Advice much needed

[mommy92004]

I have been married for 5 years and with my husband for 7 years before we got married, so I felt that I could really trust him. He only had 1 indesregession in our entire 12 together. About a year ago, this woman started texting him nearly everyday 5-10 times a day. I started to check his cell bill because it shows all calls in or out going. At that point I reliezed that he was talking to her multtiple times a day. He even called her on Valentines day 2009. When I questioned him on it, he admitted that this woman had asked hhim to have sex with her. He told me that he turned her down. At that point, he told me that hhe would stop talking to her and would break all communication with her. I started to notice that he had added her to his facebook friends list. I figured at least I could monitor what was happening. Anyway, today my husband, and his sister, and his mother went to her house and spent almost 5 hours there. His family know what I have gone through to trust my husband again. Im just beside myself on this. He told me that he was going to see his daughter.... and I find out that he and his family went to see her. AND are planning another "get together". Am I just over reacting?

[teko]

Better yet, why should you leave your home, pack em out and move em in with his secret pal. Then drain the bank account.

[teko]

And you are still there why? I agree this would not last 2 seconds for me either. By the way on your way out, drain the bank account, you will need a place to live, he can get a loan from her.

[mommy92004]

Thank you for your response. Let me tell you, his mother is strange all together. At least I know that Im not out of line for thinking things aren't right.

[specialmom]

I'd put up with that for about 2 seconds . . . okay, not even that long.  Those texts are inappropriate.
How is the rest of your marriage?  Something is wrong here.  The involvement of his family is very strange.  Whether they like you or not, usually mom doesn't come along to hang with the other woman.  
I think your marriage is in serious trouble.  I'm dead serious.  I'd suggest marriage counseling right away to save it.  That is just my gut feeling and my guts and brain are tired tonight.  But that is what comes to mind.  Please go to counseling right away if you would like to save this relationship.  good luck

[mommy92004]

I don't know exactly. yes we r married and is secertly talking to her and went to see her. His family really don't like me at all. I am told not to worry and that him and his family have known her since my husband was about 15, however I do not understand why he is being so secertive if I have nothing to worry aboout. Some of her texted messages were very inappropriate... I think anyway. Example: Hey honey, I guess you r in the shower, or hey honey, did u think about me today. And why did he feel like he had to lie to me about having her on facebook and going to see her. I understand if they were friends and if he were being honest with me. He was talking to her on a different site until I messaged her and told her to leave my husband alone. And no this woman is not the mother of any of his kids. I don't know what to think.

[specialmom]

Well, who the heck is she?  I don't know if I understand what you are talking about.  He's married to you and secretly talking to her and his family goes with him to spend the day with her?  I don't get it.  Who is she?