Asexual's does this sound familiar?

[thegame2345]

I am a 25 year old guy with no interest in dating or sex.   I'm also not a very touchy feely person, I like my own space and being alone.   I still however have a high libido and normal physical urges, It's just simply don't have an Attraction to either sex like that to have any interest in pursuing anyone or sex.  I know some people get burned and no longer have interest in dating or sex, so want to be asexual, but that's not me, never had a relationship and no interest in ever having one.   Asexuals does this sound familiar? I have heard some asexuals  still have a high libido, just not attracted to either sex?

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[thegame2345]

I do have a high sex drive just no sexual attraction to anyone.   I'm not choosing not to have sex im just not sexually attracted to anyone.  Who would I have sex with, when I'm not attracted to anyone?

[thegame2345]

I think a lot of people are getting Sexual Orentation mixed up with sex drive.  Sex drive is the biological Physical drive for sex and sexual Orentation is who you are attracted to and want to have sex with.  Asexuals can still have a Physical working sex drive, they just aren't attracted to anyone.  I'm a man so biologically I have testosterone and male parts that function and my drive is high I just have no sexual attraction to anyone.  

[specialmom]

Um, it seems to me that whenever someone does give you some type of answer, you kind of resist it.  

Actually, being asexual includes a low or no sex drive.  Otherwise, you are a sexual person who chooses not to have sex.  See definition above.

But ya know -----  if you want to call yourself asexual, that is fine.  Silly thing to go back and forth on.

And I think you are right.  I am having trouble figuring out if you are even asking a question here at all.  I do wish you luck though.  Life is a journey and figuring ourselves out can be what is hardest about it.  

[thegame2345]

I'm being REAL here it seems that people just don't really understand what I am saying or just don't want to.  

[thegame2345]

Asexuals don't all have no libido, some have a high libido.  the only thing being asexual means is that you have no attraction to either sex.  Sexual attraction and libido are two separate and completely different things.  You have them confused as the same thing.  

[nursegirl6572]

You say you're not worried about a "label", yet that's the common theme in your posts...you're looking for verification and validation.  For starters, you cannot self diagnose something like this.  If you really DO want to know what's going on, "what" you would be characterized, then a professional is the person to help you sort that out.

You are insistent that you're perfectly content with life...which if you are, that's great, then don't WORRY about a label.  I have a sneaking suspicion that perhaps you're not as content as you're trying to make us believe.  I think in the very least, it's perplexing to you that you feel the way you do...hence why you're searching for someone who can relate and say, "YES!  I'm the same way and have been labeled an *x*".  I think you're looking for SOMETHING as evidenced by your posting...you either don't want to open up and share your concerns, or you're not sure what your concerns are.

The beauty of a venue like this is that none of us know you...so if you're ever going to choose an opportunity to get REAL honest with yourself and ask for some input...now would be the time to do that...here, in a place where no one will judge you, no one knows you...and everyone will be very honest with you.

Best to you!

[specialmom]

If you have no sex drive and hence, have no sex, then you are asexual.  If you have desire but choose to not be with a human, whether male or female, you are avoiding people.  

You describe yourself as someone that avoids people and relationships.  I am only going on what you have written.  

But either way, as long as you are content, it doesn't really matter.  

[thegame2345]

I'm not avoiding anyone that makes no sense.  I'm not straight or gay so what am I than if not asexual??

[specialmom]

Here is the definition of asexual.


a·sex·u·al

[ ay sékshoo əl ]  


1.sexually inactive: without sexual desire or activity
2.without sex-linked features: lacking any apparent sex or sex organs
3.without sexual fusion: describes reproduction in which there is no fusion of male and female sex cells gametes, e.g. vegetative reproduction or budding

Synonyms: genderless, androgynous, neutral, sexless

The bottom line is if you are happy --  that is awesome.  Be who you are .  

I guess you are asking REALLY if you have no desire to be with people but still have a libido ---  are you asexual?  My personal opinion is no.  I would describe that as someone that avoids people which is different than asexual.  good luck  

[thegame2345]

Well there is a name for my type of sexuality, it's  called asexual.  Yea a loner too, like I said before an asexual loner.  I was just wondering if there were that many asexuals who still have a libido and what type of asexual that is.  

[specialmom]

I did try.  I guess I've concluded that you are happy as you are and are happy with your life.  You are just trying to understand yourself better.  You don't need a name for what you are-----  if anything, maybe a loner.  But if you are happy, that is what counts dear.  good luck

[thegame2345]

Thanks for trying to understand what I was saying, at least you tried.  

[thegame2345]

No interest in falling in love and don't need a shoulder to cry on.  I'm not wasting time being alone just an asexual loner haha.  

[Gretta96]

You are missing out on a lot.  What is the purpose of life?  Relationships.
If you want to change, you can.  It would be worth it.  To never fall in love with someone, to not laugh with friends, to not cry on a shoulder?  You are young enough, don't waste anymore time being alone.
Remember this one guys, "people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world"

[thegame2345]

Didn't say anything about a title, just said I'm asexual, because that's what I am.

[remar]

It sounds like you want a title, which was mentioned in an earlier comment. Or does it bother you that you don't want to have a sexual relationship with anyone?
I agree with the other posters, if it works for you then don't worry about it or what other people think.
If you want a "title" then a professional would have to do that.  

[thegame2345]

You were half right haha, but I am asexual.

[thegame2345]

no don't have autism either.

[specialmom]

Okay dokey.  Nothing more I can say but that you do not sound asexual at all but just that you don't like being around people.  good luck

[RockRose]

thegame,  I'm not quite sure what answers you're looking for here?  It sounds like you are making statements that you aren't sexually attracted to anyone,  but still have sexual function and physical libido.

I don't sense you're seeking anything more,  to change you,  but rather a simple discussion with others who might feel the same way?

Has anyone ever screened you for autism?

Best wishes.

[thegame2345]

I know everyone has problems and issues, but my problems are no ones business but MIne.  There is no deal, no problem here was just a question to see if any asexuals had similar experience and to try clear up my last question so it was better understood.

[thegame2345]

No don't think I have that disorder.  

[TTinKKerBBell]

Hmmmm.......
Well, I have a different take now as You continue to say more.

At first I thought You sounded like You were content not seeking to have a relationship.  Now it sounds more like You want to isolate YourSelf from Others.
(and what IS  Your "hope for humanity"??)

P.S.
Seeking therapy does not mean You have more issues or problems than anyone else.  It simply means You have the courage to address Your issues.
We ALL have "issues" - it's a human condition that we all share!!  

that being said, I still see no "problem" with You being alone with YourSelf if You are content with that and if You are causing no pain to Another, then what's the deal?