Just from the details you've given, I think you also may be overreacting a tad bit. I think you had your back up already after the money conversation, then when she called about the biting, you were annoyed, and you read way more in it than you had to.
Different directors will have different notification protocols, some are more communicative than others. That could be the case. Also, it really isn't a stretch for her to ask if there's something going on at home, if your child doesn't normally bite others....that would be out of character, so it's a reasonable question. I think the problem is, you just took it wrong. Asking is there a problem at home doesn't automatically mean your parenting is being questioned. There could be all kinds of issues at home that would cause a child to behave differently than usual.
My advice to you is to wipe the slate clean (in your mind), and go in, sit down with the new director, and give her a chance. Write down any questions or comments you have ahead of time so you can address everything with her. Give her time to get adjusted, which may involve everyone adjusting to new protocols and rules. I'd MUCH rather a child care provider call me with anything concerning, than NOT notifying me until later. Always better to OVER communicate than not communicate enough, IMO.
You can always communicate to her that certain circumstances don't necessitate a call to you (unless it's urgent and requires you to pick your child up ASAP). You can tell her that incidents can be communicated to you at pick up time, or in writing/e-mail/text. You could even suggest (if she hasn't) that there be a suggestion box, or that she distribute a preference sheet to all parents, so that she gets an idea of what everyone prefers.
Try not to get defensive or think she's making assumptions about money, or your parenting. I don't know how big the day care center is, but she's got a big job to do, introducing herself to all of the parents and staff, and trying to get a good system in place, while trying to maintain the current one. There will definitely be an adjustment period. She's got to handle the financial aspect, as well as overseeing the operation of the whole center. There may be a few hiccups along the way (like with the billing) until she gets settled in. That stuff is nothing to take personally.
Just take a deep breath, and ask to talk to her in person.....and give her a chance. Try not to have a preconceived notion of her or how she's directing based on these few things, because honestly, from a 3rd party perspective, I don't see ANY reason for concern OR for an angry reaction.
Good luck...hope after you get to know her a bit better, you feel more comfortable with her.
Just talk to your baby when you pick them up and if necessary request to have a little meeting with other parent and child.
Thanks ladies ans I also askes what occurred for my baby to bite and she said she's not exactly sure.. I was like okay well ill talk to you at pick up
I know biting is not okay but what am I suppose to do. It what children do. My baby wasn't the first and wont be the last to have a biting incident. I offered to come get my baby she said no no its fine so why did she even call....she could have waited until pick up to talk to me.
I don't think ur overreacting. ..But then again I am the poster mom for the"don't question my mothering skills squad" lol. When u pick up ur babies u should go speak with her about the money issue AND the comment she made as well as when to and not to call
I work in the childcare sector..
And if a child bites another child the childs behaviour is dealt with in relation to the policy and procedure of the individual center.
And parent is informed when they come to collect the child.
NO NEED TO PHONE PARENT
however if a child is bitten and the skin breaks parents are called to see do they want to pick them up etc...
Children bite... simple.
And each behaviour stems from an emotional response to a stimulus so my question would be WHAT HAPPENED IN THE DAYCARE ROOM THAT MADE YOUR CHILD FEEL VUNERABLE OR FUSTRATED ENOUGH TO BITE?
This is not your fault or your child's fault.
Personally I wouldn't punish him but explain it hutts and ask him why he bit
wish you luck xx
You may want to find another daycare especially if they are not keeping up with payments. As far as the biting incident, I would have went to the daycare and spoken with my child and the instructor, because biting is not okay. My child would be made to apologize.
If you didn't need to come get him I don't see why it could not have waited. But maybe she is just super efficient or something. But asking you if there is trouble at home is completely out of line. I'd be mad too!
Ughhh it makes me so mad..my kids will be kids. ..i cant wait to pick them up so I can talk to this lady face to face...like dont question my household.
I hate how people do that! My kid acted up at school one day something her and her friends thought was a joke and the teacher calls me months after it happened with a social worker on the phone asking if there was anything they could do for me or her and actinf like something terrible had to be going on. I was like you have got to be kidding! Cps oversteps and people misjudge so quickly. My child learns this stuff at school from other kids and they want to point fingers at me!