Am I being unreasonable?

[jb8176]

OK. My boyfriend and I are having a disagreement, and we would like to get some outside perspective on it---
He just recently purchased a new MP3 player, and is in the process of filling it with things ie. pics, movies, music etc... The other night when he was downloading some movies, I saw that the wallpaper is a pic of a girl from a porn site. So I asked him about it, and he said that yes, he has pics of naked and barely dressed girls saved in the player. This made me want to move out. I don't mind when he looks at porn (he even gets Playboy and Penthouse delivered to the house and I don't mind), however, to me it crosses a line when his purpose in looking at porn is to find pics of girls that he likes and saves them. Casual browsing is one thing to me, but saving them is a whole other. To me, it is like walking around with pics of girls in your wallet.
Now, he thinks that we should compromise, and he will take out any pics where the girls are completely nude, but keep bikini pics. This still does not sit right with me though. It isn't the fact that they are nude, it is the fact that he is going and looking for pics of girls that he likes and saving them!
So...am I overreacting? Am I being unreasonable? Or is he right? Please, let us know what you think.
Thank you.

[treazzure007]

hmm. while any man coming across the playboy channel will most likely stop...stare...and take it all in for a while, i feel like you not raising hell about him getting personal porn orders in the mail is what let to this.  he's not being insensitive at all by this point b/c he took it step by step right under your nose to get here.  he's got his porn at home, why not carry it around all day too?  

[babypooh]

That's a good point as well, RR.

[RockRose]

This guy is a porn addict.  Either you are okay with that,  or move out.  Making some kind of odd distinction between which medias he can view porn isn't really productive.  You approve or you disapprove - he's really into porn with two magazine subscriptions,  viewing online and downloading.  I don't understand making such a fine distinction between which medias he can use.

[imanaddict]

I agree that it is disrespectful. Instead of fighting about this, why don't you two take some "fun" pics and let him put those in his MP3 player instead. Then those other girls won't be needed! LOL!

[babypooh]

I find it disrespectful that he looks at those magazines too, honey. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. The fact that it matters to you should matter to him. Good luck. Talk to him about it. It's really up to you if you want to walk out, but it wouldn't be unreasonable.

[teko]

Either he is in  COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP OR NOT. IT IS SIMPLY DISRESPECTFUL FOR HIM TO DO THAT AND A MATURE GUY KNOWS THAT. ON THE OTHER HAND, IF THIS IS WHAT HE LIKES AND FEELS YOUR FEELINGS ARE UNFAIR THENYOUR ONLY CHOICE IS TO ACCEPT IT OR MOVE ON. YOU SIMPLY CANNOT CONTROL THE WAY HE THINKS AND IF YOU ARE NOT COMPATIBLE, BETTER TO FIND OUT NOW.


SORRY, IAM NOT YELLING, KEY STUCK