Relationships Community
Answer to Question of the Month
About This Community:

This patient support community is for discussions relating to relationships, abstinence, arousal problems, birth control, cohabitation, commitment, communication, couples counseling, desire, sexual technique, and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

Font Size:
A
A
A
Background:
Blank
Blank
Blank
Blank Blank

Answer to Question of the Month

I have been married for 17 years, and have four children, one of which is still home (she is 17).  First of all, marriage is WORK.  And its not always lovey-dovey.  Over the years, David and I have learned how to almost have no arguments.  Staying sober is a must, as any drug including alcohol will almost always end badly.  A social drink or two is alright, getting drunk is not.  When we disagree, we have learned that no matter what the argument is about, we never bring up past problems, and we never get into name-calling or being violent.  This makes for disagreements that can be discussed in a mature way.  Never begin a disagreement with the word 'you', because that is an accusation and its unproductive.  Always start your sentences with 'I', such as 'I felt this way when you did that.'  Sometimes my husband gets stubborn and will refuse to have a rational discussion.  When that happens, I tell him that I will talk to him about it when he calms down, then I go do something else.  And other times, we both just have a bad day for no particular reason, or something upsetting happened that involved both of us.  Our remedy: no talking needed, find comfort in making love. :) - Blu
Post a Comment
To
Blank
Weight Tracker
Weight Tracker
Start Tracking Now
Relationships Community Resources
RSS Expert Activity
469720_tn?1388149949
Blank
Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm-treatable... Blank
Oct 04 by Lee Kirksey, MDBlank
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
The 3 Essentials to Ending Emotiona...
Sep 18 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
Control Emotional Eating with this ...
Sep 04 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
Top Relationships Answerers
1268057_tn?1418174381
Blank
Londres70
France
13167_tn?1327197724
Blank
RockRose
Austin, TX
973741_tn?1342346373
Blank
specialmom
Avatar_f_tn
Blank
TTinKKerBBell
CA
3149845_tn?1415046551
Blank
Life360
fort lauderdale, FL
580755_tn?1357673215
Blank
Vance2335
Buffalo, NY