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338830 tn?1229999478

Are there any girls like me??

Hello. I am 18 years old and I was wondering if I am normal. lol. ME and my fiance have been together for almost 2 years and I have never been able to get off without clit stimulation. Is this normal? Is there any other women in my situation? We have resorted to buying a "bullet" vibrator, but I wish that I could enjoy an orgasm that was given to me by my fiance. Are there any really good G spot positions? Anything that I can do that would make the vibrator more fun? It is sort of like sex is getting boring, bc I am always resorting to my vibrator. Please help!! I am not that "good" at this sort of stuff. lol. Thanks. Also, men.... is there any positions that your ladies absolutely love? Please share!
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338830 tn?1229999478
Thanks ladies... I will definitely try these out and keep this in mind. It is nice to know I am not alone. This means a lot to me. Thanks again.
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Sorry, I had some errors in my spelling..LOL..Anyways, I want to also share with you what has worked for me with my last boyfriend.  We finally, after a time of experimenting, were able to find a way I can orgasm every time of sex.  Def, forplay with having your clit stimulated before will help.  Then, this is what we did and I liked.  I had a bullet that I held in the hand myself.  He was on top holding my legs up.  And while we were having sex, I would hold the bullet on my clit.  At first it was complicated.  And then, he learned to position his self a penetrating with pushing his penis toward the back that way I had room to reached my clit without me being in the way of him.  Plus, it feels really good that way.   That works really well and that way he & I felt he played a major role in me having an orgasm.  Also, you can either use your hand or he can use his thumb especially with him being on top or you can easily with you on top.  Again, I hope this helps..  Take care..
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I hear you!  I have the same problem and it's soo frustating.  I found it very comforanting to read on this matter.  A book I was reading stated 70% of women don't even orgasm.  I have a theory this is why.  They don't realize they need clitorial stimulation.  In fact, I was married for 5 years and had a few sex partners before and thought I was orgasming but, I really wasn't.  One day, I was maturbating and experienced it for the first time.  That's when I found out I needed clitiorial stimulation.  See this book, I read talks about how the genitals form when you are in the womb.  We all know in the womb we all begin looking like a female.  Then, the same nerve cells that form the male tip of the penis, forms the clitoris on the female.  In the book it say, it would be the same if a guy tried having sex without having the tip of this penis touched.  So, just now this is very normal and common.  After that, you can experience ways to stimulate that are during sex.  I hope this help...:)
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13167 tn?1327194124
I ask this question on this board,  and I never get an answer from anyone,  but I'll keep asking!  ;D

Is there some reason you can't move your hips,  or move his hips,  where you are getting stimulated every time he moves?

Your vagina and clitoris are RIGHT THERE next to each other.  Bend in a way that he's rubbing you every time he moves.

Sorry to be so graphic,  maybe women are all shaped differently and those who orgasm with missionary position sex can achieve this position and other women,  for some reason,  can't.
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Its normal! I am the same way I can come easily off of oral sex ( in a few minutes) but I takes a really long time with just vaginal sex and i need my clit stimulated to!
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338830 tn?1229999478
Thank you for the reassurance. I appreciate it.
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Maybe you could get him to stimulate your clit, i think orally is the best, first, and then try the woman on top position so that you can control the stimulation to your clit, i can usually orgasm this way, once a good rhythm is achieved. Good luck, and don;t give up, keep experimenting with new positions, and maybe try applying pressure to the shaft of his penis to help prolong and prevent his ejaculation.
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You are definitely not alone. I am 41 and I think I have experienced orgasm by a man once-that was probably luck. I have been married for 10 years Feb 14 and have not experienced orgasm with him yet without clit stimulation. It used to frustrate me cause it seemed as though he was the only one having fun-then we found the bullet ring. IT'S THE BOMB!!!!! He wears it and with him inside you the extra stimlation will allow you to orgasm. It's so beautifu!! :) He likes it too/ Just remember to buy extra batteries, cause there's nothing like getting ready to play with the toy and the thing won't work! You can also use this in the hot tub. There are so many women like us, so don't fret. Visit your local Love Shack and find things that work for you.

Good Luck!

Stephanie
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273019 tn?1195565344
You are def not alone, i have the same problem............
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177641 tn?1189755837
You're definitely not the only one! There are bullets you can get as part of a rubber-latex-jelly ring, which your partner can wear. Try it, with you on top, so that you can set the pace and even practice climaxing simultaneously with your partner. You might find that this kind of orgasm feels pretty unique compared to regular solo masturbation with a bullet. Good luck!
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Till i met my current boyfriend i had a hard time getting off vaginally. It was always done by the clit and very few times by a man. My current man introduced me to stuffing. Its where you use a toy, or multiple toys and you can also use your man. By having more than one in there, its more likely to have him be pushed up against my g spot. plus it adds the vibrating. He also does alot of outside stimulation and foreplay. My favorite positions are doggy, girl on top, and him on his knees with my legs up. (its a weird position, kind of like man on top with girls legs on his shoulders, but with him still sitting up instead of him laying on top of you. good for hard hits too =) Good luck. Just be open and tell him what feels best! After all, sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both parties involved, and if you are intimate enough to have sex, you should be able to tell him what you want in bed.

Sincerely,
Erica
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338830 tn?1229999478
Thanks... this is more comforting!! Is there anything else that helps? Any positions or anything?
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I am 32 and hardly ever experience an orgasm caused by a man....I use bullets most of the the time to get an orgasm. So, you are not alone.....
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