong with masturbation, as long as it's not excessive. It can relieve tension. No need to feel dirty.
I hope you take your emotional situation seriously and work with professionals to master it. Don't forget family and friends, too! I wish you well.
Sincerely,
Dr.P.
