A mothers confession

[Holespoles95]

My mum told me she prefers her husband over me. She's dragged me around my whole life and once I turned 18 I stopped it. I spoke my mind and all it's done is ruin our relationship. He's not my dad. Why am I not good enough for her?

[Londres70]

"I spoke my mind and all it's done is ruin our relationship."..........What exactly did you say to her?

Have you and your mother had ongoing problems or problems in the past?

What's the issue or issues with this stepdad you are having?

[specialmom]

Sorry she is a jerk.  You have to go on with your life and create your own 'family' of friends and eventually a partner.  

I do recommend studying or going to school so you don't have to work 2 jobs but can have one high paying one.  Get yourself on  a good path for financial stability.

good luck

[Holespoles95]

I'm 19, I don't study, I have two jobs and I have my own home. I pay my bills, cook my own food, I don't rely on her for anything. I just want her to want to spend time with me. She didn't even want to see me at Christmas. Her husband has stopped her from letting me see my little sister which kills me because I love her so much

[specialmom]

Ugh,  how old are you now??  The teen years can be very tumultuous between mother and daughter.  My adored mom told me one time when I was 19 that she was sick of being my mom!!  Honey, she was sick of it that moment because I was not being the easiest kid.  As all kids in their teens can be difficult from time to time.  When you are in your teens, that is hard to see.  But it is a very common dynamic.  Try not to let this ruin things.  Try to be respectful to your mother.

If you are 18, it is time to begin an adult life.  Are you in college or trade school?  If not, you need to be.  This is how you will begin an adult life of your own in which if your mom is rude to you, you can say "see ya next time" and go back to your own home.  

and if I am missing some of the story and your mom is generally emotionally abusive, then that is further reason to get out of the house and start your life as an adult.

Hopefully all can heal.  good luck