Advice needed

[jkjess08]

Hello, i need serious advice. my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year and a half. im about to be 19 and he is 18. we started college todgether in the fall and everything was going fine. We went to separate high schools but we dont live very far from eachother. we spend almost everyday together when he gets off work and when im not working. He works with his dad on their farm and i work with my dad on our farm and i also work as a cna in a nursing home. I always drive over to his house because i drive a car that has better gas mileage as opposed to his diesel dually that drinks fuel. We have a great sex life and i am on birth control and we do use condoms. My car started making a wierd sound when i backed up and my parents parked it yesterday untill it gets fixed. I asked to borrow my moms explorer untill i get my car back so that i could go see my bf and go to work for a couple of hours today. My parents refused so now i have to sit at home until tomorrow when i take it to get fixed. I told my bf this and he flipped out. Its not like im grounded or anything, he is allowed to come and get me. But when i told him that he said that he didnt have time and started to cuss at me and was just really upset. I dont know what to do...
i need advice baddd

[jkjess08]

thanks for your comments...yea...i stopped texting him back and he called a couple times and i didn't answer...then he waited till he was calm and realized he was wrong...he texted me that he wanted to talk and that hed be at my house in a few minutes...he apologized and everything...and i told him that i was still mad at him for treating me like he did and that he couldnt treat me like that...and now my car is fixed and we plan on going out bowling with friends to celebrate the end of out exams...ill keep you posted on what happens

[RockRose]

I think you need to ditch this loser.

He is unwilling to drive a couple miles to pick you up for sex - he wants you to come to HIM,  on your nickel,  and give him sex.

And because he's asked the tiny amount of commitment to drive a few miles to come collect you so he can have sex with you,  he's enraged and cursing.

Am I understanding this right?

[babypooh]

I agree with Fuzzz.  You need to stay strong and stand your ground when you know that you were not wrong.  If you let him get away with these little ridiculous arguments, it will only get worse as time goes by.  He will learn that he can control you and make you feel guilty when he knows that you're not.  Don't let it happen.  Do what Fuzzz said; I totally agreed.  She took the words right out of my keyboard.  Good luck.

[Fuzzz]

From what you have written, he is acting very immature.  He will not admire you if you allow him to treat you this way.  It would be best if you could stay calm and let him know you are sorry if he is disappointed, but there is no need to take it out on you.  And then resist calling him and trying to fix this.  It's not your fault, and he's being immature.  If you want his respect, I promise you that you will have to control any instinct you may have to coddle him and beg for forgiveness.  You must stand up for yourself, and in this case, that means waiting for him to realize he's wrong and apologize.  Let him make the next move, and it needs to be where he reaches out to you with a gentle attitude and/or admits he overreacted.  He cussed at you for not being able to drive to his house one time because of car trouble.  Ridiculous.  

That's my advice.