Anal Sex, Women's view

[SeriousSam]

I see all these posts about anal sex and have to wonder, do any women actually enjoy it or is it just something that is done when both partners feel like throwing a bit of freaky into their sex life for a change?

[specialmom]

This post is from 2008.  

[RadioMo]

You're a reasonable and liberated person.

[sweetpea03]

Your anus is an EXIT ONLY area, not meant to have things put up it. It's NOT healthy and you harm your body when you engage in such an act. I would never consider trying it, since I'd like to keep that area with the least amount of damage possible. I don't understand why anyone would try it other than to act more like the porn industry and making it seem "cool". Plus there is no way to do it cleanly, there is always fecal matter in your canal. We discussed this a little in class with our professor and I can never be ok with the act.

[bugg711]

I did it a few times (several while under the influence) and it was the boy who initiated it so I just went with the flow and unfortunately a lotttt of people found out about it and now I am criticized and made fun of for it even though it happened several years ago.
Just because there are people out there that are not comfortable with themselves and their sexuality does not mean you should criticize someone else for being comfortable with it.
But it's high school.. what do you expect.

[hldeskin]

If you are one of the more exotic couples and want to try anal sex I highly recommend 'Anal Eze' which is a numbing cream designed for anal sex.  It can also be called 'booty-eze'.  I bought it at a sex toy party.  My fiance and I enjoy anal sex every once in a while.  Maybe it is all in my head, maybe it is just because it is 'taboo' but I think that it feels good.  Now, you have to work up to it... start with a finger, then several fingers, and so on.  Lots of lube.  But it can be enjoyable for both people.  And if it is something you like, or would like to try, don't be ashamed of it!  Maybe you'll like it... and all the people that judge you are missing out.

[Talz]

I dont know.. Ive tried the whole bum bum fun fun.. but he could bearly get it in... I swear my butt is shut... we tired everything, lube relaxing.. and finally when he did get it in... I really didnt like the feeling at all... as discusting as this may sound, but EVERY time he would pull out, I felt like I had to poop... haha... this has happened everytime..  so since I was in pain. and felt like I had to poop, I decided that I'm not going to do that anymore.. and thats the end of that story... :)

[Crystlas]

I am in great shape in both orfices too!  So it is no big deal to throw some kinky anal sex in the mix now and then.  I think more women enjoy it, than admitted, in my opinion.  It feels so good.  I think that it is something people might think someone would judge them for admitting they do.  Besides, a lot of men love it too and are afraid to admit it outside of their relationship for fear of looking gay, but if they are with a woman how is that gay?  

[sugarpea013]

And to all the comments about the loose *** and crappin your pants....I think that's a wee bit farfetched. Maybe for homosexuals, but very unlikely for couples who throw it in the mix every now and then.

I'm happy to report both my orfices are in tip top shape and fully functioning. lol

[sugarpea013]

Amen sista! lol

[Crystlas]

I agree with sugarpea.  About the same for me.  I do like how it hits different nerve endings and feels so different but really really good.  I really love the whole butt plug/ vaginal combo the best.  He thrusts me and with his pelvis thrusts the plug, amazing to have all my nerves hit at once.  Orgasms are out of this galaxy!

[sugarpea013]

I guess I like variety. ;) Maybe it's the fact that it is considered so taboo that makes it appealing. I happen to like breaking rules. I think it can feel great if you know how to go about it. As for hubby, I know he prefers the feel of it's neighbor but he also thinks it feels good for something different.

[SeriousSam]

Just out of curiosity (I have a lot of that) what do you like about it?

I am hearing a lot of "it's gross"  "it hurts" but nobody who likes it saying why.

[mommyluv2]

i kinda like it but sometimes it really hurts but for some reason when i do it anal it makes me go pee

[Crystlas]

thank you for your support on the matter!  Agreed, agreed, agreed!!!!!!!!!  :0)

[chigirl29]

I agree with Beargizmo, but I am a girl so the other way around.  I don't even like having mine touched or tickled.  Just leave it alone--it is for poop.

[crzychick]

Jumping in with my 2 cents worth.  Yeah I do it.  Current b/f soon to be fiance (ring on layaway, ha ha)    It's not "pounding" away or I'd kill him!  It has to be done with gentleness.  It actually lasts longer for the simple fact of the kissing and touching to relax.  Well not going to give a play by play.  But toys, lubes, videos and all are a part of our healthy sex life.  Guess we are not a vanilla couple.

As for the comment about other mammals not doing it that way.  If I recall my Nat. Geo shows correctly  juv. male monkeys will "practice" on one another.  I'm sure if I googled I could come up with other mammals that practice that way also.

Narrowmindness is a pet peeve of mine.

[PromisedLand]

Anal sex is one of those things I've never had a desire to engage in..I'm a male
who happens to think that if that particular orifice was meant to be a point of entry,
it would not require artificial lubrication, nor would it cause pain to the recipient, it would certainly be more flexible to accept the entry of the penis (large or small), nor would one have to be concerned with might remain therein prior to
engaging in the activity.

Jim

I'm a "insert tab A into Slot B" kinda guy I suppose..

[amless326]

you really just have to be in the mood...

[jml1986]

I've never tried it, but I am not opposed to it or grossed out by it. I have said that I would try everything once, but I haven't jumped off the boat on that one yet.

[Crystlas]

Who said anything about pounding away?  Lovemaking can be nice, sensual and slow too!

[Crystlas]

I could not have said it better myself.  Thank you!  Strange, I was reading Rock Roses post thinking the same thing.  I see her lurking through the forums speaking for others and never for herself too!  Rock Rose, I am in a NORMAL Long term relationship.  Geez... I am planning my wedding for goodness sakes.  I have only done anal with two people in my entire life,,, if you read my other posts.  And both of those men I was married to or am getting ready to marry.  I think that fits the catagory of a normal long term relationship!  

[sugarpea013]

Please don't take this the wrong way...
I've seen you do this before. You tend to "speak" for the group. You said "women with normal long term relationships don't like this." You also made a blanket statement about oral sex a couple weeks ago saying that women don't like it.

Would it kill ya to speak for YOURSELF? And what, so if a couple enjoys anal sex they aren't "normal"? Come on.

[RockRose]

SeriousSam,  reading through this thread,  women with normal long term relationships don't like this.  

I'm not sure what answer you're looking for,  there are some women who  are willing to do this.  I think women who have normal perspectives on long term relationships don't welcome anal sex.

I did try it a couple times,  and I'm loving and open,  and I would break into a full body sweat and would shake doing this.  

Poop is what is supposed to come out of the anus.  It lasts,  like 10 seconds.  At most.

10 minutes of someone pounding on your anus is a horrific ordeal,  no matter how much you want to please the guy.  

Do you see any other mammals doing this?  No.  You don't see one single other mammmal doing this.  

Serious Sam, do loving enjoyable pleasurable things with your woman.  Don't ram things into her anus the wrong way.  

Best wishes.

[Crystlas]

I think if you meet that special person you want to try new things with, it is ok.  I have been a very sexual person over the years, always being careful, of course.  I never did this with anyone but my ex-husband and my now fiance.  I know I will spend the next 60+ years with this man, so I am not worried about exploring alternate sexual experiences with him.  We have a deep level of commitment and love in all avenues of our relationship.  My ex was an abusive bas*ard and It took me 7 years to find someone special enough to get married again.  With that, comes being relaxed enough to do other things sexually than I normally would in a standard dating relationship.   So, I understand exacty where you are coming from only wanting to do certain things with your ex.  Sounds like you are still in love with him to do those kinds of things!