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Are all guys the same?!

So, I met this guy and i'm only young but still, everyone has feelings for someone in their life. I'm almost 18, I met this boy at a school trip. I always thought he was a jerk before because his group is a bunch of losers, but my friend sat down the whole trip, so I skiied with him... I ended up thinking he was the most amazingest guy ever. He was so sweet, he helped me when I stacked, he gave me his track pants because I was cold, he was soooo sweet... He ended up telling me on the way home that I was so beautiful and he fell for me. So, apparently he told me he had just like, a thing with this girl before hand but he completely forgot her when he was with me and he told her he couldn't see her anymore. He'd come up to me at school and smile whenever he saw me, and hug me when the bell rang and tell me he didn't ever want to let go. He told me he wanted to be my boyfriend and call me his, all that heaps sweet stuff. We kissed at school just last Wednesday, and he was really happy about it he said he'd been waiting for ages for that. The next day at school I went and sat with the boy I used to like, and he really likes me, but everyone knew I didn't like him, and the boy from the ski trip knew also that I didn't but he got jealous and ignored me. I went to work the day after we kissed til late at night, and then he was being really rude when we were texting. I asked what was wrong, and he told me eventually that he spoke to the girl before me again and he didn't like me anymore.
So I thought to myself, such is life this stuff happens... But then he was so rude to me, completely ignored me at school, was a completely almost unrecognisable person. He didn't care that he made me cry, and he said when I said why don't you care about me anymore, that he still does but he is really confused at the moment. I spoke to the girl he liked before me, and did now, and she said that she asked him about me, but he said that nothing ever happened between us we were just friends and only talked a few times. That's what made me feel the worse. It actually really upset me, and I know .. i'm only young... but still. Looking at my friends, familys and other peoples relationship stories, it always seems to be the guy hurting the girls. I feel like i'm never going to ever find a guy who is happy with just one girl, me. I also still have feelings for this guy, the one from the ski trip not the one he is now. I know he was probably just faking it all, numerous people told me he's not worth it and I am beautiful and can find anyone, but it's stupid because i'm sooo sooo inlove with the boy from the ski trip. Everytime I see him I remember the way he smiled at me, and the way he looked at me.
So i'm just asking, how do you get over someone that you don't want to like but just do? And do you beleive that there are some legitimate guys out there, that are amazing on the inside and have some heart.
Thankyou and sorry if you felt like you wasted your time reading because it is pretty stupid... sorry..
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You haven't wasted our time but you DO make me awful glad I'm not in high school anymore.  

Leave the guy alone.  Yeah, he's confused and maybe a player.  But either way, who needs these ups and downs.  

You aren't in love, you have a crush.  That is very different.  Remember that.  And you'll have lots of crushes.  They feel so good when things are going right and so bad when they aren't.  And a lot of times they aren't based on much substance.  He paid attention to you and you seem to really like that.

I'd find a guy that pays attention to you in which there is no 'girl before you that he'll say he doesn't like anymore"  because as soon as any guy tells you that-----  that means they could do the EXACT same thing to you.  Which he did.  

Move on hon.  Maybe he'll grow up and be a great boyfriend to someone some day but this isn't the day.  good luck
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Boys at that age are extremely jeoulous, when he saw you talking to the other boy is when it all started. He sounds like a controling hot head and is only concerned about him. Another sign is all the attention he gave you, you accepted it all and when you did he was lead to believe that you like him. Be careful of what you take as nothing is for free.
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Agree with SM.

Goodness he is just a boy and this can be pretty typical for a teenage boy.

There are AMAZING men out there,  but at your age I would recommend focusing more on school and positive activities that will benefit you later on in life......boys aren't going to do that.  

Leave the serious relationships for adulthood.
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I agree with everything you said, thankyou heaps.
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That's very true, thankyou
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Well i'm glad, and yeah I don't believe in serious relationships at this age anyways but I was just pretty annoyed and had to let it out and was just curious if there WERE good guys out there.
Thankyou for your comments, x
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Oh honey, its tough I know but really, there are GREAT guys out there. In fact, that guy may one day get his crap together and be a great guy for some girl. But today, he's still a kid. So don't beat yourself up wondering "why?" when even he probably has no flippin' idea what he's doing. Acknowledge he's being an idiot, and let him go. There will be someone out there who will be your wonderful guy, one day. Just remember to appreciate the positives and lessons learned in past relationships, and work to build the current one.

On another note, whenever it seems a man is "date-hopping" or even cheating, instead of getting upset about it, I remind myself that its probably not worth it to deal with that chaos. If he doesn't want to stick around, I don't WANT him to, either.
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Very true, thankyou x
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