A clearer mind

[Maya007]

I have been dating this man for a while. A month before dating him I was on my job handling blood in which I was exposed to it through a cut. Well, the test for me came out negative, we became intimate in the relationship. I felt as if I should discuss it with him because I was told for the next six months it's best to get tested. He rejected me. At this time he will not talk to me nor will he answer any of my emails. I stopped trying to contact him, but miss him so dearly. I need help on what to do, I do understand that giving a person time is the best thing. I feel sad that I have hurt him, but I thought it would be something of telling him the truth, and being aware of not only me being truthful, but being safe. Protection, and Understanding is Everything to me. He showed me happiness and happiness is a key to a womans heart.

[imanaddict]

I agree with specialmom, my initial thought was also that he was looking for a way out. If my husband worked in the medical field and he was exposed, my first thought would be to make sure he's okay. Ignoring someone because of that reason is not a good sign. Right now you need to focus on yourself and making sure you are healthy. If he isn't by your side during this time, then he doesn't deserve you! in the future, wear protective gear to prevent this from ever happening again. I wish you all the best and hope everything turns out okay.

BTW, it's good to see someone from Dallas on here!

[specialmom]

Interesting post.  I assume that you are an employee in the health field?  If you had an exposure to hazardous material/infected blood------- they do put an employee on a program of testing to make sure they are not infected with either HIV or hepatitis, correct?  I'm sure that is standard procedure.  And you explained to your  boyfriend that this was standard procedure, right?  Did he not believe you that your risk and need for further testing came about due to this work incident?  Does he feel you cheated?  Or is he just not willing to risk his own exposure?  Doesn't protected sex eliminate his risk level?  

Sadly, I think he wanted out and you gave him the reason. If you had been dating him for a while and had a work incident like this-----------  he had no reason to leave you other than he was getting ready to anyway.  I'm sorry for that.  I'm sure this hurts badly and makes you sad.  I don't think you could have prevented this and he'd have found another reason to leave.  This is just a guess---------  but I'm pretty accurate with my guesses.

I think if he has not returned/responded to emails, texts and calls--------  you need to try to accept this for what it is.  He's broken up with you.  You still need to continue your testing schedule and there is nothing you can do to change what has happened.  So try to treat this like a break up and move on.

Call some friends to help you distract yourself.  Call your family.  Stay busy.  Incorporate some physical activity into every day------- it helps stabilize mood and is good for us overall.  Start a journal where you can record your thoughts and feelings.  

You couldn't have prevented this.  Things happen in life and while it stinks you were exposed--------  you couldn't change that or can't now anyway.  You told him about what happened as one expects to be able to talk about things in a relationship.  So----- don't beat yourself up as you could not have changed this.  His reaction is over the top------ and that is why I think it would have happened any way.  If he comes back to you down the road--------- question whether he is the right man for you.  Sticking with us through hard times is an important trait in a long term partner.  Good luck

[Flavoured]

Did he use protection? If he did, and he wasnt exposed in anyway, then you really dont want him because, life and relationships require a lot more than sex and good times. There are times (like this) where you'll need each other, to be there and string for each other, and my dear, this aint it.You'll be better off without him.

  But if he didn't use protection, then I'll be honest with you, he would feel like you have endangered his life because you knew of the exposure you had to the blood, and he didn't, and you had the responsibility of holding out until you were sure you were in the clear, or telling him the risk involved before allowing yourselves to become intimate, at least it would have been a decision you both agreed to. Or even if you couldn't tell him, insisting that he wore a condom.

I really hope that he wore protection, because even then, it would have been nice to know what one is getting into. I'll advice that you leave him be, give him time, and when you check again in a few months time, keep giving him an update, even if he's not picking your calls or talking to you. He should know.
All the best :) xx