Advice.....Please!!

Question

Im Pregnant And My Mom Doesn't Like My Boyfriend/ Father Of My Child Im Under Alot Of Stress And I Don't Want This To Harm My Baby But I Need Them To Get Along. WHAT DO I DO? SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW IM PREGNANT YET!

aali4 · Answer

Your mom is just trying to protect you. You are HER baby..  but @Charrua33: Teens aren't the only ones that get left. Marriage is not the answer to everything. She doesn't have to give her baby up because she's not married. Her relationship with him is NOT your business, how rude!

MomnaBree97 · Answer

I agree that's rude and disrespectful! I'm 17 and I'm going on my second child and guess what both my kids are from the same dad and hes only a year older than me. Just because we're younger doesn't mean we don't know how to take care of our children my boyfriend is responsible and very mature as a dad. We've been together for 2 and a half years and we've been completely faithful to each other so don't assume things just because she's 18 not all teenage fathers just up and leave and even if he does what makes you think she can't do it alone. It pisses me off when people just assume things about young parents especially when some of them are even better parents than those of you who are "adults"


Sweety you honestly never know what she's gonna say because my mom and boyfriend hardly get along but she acts appointment nice and still helps us when we need it because it's her grandchild and she sees thatiI love him and he loves me. She's your mom and if she's a rational one she'll try to be civil at least because even I understand why she doesn't like him

breeyvonne · Answer

Why do you people think that 18 is SOOOOO young and asking if she's considering adoption???? That's rude..... I'm 20 should I give mine up for adoption too?

Charrua33 · Answer

You are so young. Are you planning in getting married? If not, have you considered giving your baby for adoption? Boyfriends usually leave you hanging, specially teens. Is he a responsible man or just a boy you had sex with? Having a baby is a huge responsibility. Are you both ready for it?

gypsemommyX4 · Answer

Tell her hopefully shell get over it when I told my mom I was pregnant with my first she hated the guy so much she moved me out of state to live with relatives I'm sure your mom will take it better

miracle_mommy2014 · Answer

tell her your pregnant. &&she is gonna have to get over not liking your bf/bd because wether she likes it or not hes gonna be around for 18+ years. i understand she wants whats best for you.....but your a grown woman and you can make your own decisions. she will either support you or she wont.

chicanomom08 · Answer

People of all ages get cheated on. Not just young girls. I was married to my first childs father for 4 years before we had our child and he cheated on me after I gave birth. I do however agree that your mother has the right to not like him....put yourself in her shoes...would you like a man or women who cheated on your child. Hopefully when you tell her that you are pregnant she will at least try to be civil for the sake of her grandchild. I wish you all of the luck.

victoriamichelle1010 · Answer

My dad hates my bf but he knows im pregnant so he supoorts my decision of keeping / raising this baby. She will either get overit or not. But why stress about something that hasnt happened yet. Just tell her and see what happens from there. Good luck.

chezel · Answer

Trust me, sooner or later she will accept the baby and the baby's father..

chezel · Answer

I know how you feel, because that's my exact situation before. My mom doesn't like my boyfriend ever since.. by the way, I am 21 years old... my boyfriend and I lived together for 3 years. My God! My mom really hates him!!! Maybe because of the Age gap! Anyway.. So, when I got pregnant..I decided not to told her because I am so scared of her, I am scared of what or how will she react if she found out my situation. But.. when I reached 20 weeks and my baby bump was already obvious and I cannot hide it anymore, I decided to told them my situation, and I am really happy when they told me that they understand my situation, and they will always be by my side no matter what. Thank God! The trials are finally over!

Destanee9316 · Answer

My mom doesnt like my baby's father what so ever! He cheated on me too! I only have a matter of days left before I have the baby & I feel overwhelmed & emotional so much because we won't be going home together when the baby is born :/ my whole family hates him for what he did & I'm not sure how everyone is going to react at the hospital! I feel so conflicted

3rdNdone · Answer

She is a mother, he hurt you, she has good reason not to like him. She doesn't have to like him, as long as she loves you that's really all that matters. She may not like the choice you made for the father of your child, but as long as she loves the life growing inside you what more can you ask for.

vikki170385 · Answer

Wow your young and shouldn't be getting cheated on weather your pregnant or not. So your mum is probably in the right. We Kno what's best for our daughterets/sons. Not really going to be reliable if he's cheated already. Should have waited to have a baby when your older settled and not being cheated on. Hope it all works out for you though. But if this was my daughter I'd be the same as your mum..

NRBBMB · Answer

Im 18 And She Doesn't Like Him Because He Cheated On Me.

jennzington · Answer

Honestly this is your life and your new family now. It may hurt but you're not always going to have the support of everyone, including your family. While it would be nice to have your mom approve of your boyfriend now may not be the time. You should focus on your new family and not being stressed out. Life has it's twists and turns and when she's ready your mom might just come around. Until then unfortunately you can't make people do what you want them to do so just focus on controlling the things you can. Good luck!

breeyvonne · Answer

So asking someone their age is considered rude now days? Lol 
Just like she said find hobbies or random things that take your mind off things, stress isn't really what you need right now. If you love your boyfriend then she should consider that. Is there a particular reason she doesn't like him ? :/

zeuss1114 · Answer

Nobody has to be hella rude on here, regardless of age. I am 27 weeks pregnant and 20 years old and I stress a whole lot but with faith in God we've made it this far along. I also advise if you stress a lot just do a bunch of things to take the stress off like a hot bath, a nature walk, vent to a close friend, make your favorite drink etc. 
Your mom needs to accept who makes you happy and your new family. 
Tell your mom you're expecting when your heart tells you to.

RaeeLeen04 · Answer

Why Doesn't She Like Him ?

breeyvonne · Answer

How old are you like 14? If she's a real mother she's going to have to like him because she's will know better to stress you out because you could lose the baby . How far along are you ?

Kiraajayynee · Answer

I'm in the exact same situation though I am 21 and I moved out of home with him. She doesn't talk to me till this day and I am pregnant. She has no idea I am!