Another family loss....

[della2224]

I posted something about losing both my parents..and on jun 18th my brother passed away. Now all i have is my other brother. We are very close, but the death of my brother came out of no where. It hasn't even been a year since my mom died and i am soo tore up about this. I find it hard to stay focused on anything, ive become very forgetfull. I know ppl grieve on thier own time but i feel like every time i start to be ok some one else dies in my family. I am 25, an in my 25 years i have had about 16 ppl die in my family. 8 in one year.. Its so hard for me to find compfort in anything these days and i find my self pulling away from ppl and shutting my self off... i just dont know what to do...

[yushmee1]

Hi. all my sympathy to u...u know from my experience i have learnt that no matter whatever happens u should never give up in life. i knw this might be very hard for u for losing your dear ones...but it had to happen so it happened. Do u believe in God? Keep faith in God!!! Everything will be ok. It's not the end of the world. Have you ever heard about meditation? it's the only way you can relax urself and forget abt the bad things that happend in ur life and i bet u'll surely find some peace of mind....well there's nothing about religion to do meditation. but my elders have always taught me to help people who are really in need. so im sharing this with u...do contact some meditation practitioner.u knw what whatever u r undergoing right now u should take it positively..whatever u r undergoing will surely make u strong..u need to get back ur confidence to live. u badly need support right now... meet up with ur friends or people who really care abt u...keep urself busy. Talk to someone elder than u...seek some advice...share whatever u have in heart. i knw this is very hard dr. stop keeping urself lonely and remove that frm ur mind too...life is beautiful..just try to change ur way at looking at it. it's only u who can control urself...so u'll have to keep up the spirit...u have a beautiful life dnt make it hell. Go out and take some fresh air...to need to relax urself...im sure u'll feel better dear. like these people above have suggested u to see a doc...or may b a psychiatric who may help u to come out of this condition.im sure u'll feel better. have lots of courage my dear. remember that many people are suffering from incurable diseases and they knw they are going to die... their only wish is if they could live one more day...so we have been gifted a life we shld not complicate it. U'll surely overcome this stress. keep faith in urself. God will help u. Take care. i hope that u recover soon. u'll surely be in my prayers :)

[cheshchesh819]

i wish you all the luck in the world.

[della2224]

Thank you! i really appreicate all your kind words. i am going to talk to some one. I hope it helps me in the way i need.

[della2224]

Thank you very much. I have made an appt. to go talk to some one. hopefully it can help. Wish me luck!

[cheshchesh819]

you need to speak to a therapist,you have been through so much and you are going through the worst thing any person could go through,what you are feeling is very normal,but please seek the help you need to help you get through this,i am deeply sorry for your losses.

[specialmom]

Oh, my deepest sympathy for the loss of your brother.  For all of your losses.  This does not sound fair at all that you've lost so many.  I lost my mother 16 years ago and it forever changed me.  I miss her terribly each and every day . . . even 16 years later.  

With all that has happened, it is expected that you are going to have some low times.  Grief is hard and can last without a time limit to it.  It is hard to tell what is grief and what is depression. From what you've written, I do worry about depression for you.  The lack of concentration, the hopelessness, the constant sorrow and wanting to isolate yourself are all part of the grieving process but also are signs of depression.  My suggestion is that you talk to your doctor.  If you haven't done therapy or are not doing it now, a great time to start. I saw a counselor that specialized in grief after my mother's death.  It was through a Christian counseling center.  Is anything like that an option for you at all?  If not, I'd suggest a psychiatrist at the moment.  Some clinics would be able to help you if you don't have insurance.  Check in your area.  But I'd want to rule out depression for you.

But this is pain.  Raw pain when you lose someone you love.  Be gentle with yourself.  Peace